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im only after tellin my friend that i have a bit of a lesbo crush on her…she knew that i was bi anyway but her reaction confused me she said”soz i dont feel the same way but if i did swing that way i so would!”it made me think she feels the same way but is too afraid to admit it! btw we flirt alot,she tells me i look very pretty we hug nd tease eachother and sometimes pretend that we are in a realtionship ,she stares at me sometimes,shes even tried to playfully undo my brastrap! why does she act that way?

Ok so I have two problems…

1.) I’m still shy around my girlfriend

2.) I want to give my girlfriend a lap dance.. but don’t know how to.

We’ve been together for 3 years, and I’m still too shy to go dance with her at clubs and stuff like that. For her senior prom I didn’t even dance with her.. :\ (I know I’m a horrible girlfriend..) is there anything I could do to help me get over that?

And as for the second question..I know haha if I’m shy how will I ever be able to give her a lap dance.. I just want some ideas/tips on how/what would be the best way to do it.

My girlfriend is a fem and I’m a stem (stud-fem) if that helps you any.

All through high school I thought there was something wrong with me, I had never kissed a boy. I know that I am attracted to boys because I find them attractive and I’ve liked ones before. In the beginning of high school I met this girl and I am a person who loves to reach out to people, so I tried to be her friend only for her to reject me over and over again. A couple years later we became the best of friends and then it slowly turned into more. She has been with many people in her life but for some reason she decided to love me.

Now that we are apart because of schooling I’ve come to realize how much I am in love with her and how much I need her in my life. All that lovey dovey stuff in the movies about how it hurts to be apart and you can’t breathe when they’re not around, is actually true. When you find the one you’re in love with you will know that it is true. For so long I thought wow I am a lesbian but then I realized that no, I am not attracted to all girls (because I’m really not I never have been to anyone else) I am just in love with one. At times I just cry because I don’t know what to do, I miss her so much but I have no one to talk to about it, because I am too afraid to tell my parents or other friends about how I feel. I am afraid they will judge me, and tell me I am just being foolish. But I know for a fact that people can’t help who they fall in love with, sometimes it just happens without people having any control over who that other person may be

I am too terrified of what people will think of me, and how everyone would look at me if they knew. Everyday I want talk to my mom or my sisters about it but I know they would never understand. We’ve been together/dating since probably June, and now I am back for Christmas break and I’ve barely got to see her, and when she does talk to me she says that she thinks she likes this boy she’s been hanging out with. She says she still loves me, but since were best friends she had to be honest with me. She already hooked up with this kid a couple months ago when she and I were together, and I forgave her because thinking about how happy she makes me overtakes all feelings of pain and hurt I feel being apart from her. What do I do? I can’t seem to move on, but I think she takes advantage of the fact that she knows she will always have me to fall back on if things don’t work out for her. Help please L

I am a lesbian, and I have been with my girlfriend now for over a little over a year.

Before our relationship, she has never been with a girl, and through out this period she has bounced back and forth questioning what her true sexual orientation is. But one thing that has remained true is that she has never felt the way she feels about me for anybody else. We got together very slowly, took our time, and didn’t rush anything. We are absolute best friends, and we have always considered each other to be soul mates. I am absolutely infatuated with her and in love, as she is with me, and planning our future together.

Recently, she began feeling that she is into guys and it has been clear to me something was off, she wasn’t really able to give me her all. This has been a rough semester for the both of us, she became an RA and gained a lot of new responsibilities, and became very fatigued towards the end of the semester. And now, we are meeting her biological family she hasn’t seen in 10 years, so she is really nervous. She has been beyond stressed,and whenever she needed me closer and was having a hard time, she would literally cling herself to me. And when I did, she pushed me away and hung out with her friends.

She recently broke up with me because it wasn’t fair of her to put me through all this, and because of her being into guys.

I have remained very calm because we ran into this problem a little before now, and I was a wreck. And I feel like this is a journey she has to undergo to truly be certain about what she wants. But it becomes sloppy because she does not have a home, so lives with me. I made it clear though that she should not hold back from seeing people because of me. That it’s what I want, and this break is something I want as well. She tells me an overwhelming amount of times a day she loves me, is always trying to cuddle and kissing all over my face. She also insisted in not telling our families yet.

I’m not sure where to go from here, how to act, whether or not this means I lost her forever.

I have know my bestfriend for 10 years and we’ve done everything together. we tell each other everything, things no one else knows not even parents.recently ice received messages on social networking sites from unknown people saying theyve wanted to be more than friends but they know I don’t go that way. I am a straight female. come to find out it was my bestfriend. because we’ve known each other for so long I feel our relationship is like sisters instead of loves but she told me she loves me with all her heart and wanted me to be hers. shocked and never having this happen to me before I reacted foolishly and way out of control. I quit talking to her and was a complete bitch.nnow realizing what ive lost and the stupidness of my reactions I want my bestfriend back. I am afraid an apology will never be enough and she won’t forgivenme. what can I do? i don’t want to lose a life long friend because I was stupid. please help. :’(

I posted a couple months ago and now that I have my life sorted out a little more I have a question about my best friend. I’ve never had a crush on her and she says all the time that she likes guys and only guys (she knows about my sexuality.)  But she will ask me questions about how I feel about her all the time like “do I think she’s pretty” or “do i like her” the odd thing about that question is I’ve answered it like 100 times…literally, and the answer is always “no.” Yet, she still asks almost everytime we’re together and then when I answer “no” she says “good thing” or something  like that.

Well, last time we had a sleepover she asked me to put my arms around her. And then she started playing with my hair. After like 15 minutes of this she kissed me on the check (for a little bit longer than needed) and said goodnight.  The next morning she rested her head on my shoulder and talked about how I’m really self-concious and that I’m prettier than I think I am. Which could be taken as just a normal friend thing to say, but in the postion we were in it was kinda strange.

This kind of behavior has been going on for like a year now. Well besides the time when we were 10 and kissed in my bedroom. yet still to this day she claims it was just for fun. Alright the point of this is that could my best friend be a lesbian? or bisexual?  I’m not asking because I got one of those “crushes on my straight best friend” I’m just curious and everytime I ask her she denys it.

Ok so I am an 18 year old college student that plays college basketball. I just realized recently that I am bi-curious. I am saying I am bi-curious because I haven’t done anything with a girl yet so don’t know if I am but I know that I am attracted to girls. Until I realized how attractive my teammate is. We play the same position in basketball so we are always going against eachother. We recently went to a party together and both got drunk. While we were at that party, we ended up getting kinda close. We didn’t end up doing anything but we held eachother, held hands a bit, and she kissed me on my neck. I wanted to kiss her back soooo bad but I didnt because I didnt want things to get weird since we were teammates and because I thought it was just because we were drunk. Now we are even closer then we were before party and we always seem to be touching. Whenever we touch though, to me it feels this way anyways, I feel a shock go all the way through that part of my body and cant help but think about it. She’s always there for me even when I go through hell. She stands by my side, waits for me to calm down, then waits for me to talk about it. We always have fun when were together! I can’t stop thinking about her though and I dont know if I should tell her and, if she rejects me, have it be weird for us on and off the court. She also lives across the hall from me. I am also kinda shy about telling ppl my feelings and its very hard for me to do! Should I tell her or should I just ignore it?

I’m having a bit of a problem at the moment and I really need your help.. So I’ve been working for some time and not so long ago a new girl started working there too. I’m 18 and she’s 19. The first day we met, she gave me a kiss as she was leaving on the cheeck (she doesn’t know I’m a lesbian) and I was kinda shocked that she had done that because it was our first time meeting each other. Anyways the Second time was the same and then the third time I went to work I was sick so I told her “oh I’m sick I ont want to get you sick” and she replyed “don’t worry I think I’m getting sick too” and she gave me a kiss on my neck. Everytime when we see each other she just stares at me and smiles which Makes me nervous. One time I was just arriving to work and when I saw her I didn’t say hi so she told me “it seems as though we slept together” and to be honest I didn’t understand what she ment by that so I asked her “what do you mean?” and she said its because we didn’t say hi to each other so I just smiled and said sorry that I didn’t say hi. That same day we were talking near each other and as I turned, she turned too but it was to the same direction as me and I’m really sure that it felt as though she wanted to grab my hand. I really don’t mind of everything she does its just that I’m confused because she has a boyfriend and I think I’m starting to like her… So what should I do…do you think she just wants to be friends or could there be something else???

I’d love to hear from couples who have had style friction between a femme and a not-so-femme, especially if you’ve found ways to help smooth it out.

My wife isn’t really a committed butch, but she is gloriously tomboy, and I adore her that way. I’m very lipstick. (And arguably not a lesbian at all; see my profile if you care). We’ve been together 18 delicious years and are the happiest couple we know, BUT sometimes my femminess gets on her nerves. I think it’s mostly that she just disliked (straight) girly girls when she was young – snotty high school girls who thought life was a girliness competition that they were winning and she was losing. Unfortunately sometimes I remind her of them, I think, when I go coordinating my shoes with my nails (and so forth), and that gives her grumpy feelings.

It’s not a crisis or anything, but it occurs to me that we can’t possibly be the first couple to have to cope with feelings like this. Anybody else? Thanks so much!