Female, 18.
I’m kind of new to this and I don’t really know what to say. I guess what I really want is someone to talk to who could understand what I’m going through. I don’t feel comfortable to talk about this with my friends. Though I know they will love me no matter what. I know they won’t truly understand. I’m not looking for anything “sexual” I guess. Just a person to talk to. I won’t say I’m confused. I know how I feel and that it’s completely normal. But with no one to talk about it with it just gets to me more than it should. So yeah to “sum up” I guess I’m just asking for someone who wouldn’t mind “chatting” with me sometime. God that sounds depressing but yeah. – ^_^ Post your AIM or email.
I Don’t Know What To Do
I have a girlfriend. We have an intense attraction for each other and we love each other… She’s bi and I’m lesbian. I’ve been with a few women but she has only had relationships with men. Now I have never had a problem with a girl and oral sex and orgasms… but she would rather use the vibrator. She says she loves it when I’m down there but when I am she likes to stop me and she wants me to use her vibrator… I don’t know, I just tried so many times and so many different ways, rough gentle fast slow wild controlled… She gives all the signs of loving it but I can’t get her to come and orgasm, only if I use the vibrator and my finger it works… I don’t know what to do, but it’s kind of drivig me crazy to know that I can’t get her to climax… and I’ve tried talking to her and asking her how she feels…
Am I Lesbian? If So, What Now?
So I have always thought of myself as straight, seeing as how I’ve only dated guys and have never had any sort of romantic feelings toward another girl. I HAVE however rather enjoyed lesbian porn throughout the years, but I’ve always attributed that to being attracted to the sensuality of it and that it didn’t have anything to do with a desire to be with a woman.
Then I met her.
She is in a class of mine that just started this semester, and I am completely head over heels for her. I just stare at her in class and hang on every word she says. I love her smile and I want to be the one that makes her smile! She is wonderful in every sense of the word… and I have no idea what to do about it.
I have no idea if she is into me (chances are she’s not) and since I’m always stereotyped as “the hot chick who can get any guy”. I don’t think she’d even think of me that way if she were to be into women.
Any ideas? Thank you.
Help
This is a serious question from a man, please believe me. I have been seeing a wonderful woman for about a year and two nights ago she explained to me that she had lived her life as a lesbian for about 15 years. Ten years ago she decided she no longer wanted that and began to date men. I am very confused. I am not put off by the idea of anyone being gay but have always believed you were born with a certain sexual preference. Am I wrong? How do you go from one preference to the other? Can you really? The only problem I have with this is the potential of becoming more emotionally invested only to discover she really prefers women. Can anyone give me some guidance? Thanks.
Did she behave badly?
I’m mid 40’s and just out a year & so totally happy about it. But I’m feeling rather gutted & I don’t know if this woman behaved badly… I’m not that experienced.
To be brief, we met through the personals, live in the same small university town [she's new here] got along swimmingly, we’ve been dating since Dec 31, we write to one another every day, several times a day. We’ve been progressing slowly to greater intimacy, just to kissing and working up to the moment. But she did mention her ex a lot, who is coming to stay. I mentioned St. Valentine’s Day & she didn’t reply but I didn’t think about it. Then yesterday I suggested we go to a benefit at a club & naturally with her ex, if she is in town.
Today, I get an email that she is going to the benefit with someone else & then she is going on a trip with her ex (who has a partner). I feel so stunned, shocked. It wasn’t the love of my life, but I was feeling so happy, that we’d be girlfriends and all the rest…
I feel like I’ve been led on. Surely dating someone once a week since Dec 31, writing every day, means something. Or Am I wrong and naive? As I said, I’ve only been out a year.
A confusing time
About a year ago, I was friends with a girl named Anna. She was in my eighth grade class, and as a class, we went camping and hiking a lot. On our winter camping trip, Anna and I grew closer. By the end of the three day trip, while on the bus home, I realized, I had a crush on her. For the first time, I had a real crush on a girl.
Months went by, and I said nothing to her. I tried to stay normal, as if I still only thought of her as a friend, but I knew that was a lie. In those months, she trusted me enough to confide one of her most prized secrets in me. She is gender confused. She wants to get the surgery once she becomes old enough. I didn’t feel so weird for liking her then.
Six months ago, Anna confessed to me that she had also had a crush on me. We lasted six days, due to both of us just letting out all of our emotions at once.
Three months ago, we got back together. I have never felt so strongly about anyone ever before. Before I met her, I would cringe at the thought of being touched by anyone in any way. Now, I find myself being turned on by her. I have had dreams of having sex with her. Recently, these dreams have increased. I want her. But what if she doesn’t feel the same? I told her about one of my dreams, and she didn’t seem to care. I’m glad she doesn’t hate me for it, but that still leaves the chance that she doesn’t feel anything more for me then just a crush. What do I do? Does she like me?
And before, the first dream I had of seducing her, she was a boy, Ben. Now, I dream of her, as a girl, as Anna. I like it both ways, but I’m still a virgin, so could I be wrong?
I also have another problem that I really need help on. I am very oblivious to my “parts”. In all reality, I’m not sure if I really even know where it is. I mean, I have an idea, but I’ve never touched it really. I get “in the mood” and feel like I really want to be touched, but I don’t know how, or if this is even right! A lot of my friends have asked me if I’ve ever touched myself, but I never have. Is this normal? Should I be pleasuring myself? But how? I don’t know…
But now I get that feeling, better described as being “horny” more often. And when I think of her, I get all tingly and hot. Don’t get me wrong, I still like guys, but I have a hard time thinking about doing sexual things with them. I like their “parts” as far as I know, but not them.
What if she doesn’t feel this way about me? And what if she wants to wait till she “changes”? If I am a lesbian, would I still be able to like her, or am I bi, and it just wouldn’t matter? I don’t think I can wait for her to change, I want her so badly now. Is that wrong? Is that even possible?
PLEASE HELP ME!
What should I do?
I’ve been bi most of my life, but never really open about it. I experimented when I was younger with other girls with making out, sex, etc… Most of my friends are homophobic, and whenever another person brings up lesbians (around my friends or family) in a conversation I study all their faces to see how they would react if I ever said something… But… I don’t know how they’d take it. Or if I should even care?
Here’s my situation. I met this girl through a friend, and she’s amazing. We haven’t hung out in person just yet, but she’s coming to my 21st birthday celebration on Friday (three days away). Whenever I talk to her, my whole body twinges like fire. It literally feels like heat rushes through my veins. I’ve NEVER had the feeling talking to any other guy, or person for that matter. It’s exciting, and makes me feel alive. But at the same time, I’ve never been in a lesbian relationship (or any type of lesbian relationship), and I don’t know if I should pursue this, and risk her not feeling the same way and all my friends finding out my secret crush. Or, should I just hang out with her, act like we’re just friends and I’m not interested.
So, what should I do? Plus… Am I a lesbian? I haven’t had any type of relationship in over two years, and I’ve only had sex with a guy once, and that was two years ago. Have I intentionally put off guys? But I like guys too! Ugh… I don’t know…
Help?
I hate that I’m a lesbian
I’m 18 years old and have known I was a lesbian since I was around 11. I have had serious problems admitting to myself that I’m a lesbian. I look in the mirror every morning disgusted and confused. I try so hard to enjoy being with men, but by the end of the day I realize all I want to do is be with a women. I don’t look gay and I try so hard not to act gay, but I am gay.
When gorgeous women walk by me I don’t even want to look, sometimes I even hold my breath. I don’t want to live like this, it’s so frustrating how I’m not who I want to be. I’ve been like this since I’ve fallen in love with my best friend 2 years ago. Every time she was near my stomach would feel like it was in my throat, my palms would get sweaty, I would be so nervous to talk to the point where I just excluded her out of my life. Ever since then, looking at how graceful, soft, and beautiful women makes me wish I could be normal, or like everyone else I know. I don’t think I’ve ever met gay women, or even talked to one. Help?
I think my girlfriend is a lesbian
I’m a male, 19 years old but I think my girlfriend is a lesbian. She’s always saying she doesn’t like sex with me, but due to the fact she’s the most beautiful girl I have ever seen I just take what I get. She has long blonde hair down to her belly button, green eyes, amazing thin body with nice curves so you wouldn’t even guess she’s a lesbian, but she always says “What would you do if I was a lesbian?” and constantly making jokes about her being gay and saying how hot Megan Fox is, or even girls that walk past her. When she was younger she told her parents she was a lesbian and they all freaked on her, and her sisters wouldn’t even change in the same room with her for quite a while which means it had to be hurtful. She tells her family “thank god that phase is over” but then after she says that, she looks kind of upset like she knows it’s not a phase. I feel kind of desperate writing on this, but I mean – what do I do?
She also watches T.V shows about lesbians, like South Of Nowhere, The L Word, but she talks about them freely. She was reading a book and I decided to read the back when she wasn’t near it and it’s actually a teen love story about 2 girls who fall in love. I want to confront her about it, but I’m wishing I wasn’t so madly in love with her. Write back, Thanks.
Figuring Out This Puzzle
I am labeled as boyish, but I do wear girlie attire when it had to be. I am more comfortable with jeans and shirt. Plain, comfy and simple. Until now, I dunno if I am a lesbian, maybe just wondering…
I am attracted to girls, though I can’t imagine being or having a relationship with them. For guys, I only got a crush on them and not that same profound attraction. I have a difficulty mingling with girls I like, you know, talk to impress… to continue. I spotted this girl, she’s not that typical girl I like. I just like her because she said out loud she’s lesbian. Total guts! So I was like, woah by that and I wanted to know her right then and there. But the sail wasn’t smooth it took me a 9months to know her face-to-face but before that, I kinda stalked her. Pictures and little details, I know it was wrong and crazy. 
The day I knew her was unexpected (but I knew it would come, thanks to my friend who knew her), I was perspiring and I think I gone red. So embarrassing. So it started… I only want to know her and more than liking her wasn’t part of it. But it did. I know her quite well and I think she knows me too, even it’s a phone call she knows or feel my emotions like I am mad or smiling. She is the only person I knew I am comfortable with that short span of time (3 weeks). She is telling me her private life already and I asked her why, and she answered I am trustworthy. We don’t see that much so we use our phones to talk everyday. And everything started to blossom. I don’t know if you call it fling, but just friends don’t do such as constantly being jealous, she’s jealous all the time, who I am with or I spend more time doing this than talking to her. She wants to know my friends but I can’t let her, I don’t like the idea. She wants to see me but I can’t I don’t have the luxury of time, I am kinda busy. And if ever we are together there’s no much to talk about. We keep on giggling, teasing each other and more on smiling and it completes my day, even if there’s no serious talk. We started having endearments with each other but we are just friends. NO strings attached or we simply don’t talk about what we feel. We just continue doing all those. After 6months, we started to have fights, just minor arguments. One time I asked her “can we stop everything” and she asked me “stop what?” I don’t know if she was just acting innocent when she asked that, but mostly I knew she knows, she just wanted me to ask her first with such discussion. She would tell me that I am insensitive; I don’t know why she would say that. I can’t figure out if really likes me likes me or just friends. But I told her too “we have to stop this because I am afraid little feelings will grow.” She answered me back, so it’s gonna be like this because of that. No friends would even grab a friend’s hands while walking and brush it to her face and kiss it. I just can’t figure it out, until now.
Do you think she does have feelings for me? I don’t want to be unsure and I don’t want to be part of her collections, girls or boys running up for her. Any ideas? Right now, I am at distance with her, its been a year (though early of that year, we communicated again but due to my stupidity I stopped responding coz I think we are both going nowhere, for the fact no one’s saying something what we both feel). But every time we see each other there’s this look “can we have it back.” I did change my number so not to have any means of communication from her and I wanted to be sure if everything was right. But seeing her recently made me think again, that’s why I am writing here. Until now I am so confused, and I can feel it she still does like me the way she looks at me and approached me. All I did was push her away from me when she came near to me and it pains me. If only she knows. I was just trying to give her wrong radars to forget me and I’ll forget her.
Thanks for reading.
Ideas please… what to do when the world assumes you are straight?
Alright I’m hoping at least one other person has this problem but I’m assuming tons have it lol.
The gist of my issue is that people assume I’m straight; I don’t want to shout from the rooftops that I’m a lesbian, I don’t want to change my look so people see me differently. I’m completely comfortable with who I am I just hate that even in situations where you’d think people wouldn’t assume things they do.
Whether it be at pride or at the gay bar; I’ve had girls regularly walk by me and mumble under their breath “fag hag”. Or girls come up to me and after having a conversation with them have them say “if your straight why are you here” or “no way you’re not gay! Maybe bi but no way are you gay!”
Does anyone else have this problem if so how the heck do you deal with it without losing your mind? Aside from buying a shirt that says “I’m a lesbian” though I haven’t considered that route numerous times!
Does she love me? What should I do? please if you can help!
Hello, my name is Hanna. I know it may be extreme for a girl my age to say that I have found true love, but I think I honestly have fallen in love, and its no ordinary crush that most teens my age go through. I have recently discovered with myself that I am a bisexual teen, figuring out these feelings have been hard and difficult but I know they are true and is what my heart says. Even though a lot of people tell me I am too young for love, I don’t believe that love has any boundaries or limits.
Now there is this girl I meet in 7th grade, she was a quiet one, and a bit of an outcast from others or perhaps some called even a “weirdo”. I wanted to try to get to know her, because I believe everyone deserves a chance no matter what my other peers or friends might say. One day we randomly got paired up in my Face (Cooking/home class) class and I got a chance to know her. Before long we started talking and having a great time, laughing, sharing interests and without knowing forming a friendship. We were friends but by the time the quarter ended so did that class and I had no other classes with her so I didn’t get much time to talk to her again. Then 8th grade rolled around and we had the same Math class together all year long. We would talk again, she started inviting me over to her house to hang out, and we were starting a close bond with one another. But I noticed something…
Wild Dream
Yesterday, I’ve spent almost 3 hours reading lesbian sex stories and watched lesbian porn. Actually I didn’t do it for a few months. I only did it for only 3 to 4 times a year.
That’s not my point. Before this, when I did such a thing, it didn’t really effect my daily life. But last night, I dreamt about having sex with a girl. It was the first time and it kinda freaked me out.
I never thought that I would have a dream bout that. Especially because I never had sex before. Cuz it’s wrong in my religion. And the girl that I dream about is my classmate. I never had a fantasy about her. I never have a crush on her. So what the hell she’s been doing in my dream, seducing me, and having sex with me. Yeah, I know she’s kinda beautiful. But I don’t know how I’m gonna face her after having that kinda dream.
Thanks for reading my story. I really needed to tell someone about it.
Uhhm… wondering is this wrong?
Well, I’m sixteen and bi, but I’m still very deep in the closet. I’m wondering if touching yourself is wrong and immoral? (OMG this is embarrassing, but not nearly as much as asking someone face to face that I know). I recently started ‘exploring’ my down there area, and it…well…I just want to know if it’s normal to be doing this or if I’m some sex crazed maniac.
Curious, confused, and terrified
So, I am a 25 year old living in a foreign country. I plan to return to the states soon and go to graduate school. I have a boyfriend, but things aren’t going that well between us.
I have had feelings for girls since high school- unrequited crushes and such. The first girl I really liked, actually… we would make out and I really liked her a lot (the cliché- best friend turned girlfriend). Anyway, in retrospect she used me for attention and affection and I realize now that she mostly made out with me when we were in public to get attention from guys. I followed that up with dating guys I didn’t really like for short periods, while maintaining long term feelings for a certain girl. Since then, I have had crushes on girls on and off. Whenever I become intimate emotionally with a girl, I start to have urges to become physically intimate as well. I am (I think) attracted to men, though they cannot seem to maintain my interest for more than a couple of months before I dump them.
I guess to get the point- I am so confused. I haven’t ever actually had true romantic relationship with a girl, but I really want one. I am terrified of being rejected. I don’t want to hurt anyone (what if it turns out I’m not into girls after all?). Am I bi, am I lesbian, am I crazy?
I have lesbian friends, but I just… I don’t feel comfortable talking with them about this, mostly due to fear and ego, I think. I don’t drink alcohol or do drugs, not due to religious convictions but rather past experiences. Most of the advice I have seen on the internet on this topic has come in the form of “Go to a lesbian bar, smile at someone, buy them a drink or accept a drink from them, and then have sex- easy peasy”. I don’t feel that this approach is healthy for me- I don’t like the person I am when I’m not sober. Any other suggestions?
What does that make me?
I am now 18 and have always had crushes on boys. I can imagine having sex with boys and that doesn’t make me feel uncomfortable. I’m still a virgin but I guess I won’t have any problem to have sex with the opposite sex.
Yet I am sexually attracted to women most of the time. Like when I masturbate I only get aroused when I picture naked women/girl-on-girl actions. The male body just cannot trigger any sparks in me.
To me, seeking a soulmate or lover has nothing to do with gender. I am usually emotionally attracted to men, but seldom to women (only once or twice). On the other hand I have always been attracted to women sexually.
Is it just because women are more beautiful? Or is it because I am a lesbian (if sexual attraction to women alone and not emotional attraction makes me a lesbian)? Or am I a bisexual? I’m really confused.
Questioning, Again
Like most of the other women on here, I’m questioning my sexuality. Except I’ve got it backwards. I’m 17, out as a lesbian in my high school and with my hyper-religious family, but recently I’ve started to wonder if I’m really bi. Or even hetero.
I’ve had crushes on girls since I was five. I’ve really fallen in love once before, honest-to-God love, and it was with a wonderful girl. Women make my heart stop and I can’t help looking at them and wanting to get to know them more, to sit down and talk with them, to touch them. But I don’t really find the traditional hourglass figure, blonde type of girl hot. It’s how she carries herself and how confident she is that turns me on. I find androgyny in a girl incredibly hot. I find power in a girl sexy. Think Xena, or Catherine-Zeta Jones in Chicago, or Elphaba, Shane. Dark and strong.
I’ve never really fallen for a guy–I fell into a bit of a hero worship/boy crush with one once last year. It was the first time I had felt that way about a guy, and it was great, because bi is a helluva a lot more socially acceptable than gay. Except when I actually thought about kissing him, or having sex with him, it was hot, but it also felt plain wrong. Hot and vomit-inducing at the same time. I have no idea why. But I’ve noticed attractive guys and I’ve fantasized sexually about them. I can find a guy arousing; sometimes it’s happened without me trying. It’s just there’s always an underlying feeling of “Ewww, penismangross.” when I start to really think about it.
Most of my friends are guys. I form close relationships with certain girls, but as a whole it’s easier for me to strike up a conversation with a guy than it is for me to talk to a woman. It’s been that way ever since I can remember. I never learned how to understand women when they talk. Girls tend to hint at things and imply what they really mean when they’re talking, and most of the time it goes over my head until days later when I think “Oooh, that’s what she was trying to say.” But with the close female friends I do have, I feel much more bonded to them than the guys. It’s not like I don’t like the guys as friends, I do and I love hanging out with them and playing videogames or talking about music or computers. It’s just there’s not that–thing–there that there is with the girls.
Bi or Les?
My girl thinks I’m bi because of the way I look and then because I use to be bi a little while ago. She feels as if I can’t grow out of it. But I honestly don’t like guys. Everybody enjoys a nice looking person so if I see a nice looking guy I well look. But it’s the same as looking at beautiful girl. Right? But I really don’t look at people like that because I am in a relationship. It’s just the way I am… Just because I say a certain guy is cute doesn’t mean I’m bi, right?
