Hey there. I’m new to this site and just wanted to write for some clarity and get some outside opinions. I have a very close friend with whom I have a relationship that has a very blurred boundary of what might be a friendship with “couply” traits. We’re both mid 20′s, openly gay ladies, and we did try dating last year in what was an endless cycle of togetherness and then desperately trying to establish boundaries so that we could remain friends. It didn’t work. We ended up making a whole lot of rules such as, no talking on msn because we’d spend endless nights talking online, texting and calling even after we’d just seen each other in person. No hugging, touching because the hugs would remain long and that only led to more and more things. I tried to date another lady recently but I knew in my heart that I just wasn’t ready, and my friend became openly jealous. All of the above rules we failed miserably at keeping. Nowadays, we still have tenancies to live in each other’s pockets quite a bit, despite being quite social with our circles of friends, and having busy careers. Although we don’t work together, we’re in the same profession and at night we’ll often meet to unwind and quite often this leads to us reclining on the couch whilst I massage her or stroke her hair, and occasionally vice versa until the early hours of the morning. Not in a sensual way, not like our disastrous dating period, but in an affectionate way. Now the situation is more complicated because admittedly I am openly in love with her and she describes her romantic feelings for me as grey (not “black and white”) But we do still enjoy this element of affection, along with each other’s company, and as opposed to my romantic feelings I harbour this kind of affection is quite different. I don’t want to try take it further. I just enjoy being in her company and closeness as she does mine. However, both of us once again must be forced to admit that way we behave is confusing. Like a lost, tech savvy soul, I consulted google for similar non couple pairs that behave this way and found the coined term “romantic friendship” People think we act like a couple. We have even taken several vacations together. We’re trying to limit the amount of time we spend together, while we establish our boundaries yet again, but we have no idea what boundaries to establish. Are we way too close for our own good? Or should we just stop pondering the issue, disregard what others think and enjoy what we have? I appreciate any thoughts and opinions.

I’ve always known I was different (sexuality-wise) but I only really accepted it maybe 4 years ago. I’m 17 and I’ve been in love with one of my friends for a year and a half. I cherish our friendship so much; I have never even mentioned how I feel about her because I couldn’t stand to have our friendship get weird. When I’m with her, all I want to do is stare at her and touch her. She has never said that she is anything but straight, but I feel a deep connection with her. We make each other laugh and just having her with me makes me feel so great about myself, like there is an amazing girl who wants to be with me. She doesn’t like to give too much attention to people, but ever since we started talking two years ago, I’ve noticed she pays special attention to me. At parties she is usually sitting by me or watching me from across the room. She also isn’t much of a touchy person (neither am I) but when we are talking, she always seems to touch my shoulder or leg, even when it’s completely unnecessary. Being so self-conscious of my sexuality has kind of messed me up a bit, (I’ve never been in a relationship) so whenever she touches me I go completely frozen and I can’t form a sentence and I get all weird, then I usually try and get away from her because I’m so nervous. I’ve noticed that she really likes when I drink, she encourages me to get drunk with her, I think it’s because I am more calm, I can remember us hugging for a really long time when I was drunk with her once, (something I wouldn’t do sober). We have a lot of sleepovers, (I love waking up next to her) and I’m afraid that if I tell her, I will never get to experience that again. I have tried to get over her many times, but I can’t do it. She has been such a big part of my life and my thoughts for so long, that I feel empty without her, even though we haven’t even done anything. I keep waiting for her to make the first move so I can safely tell her how I feel without being the one to risk our friendship. The last crush I had lasted 3 years, until I met my current love. I’m afraid that if she never makes a move, I will never give up on it and last years waiting for her. My family is also holding me back from coming out. Homosexuality is becoming a lot more prominent in today’s society, and whenever my mother is exposed to it she is completely disgusted. I’ve also heard my dad say horrible things about Ellen DeGeneres, and all he knows about her is that she is a lesbian. Finally, my grandmother (lives in my basement) all of a sudden has a huge issue with one of my cousins who recently came out. She never had one bad thing to say about my cousin until now. I know my family would tell me that they support me, but I know how they really feel about it, and I don’t want to live knowing that they are disgusted with who I am. I have never told any of my friends or anyone for that matter about how I feel, it’s becoming a huge problem for me lately because I’m feeling lonely and I just want someone in my life who knows who I really am and loves me for it.

What I am asking, is: Am I imagining all this chemistry I have with my friend? What is the best thing for me to do concerning coming out to my family? Any Advice?

I know this is a lot to absorb… I have never written down what I am feeling before so I had a lot to say. I greatly appreciate anyone who takes the time to try and help me.

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I am in trouble.

I had my first relationship with a girl when I was 15. She was my first love, and I felt way too scared to let anyone know about it. We lived in a small town, and everyone was very homophobic, and you know how high school is. She dumped me for another girl but still tortured me for another two years, calling me when she was drunk, saying she missed me, she loved me, she wasn’t happy with her current girl etc.

I ended up going out with one of her male friends just for convenience and got pregnant at 17. He was abusive and controlling and kept me prisoner for 3 years until I called the police on him. However, I seem to keep thinking I am bisexual, only to go out with a man until I get pregnant, and then I don’t want the man anymore. I am no longer attracted to him, I am annoyed by everything he does, and I think about girls all the time, where before I am pregnant, I seem to want the man and love them. I love children so much, but this seems like some psychological need for children that is overriding my courage to be a lesbian and be happy. I am now pregnant with my third child in the same pattern, meet the guy, love the guy, get pregnant, find the guy grotesque and unattractive and want to date girls again. I have only had that one girlfriend all this time, but I have had some experiences with other girls (only kissing/ making out) and have loved every minute of it).

Would any girl want to date a girl with 3 children who claims they are a lesbian, or will they not believe it? I don’t know what psychologically has caused me to do this, but could it be solved by getting my tubes tied or something, so that I can’t anymore? And what about these men that I had good intentions with but apparently was just using ? Should I abort this one, and just try and be a lesbian and not want more kids? I am so torn I have no idea what to do, or why I can’t just settle and love and marry a guy…

I am now 23 years old and about to have three girls by three different fathers, none of whom I loved anymore shortly after getting pregnant. I am so attracted to women that I am sure I am a lesbian. Why has this happened? Has this happened to other lesbians? Is it simply fear of coming out, or biological need for children, or what is wrong with me? Should I abort my baby? Is it wrong to keep this one if I will not be with the father (I have tried and I just can’t, it’s like lying to him and me, and it’s damaging for me to have sex just because I feel like he is expecting it, not because I want to).

Please help me!

Hey,

I’m really confused at the moment; I would like to get someone else’s advice.

So all this started a few months ago, I started having feelings for my best friend and I tried to just shake them off but as they got worse I realised that I can’t ignore them any more and I needed to accept them. So now I know that I’m a lesbian because I’m sexually attracted to other women but I still think guys are hot, when I see a good looking guy I feel really excited and drawn to him, I sometimes go as red as a tomato but I always get way to shy for anything to happen. This is another thing that confuses me. Am I lesbian or bisexual? I have never had sex with either gender so I might just be curious about men.

Well back to the story, I have talked to my best friend about being a lesbian and turns out she’s thinks she is a lesbian as well but here’s the problem. I have never actually wanted to take this relationship any further. When I see other women I can imagine myself with them but when it comes to my best friend it just grosses me out.

She suffers from depression and when we are hanging out we both have heaps of fun but when I have been with her for too long in one day or I saw her the day before and she was in a depressive mood, I get really angry at her and need to be anywhere else as long as I’m not with her. She is very clingy; I’m always the one that has to say bye on the phone. Plus I always go to her house because if she comes to mine, she will never leave. She can spend all day every day with me but I can’t with her. We did go to Coffs harbour together for 4 days and I did enjoy that but at the end I wanted to go home and she didn’t. The weeks after that trip I made sure that I didn’t see her that much and I felt so much better having space from her.

When she isn’t with me or hasn’t talked to me for a few days she’s gets really depressed and then I feel guilty. I can’t stand it anymore, I know this makes me sound like a horrible friend but I think there’s only so much you can give a person. I have been friends with her for 2 years and she has been depressed for all of the friendship. At the start I didn’t mind at all her telling me all her problems and just listening but as a year went on the issues where still the same and I have had enough, plus the issue of being a lesbian didn’t make dealing with this any easier. She is the only person I have been able to tell everything, can I find someone else like that? I still want to be friends with her and help her through the depression; I know that if I end the friendship she will probably kill herself (she has attempted it before). I f I could get rid of those thoughts about her and pursue other women that would be awesome but I don’t think that’s possible.

So my main question is, do I keep her as my best friend and find a girlfriend or boyfriend? Or Am I just in denial about my feelings for her and I should try and have a relationship with her? I don’t know what to do; I can’t make sense of what I really want.

Thanks for reading this, I really appreciate it

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Ok this is gonna sound weird but oh well. Now I’m absolutely 100% positive that I’m not lesbian. Or bisexual. I’m completely straight. But I have a friend and she’s 22 years old and she was like my best friend ok and I’m only 13. Well Samantha is completely straight too. Now the only time I saw her was when she was at work or hanging out with me and my family.

Well I just got back from Indiana a couple weeks ago and the day after I did she came over to my house crying that her bf broke up with her. I was completely pissed because I don’t like it when some hurts someone I love (at this point I love her like she’s my sister) well a couple days later she quits her job and stops hanging out with my family and won’t answer her phone and deleted her Facebook account. So like basically she has lost all contact with the outside world. But the other day she sends me an email saying “Courtney we will see each other eventually” but I just want to scream at her that we won’t. And the reason why is because I am moving and you’re probably wondering what all this has to do with anything but I’m getting there. You see I’ve known her since she was 18 and besides my mom and my sisters and my other best friend Heather, she’s been one of the most beautiful people I know.

Well over the summer I told Samantha and heather some intimate stuff. Now I won’t go into detail but one thing was that I had thought I was in love with this guy but they made me realize I’m not, that the feelings weren’t real. Well ever since Samantha quit I’ve had this feeling. And this time I know it’s real. I’m in love with her. Now listen. I don’t want to be, I just want it to be our friendship and I don’t know what to think because I don’t have sexual feelings and I don’t want to kiss her or hold her hand I just wanna tell her I love her because this time it feels real and I’m really confused because I don’t like have feelings for any other girl or anything and I’m positive I’m 100% straight. Just could anyone help me? Like should I tell her? And if I’m in love with her does that make me lesbian? Because I don’t wanna be a lesbian. So just somebody help me please and thank you!

Hi,

I am straight, and I have a lesbian best friend. I know her for five years, and she was struggling with her sexuality until now. She wanted to date men and settle and be married. I tried helping her to be more girlie so men can be attracted to her. Don’t get me wrong I didn’t change her she wanted me to help her. She signed up on those dating web sites and went on a few dates. Trust me I am straight, and I had no luck either with those dating web sites. She ended up with some pretty assholes. Anyways let’s get to the point.

Before we became best friends she had a relationship with this woman. The woman ended up hurting her. I am guessing this was 10 years ago (long time). I am an Asian woman and so is my best friend. We did everything together and even slept in the same bed just like sisters. No, I swear we never did it. We never crossed that line. I love her to death and don’t want to lose her. If you see us you might think we are gay. We just have that bond that I can’t describe.

So the old girlfriend shows up of course talking and getting close again. Oh by the way, I used to live with my best friend and I finally moved out because I wanted to be close to work and happenings. My best friend lives in the suburbs. When I moved out my best friend used to stay with me in my apartment since my apt was a closer commute to her work as well. I stayed with my sister in Long Island for almost a month. I texted her and asked her to pack up her clothes and stay with me. She said I can’t. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. She explained to me that if she is planning to be in the relationship with a woman she is no longer staying with me because her girlfriend who used to be ex-girlfriend doesn’t want her to stay with anyone over night.

Please explain this to me because I would think the girlfriend is controlling and also insecure about our relationship. I am devastated and sad and balling my eyes out. I haven’t slept for days because now I miss her, and everything else has been arranged around her new girlfriend. She already told me that I sounded needy and don’t bring her to a point where she has to choose. Now I am in a dilemma that I can’t say anything because I might lose the friendship. I cherish this friendship dearly. She tells me no one can come between us, but wait a minute she is already pushing someone between us. I want our friendship to be same as before. She said everything is the same between us except I can’t stay with you.

Please make me understand because I don’t understand it.

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Hi,

I was wondering if you could help me find my self, because you already know you’re a lesbian, and therefore might be able to help me. Ever since I can remember I have been in awe of girls and found them attractive to some degree, and when I was 10 I even kissed one of my friends when we were messing around in her room. Soon after that, I started dreaming of kissing girls, and since then, I have had many erotic dreams about girls, and although I am only 14, I am questioning my sexuality. I think some guys are cute, although the thought of a penis, both circumcised and uncircumcised, make me feel ill. I love the thought of vaginas and breasts and love the thought of women. Where I live, almost everyone is straight, and my family expects me to be too. I would never date a girl, because I would be too scared about what people would think. I don’t know many guys that I think are cute, yet I know many girls who I find beautiful and would happily kiss. One time when I when I was sleeping at my best friend’s house, I saw her vagina by accident, and ever since I have had erotic dreams about her, and when she had a boyfriend, I was jealous of him taking away her attention. I was at my other best friend’s house and we were home alone playing operation (the board game), and I really felt like kissing her. I also felt the same feeling when I was sleeping at her house, and her PJ’s turned me on so much. I always used to think she was kinda pretty, but now I think she’s hot, sexy, beautiful, etc… Also, I find random women in the street hot, yet rarely find random men attractive. Is this just a stage or am I a lesbian or bi? Please help I’m so confused!

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I’m new here and was delighted to find a community like this, anyways lately I’ve been rather confused, and wanted input from people I can actually tell haha.

I have always had the same three friends since pre-school/ kindergarten and they’ve always been the best friends anyone could ask for. Though two years ago I had fell in love with one of them, we were both very sadistic and masochistic, but she was terribly bipolar and started treating me like I was nothing to her, after the first year and having to apologize once before.
It was almost like I was someone to knock around on the side but then she was flirting with this other girl, (even though she told me explicitly that she can’t even see her self in a real relationship, and she planned to never have sex.) She also told me she liked her over the summer when I didn’t see her.

Well now I don’t talk to her anymore, and I finally got out of that-for the most part. I still love her but now she just seems to be like any other d-bag you can find these days, it broke my heart.

I still have my other two best friends however, and it’s been about a year and a half since I talked to her. But now my dilemma is my mind is starting to give me feelings for my other friend. I’ve always admired her, we hang out all the time-and she knows me more than my first ‘best friend’. However she is straight, and it’s one of those scenarios that seem so ridiculous you have to laugh at how absurd the thought is. I can’t seem to shake these feelings though, sometimes I feel like she’s being comforting to me, and we do jokingly flirt, but that’s just what friends do and I know she is probably as straight as ever. Though she doesn’t dress very girly and she’s never liked any boys, other than commenting on K-Pop band singers and various actors. To make things worse her parents are very traditional Koreans, and for anyone who knows hard up Asian parents…well being gay/lesbian/etc is probably considered a disgrace in a lot of cases.

I really don’t know what to do, I keep telling myself to ignore it because it’s an impossible scenario, and part of me doesn’t like it. But what if I can’t ever shake these feelings? I don’t plan on abandoning my friends ever, so do I just go on feeling awkward around her?
Since I’m homo-romantic, it isn’t as hard I suppose, but I don’t know how to tell her without making things awkward. Especially if I’d like a hug, since I never ever hug anyone, it would probably give it away.

What would you guys do?
Regards, Cori.

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Hey,

I’m a lesbian and have been for years now (3 years). I am only 15 and I know that is young but I am sooo sure that I am lesbian and not just ‘curious’ or ‘going through a phase’. Now all of my friends know about my sexuality but my mother doesn’t. Now me and my mum aren’t very close, I don’t really tell her much but I feel that I should tell her that I’m lesbian but don’t know how to go about it. I’ve asked my friends and they don’t know how I should go about it either. I’ve asked her how she feels about lesbians and bisexuals and she wasn’t really sure what to say and it made me a little bit more worried because she may be somewhat homophobic. So yeah I don’t know what to do or how to tell her…

Any advice?

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Hello to everyone. Sorry for my English, I come from Greece.

I want to tell you my problem and I hope that you will be able to help me with your answer.

I have a very good friend, almost best friend. We’ve known each other for 5 years. We go out together a lot, have vacation together; generally we spend a lot of time together. But 7-8 months ago I realized that I was starting to fall in love with her. I’ve never felt like this with a woman before. All my relationships were with men because I thought I was straight. The problem is that I am in love with my best friend, I want to make love with her but I don’t want to lose her as a friend. She is straight, a lot of boys like her but she always avoids them. This summer when she kissed someone, I thought that my heart was going to break, I was so jealous. What can I do with all those things? How can I realise if she would ever do something with a woman? How can I hide this feeling so she won’t understand anything? 

I think that she is not like before; something is going wrong with her behaviour towards me. How can I realize that she didn’t understand what I am feeling for her?

I want to thank you very much for your time, and I hope that you will give me an answer to my problem. Take care.

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My girl can’t sleep in the same bed. Help! I’ve spent hours researching it online and she can’t seem to come up with any answers either – it’s causing huge problems – I need the intimacy and she needs the sleep – any suggestions oh wise ones?

Hello all. Thank you in advance for reading this, and again if you have some advice for me. I’m warning you ahead of time that this is a really weird situation and I’m coming to this site for help because I can’t really talk to anyone else about it without angering them. It’s also really, really long just to give you an idea of what happened. I’m just going to jump right in to my story, and I’ll update you with needed information as it comes to me.

So almost two months ago I met a girl online (we will call her Katy) through a mutual friend. Katy and I ended up talking every night for about two weeks, and we both made it obvious that we were interested in each other. During this time I was also talking to another girl who I was also interested in, although I hadn’t officially met her either. But anyways, Katy and I finally decided to go on a date. It went really well and we ended up spending the entire day together. Katy and I started hanging out a lot, she came over frequently, but I told her I wasn’t looking for anything too serious too fast. After about a week of seeing her (not really dating, just of her visiting every now and then), she started to get really attached and it kind of freaked me out. I ended up just telling her that I wasn’t ready to commit to anything and I just wanted to make it clear that we were not together or exclusive. This is where things started to spiral out of control.

After I told her I needed some space, Katy decided that she wanted me to know more about her. She ended up texting me the entire next day while I was at work, and basically told me her entire life story starting from when she was adopted at age 4. I will give you the very, very condensed version of this story. She told me that she worked for the CIA when she was 14; her biological twin brother was evil and killed her parents who were high ranking govt. officials, and that she had a prosthetic hand and had bugged my house. Now, she told me all this with enough detail to keep me occupied for around 5 hours. It was an elaborate story. Obviously, I had no idea what to do with this information, so I just went along with it while she told me. She continued to elaborate for days afterwards, while I was left trying to figure out what movie and/or video games she could possibly be stealing the script of. Finally, I had had enough and I made her come with me at night to a park so we could talk.

I basically told her that I did not believe her story, but that I could not figure out why she would lie to me after swearing multiple times that she was telling the truth. After hours of holding to her story, she finally broke down and started crying after I told her I didn’t think things were going to work out between us. She admitted that she had been lying to me the whole time, and so I asked her why she had done it. She responded saying that the mafia had been kidnapping her and forced her to tell me these things. However at this point she had been crying for hours about how they were going to kill her because she told me all this, so I decided we could save this conversation for another day.

Anyways after this happened, I told her for a second time that I didn’t think things were going to work out because I obviously couldn’t trust her. I told her I didn’t want any contact with her until I could figure things out for myself. Well, that lasted approximately 3 hours until I saw her talking about suicide and such. After that incident faded a bit, I was starting to be hopeful that we could move on and meet new people and all that stuff. Until she started on her last story. This time, she had a brain tumor and I had caused her such stress by “breaking up with her” (which technically wasn’t true because we were never really together), caused her to have a seizure and she had to be flown to Seattle so that she could have the proper facilities and not die. At this point I’m like, “fantastic, I killed you, way to make me feel good about myself”. She posed as her younger sister for two days, giving my updates on the surgery and trying to tell me it was my fault she almost died. I had reached the final straw, so my roommate and I drove to her house and had a stakeout. Finally, as we were outside her house, I saw her come out, and check the mail. She was definitely not in Seattle.

I called Katy and confronted her for a third time, and after she finally stopped defending her lie (it was hard to when she realized I was outside her house) she again broke down and started talking about dying. I, who was angry as hell at this point, was having none of it. I told her to get help and that I wasn’t going to speak to her again. By this time everyone around me knew what was happening, more because they could tell how stressed out I had been the previous three weeks and a story like that doesn’t keep quiet very well. She had hurt me beyond reason, I had given her chance after chance to redeem herself, and still she lied to my face. During our confrontation she ended up telling me she loved me and that because of me she was going to seek therapy and all that. I told her good luck, and for a while that’s where it ended.

It was really hard for me not to talk to her, mostly because in the normal weeks that we had together, I had really grown to like her a lot. I cared about her and despite the fact she screwed me over many times I just couldn’t seem to get over her. So, presently, we are talking, I refuse to see her. She still wants to be together, and ridiculously enough, I want to be with her. Everyone I know has told me to drop her, but apparently I can’t. So, basically what I’m asking is this: she leaves in a month for school. Should I try one more time, just to see what we have? She says she’s in therapy and professes her love constantly, and tells me that she would do anything to be with me but she would respect my decision. Or, should I try to forget about her and avoid any further hurt that really seems imminent anyways. Any opinion would be helpful, even if you are like my brother who thinks I’m a complete moron for still talking to her.

I’ve been dating my girl for a year and a couple of months, but last month everything started going down the drain basically. She started growing feelings for a coworker and decided to try something new with him. I on the other hand am still in love with her. She moved in with him for a week or two and now is back living with her mom. Ever since she came back to live with her mom she has been calling me every night and has texted me everyday… I forgave her and told her I wanted her to be my girl, mine and only mine… but we never settled that up… We have phone sex every night and it’s such a pleasure I have been feeling as if everything is back to normal and thought the guy was out of the picture…

Yet, today I texted her when she got off from work and she replied saying, “Hey ill talk to you later I’m with him.” That tore me up because I thought everything was getting better between the both of us…

Now I don’t know what to do I love her with all my heart but I can’t share her… She claims she loves me too but I’m not sure I could believe that after today… I just need some advice whether I should stick around or leave her behind… ): Please someone help me…

For a few years I have been questioning my sexuality. I am almost positive that I am not straight. But I guess I don’t want to say anything unless I am? I am just very confused at this point. I have noticed that I am very attracted to women and men are sort of boring to me I guess. I also cannot imagine myself having sex with a guy; it sort of grosses me out. Not sure whether that is because I am a lesbian or because I am a virgin. I also have kissed girls before and I find it more exciting than kissing guys. Can anybody give me any advice? Please and thank you!

Hey, Neko here,

I’m having trouble with my friend. Her name is Kara and we’re really good friends. About a year ago I came out of the closet to her and a lot of my friends. They were cool with it and didn’t care. Recently Kara has been coming over to my house. She has slept over twice and every single time we mess around. Then the next day she tells me about how much she likes a guy in our class and that she isn’t gay or bi or anything. I don’t know if I like her in that way but I feel sort of hurt that she would do that with me then drop it like it was nothing.
I don’t know what to do… D’:
Help?

Hi… first of all I wanna say thank u guys in advance for reading this.

So what exactly am I clueless about? Well in one word, sex. Now for the very long version… watch out, I like to ramble on.

I always knew I was lesbian and didn’t really had plans to get a girl… but a couple of months back my out best friend finally told me she likes me. So long story short, we’re together now. She’s my first girlfriend and, though technically I’m her second, were both really new to any… thing…. sexual things. I don’t know how else to say it. We’re each other’s first kiss!

So anyway, we’re both clueless when it comes to sex. I believe she knows a lot more than me because she’s been going to a gay camp for years and she’s told me herself that they talk about sex there A LOT… and because I live in a very conservative and religious household. She’s also the more… feminine one. She only started even groping me a month after I first did her.

She didn’t come the first time I did her… and it was okay. But after doing her so many times, I still haven’t gotten her to orgasm. It’s frustrating for me and I feel like I disappoint her every time. She says it always feels so good and that people don’t orgasm every time… but I want to get her there.

I’m currently away on a family vacation, and we won’t see each other for a couple more months. I was hoping you guys can give me advice so by the time I see her again, I can satisfy her. I guess it would help to tell you guys that I’ve only fingered her and haven’t had a chance to give her head… and that she seems to like it a lot when I pay attention to her breasts. Other than that, all I know is how to turn her on.

Hey everyone, I was hoping to try and start a little conversation about something, I’ve noticed that lately I’ve been thinking to myself a lot: “Why was everyone else born a Goddess?”

I mean, I look around and I see all these girls, and they all seem so wonderfully fabulous! Even if they aren’t super attractive, everyone has something that makes them amazing, it seems.

And I want to be amazing too! I know it’s probably just all in my head, but I feel like if I was one of these wonderful Goddesses, I could approach anyone! I could walk up to that cute girl and be like “Hey baby, come here often? ;{)” But I always end up feeling too plain beside all of them, does anyone else ever feel this way?

Everyone just seems so beautiful to me, I feel like it might insult them if I get flirty, haha.

I’ve been friends with a girl I met via platonic friendship ad on craigslist about six months ago. We totally hit it off! We hang out at least once a week and go camping often. When I met her, I was in a failing relationship with a man. She didn’t know that I am way more attracted to women. She now knows I like girls and I’m fairly recently single. I also just changed my status from unemployed to happily employed. (I’m way more available and of respectable status now.) She’s pretty much my best friend, but I have substantial feelings for her. I don’t know if she likes me and don’t really want to lose her as a friend because she’s my favorite/only activity partner for camping, hiking, and other assorted outdoor activities. I feel pathetic pining over my friend, but she’s totally worth pining for!! I don’t know if I should give up or tell her? Last time we went camping I tried to sit close to her on a log and she scooted away about an inch. When we lay in the sand, she didn’t move away when my elbow touched her arm. I don’t know how touch feely of a person she is, but I always touch her arm when she says something funny. I’ve tried to make it slightly obvious that I like her without telling her. So, I basically don’t know what to do. I’m definitely WAY more attracted to women, but not so experienced with dating.  She’s adorable and most definitely a lesbian. Uggghhhh.