HELP: Timebomb waiting to happen?

Ok lets start from the beginning……..

Around 5months ago on a drunken night out me and a totally straight team mate (like never even thought of being with a girl) made out. Even though she freaked out at the time she gained curiosity and feelings and over subsequent drunken nights out and things started to heat up. This moved on to more serious seeing each other without the influence of alcohol and away from the team setting. Both her and I developed serious feelings for each other and have now been in a relationship for just over a month.

Here’s the problem; she still freaks out from time to time about being with a girl but is usually comfortable with the whole situation so is still confused to a certain extent. Because we decided to be open with each other she has outwardly said or suggested that she misses men/penis which obviously doesn’t ease my insecurities even though we are incredibly close and she says that she loves being in a relationship with me. Most of the time everything is fine and I’m ridiculously happy but these insecurities remain at the back of my head.

This is the part that I need help with; obviously being a woman myself I can’t satisfy her needs for men/penis.
1) How do I approach the issue that obviously needs to be talked about at more length?
2) Do I attempt to ease these needs with the use of toys during sex?
3) Is it just a time bomb waiting to happen?
4) Should I have even got into a relationship that appears to be so confusing?

This isn’t made any easier by the fact that this is my only serious relationship.

Any help or advice would be extremely useful…….thank you in advance

Best friend or more?

right so.. I’m 19 and iv fallen in love with my best friend, she is also 19 but she is straight. she knows I’m a lesbian and she’s cool with it. Iv told her I love her she freaked out at first but now she’s cool but lately I’m starting to doubt her being straight. We went to a gay bar a few weeks ago and every time I was talking to someone my friend would just flirt with me , hold my hand or even kiss me. Then last week I was upset so I ended up staying in her house, we had a few drinks and were lying in bed just talking. Then I told her I loved her but she said it back? Then asked if we were to have a relationship could I keep it a secret? we ended up kissing then hooking up. The next morning we were OK wasn’t weird or anything but now we talk way less than usual. I think she does love me but is afraid! I know I’m only 19 and I’m still young but iv never felt this way about anybody. I think about her constantly id do anything for her. Its just messing my head up and hurting me. I don’t know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Isolated and confused.

I really don’t want to sound whiny alright, but i am isolated and confused.

So im a 16 year old lesbian. there are no “gay clubs” of the adult or teenage veriaty within a 3 hour drive at least there is only one in the whole state. I know of one other gay teenager at my school and truthfully she’s bicurious. So i turn to the internet, and i try to look up lesbian sites just to blog or talk, and i find many, just all for older gays(18+). So i get more specific and look for teenage gay/lesbian sites, and none come up. Then i scower the lesbian sites for teenage friendly sites at least, and agian, i find none.  Then i look for music and books and movies in the LGBT culture and im finding most are from before 2ooo that is a long time ago for music, books, and movie. i read all these great victories, how the fight is still going strong but to me it seems we are dieing out. i sit here and im sad, angery, lonely, resentful, and most frustratingly scared. where are all these others i hear about? i dont know what to do, how to do it, what “it” is, where to go, who to go to, how to get “there”, or even really move in any direction. it feels like i got left behind. i cant go to my mom, she doesn’t believe me and thinks im just curious oh and she is also getting more religous by the day which spelled disaster for me the last time and she didnt even know then, my dad prays this is a phase that will pass, and no one else knows either because its for the good of the “family” cause my mom is afraid that the town will be hostile towards the rest of the family as well as me and no matter how bitter i am i can’t drag others into my fights. 4 kids know im gay cause their friend and i went out  for a while but i cant even talk to them because they are graduating this year and leaving so i cant get attached to them. what do i do? how do i get through this? im isolated and confused.

Confused

I have been with my partner for 11 years. 2 weeks ago she told me that she wanted to break up. It was out of the blue. We were playing an online game and met this guy who is nice. All of a sudden she tells me she loves me but is no longer in love with me or even attracted to me. Now she wants to move back to our home town, which let me say, happens to be the same town he lives in. She was diagnosed as Bi-polar and says she needs to figure herself out. She also said that if the guy asked her on a date that she would go. I was wondering if she is attracted to him because of the emotional connection? She has always said she hates the male body parts. She also said that it was just a coincidence that she broke up with me shortly after we started talking to him. Now she texts him. What a shock to my ego. I am so in love with her and she said there is a possibility we would get back together. She wants to be friends, but she isnt treating me like her other friends. She won’t answer my texts. Or she gives one word answers.

We have a house together and she wants to move in a month. She won’t help me pack and wants to go out and party. I am so hurt. What should I do? I am so confused!

How to know if a girl you like is possibly interested in you, or just really friendly ?

Hi there ! I’m a 20-year old girl, and I’d like to hear your thoughts on my story and your advice.
So… There’s this girl I noticed in my class at the university some months ago. Sometimes I would look up and she would be looking at me, or the other way round, but every time we kept our faces straight and then casually looked away, so that we just couldn’t tell what the other one was thinking. The only thing I knew is that we had “noticed” each other. Every time our eyes would meet, I would feel a warm buzz running through me. I am truly attracted to her, but just have no idea what is going on at her side.
About two months ago, we met at a party and just chatted a bit, pretending we absolutely didn’t know each other. I also discovered that we had a common friend. Thanks to this common friend (who isn’t aware of what is going on between the girl and I),we got closer and eventually became friends. But sometimes I’m not really sure if she’s just being really nice, or if she likes me more than as a friend. And she can act in a very contradictory way. For example : she can be really enthusiastic and invite me multiple times to go grab a coffee with her friends after her classes, saying she’ll send me a text when she’s done, but then forgets (?) to send the text. Or at a party we attended together, with our common friend : we were dancing and I casually tried to make eye contact with her, but she just kept looking right in front of her, totally ignoring me (but when our common friend would do so, she would look at her and smile), but two hours later she would be dancing next to me, or actually against me, her body rubbing against mine (and there was room enough for us to dance without rubbing against each other), but still when I’d look at her, she wouldn’t look at me, she just would keep dancing against me staring right in front of her. Or at spring break we would have no contact whatsoever and then I’d text her and she would reply enthusiastically asking how i was and inviting me right away to spend time with her and her friends.

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