yo charlie, i kinda know what u having through ryt now…
i’ve been in that kind of situation…have a very stong feelings and afraid to tell her..
a hundred times want to tell her that u love her…
but u afraid…

just be patient my friend…
be patient…
that’s the key…
give ur attention and keep giving her signals…
then u’ll know what to do…
dont worry…^___^
if she really in love with u, she’ll be with u forever…

like me n my partner…we’ve been together for a year now..
gud luck
btw, religion is not really matters..
we still have our religion till now..

im not actually in ur situation but ur story really hits me… im little bi though….

i guess u should tell to her now everything u feel for her becoz as i can see she cares about u so much and i can feel that she already knew about ur secret, shes just waiting u to reveal it… i know its not easy, just be brave sweety..
i know u can do it…

im so WWWWOOOOWWWW to ur patient…
its really sweet of u that u really appreciete little thing she do to u…

i wish u happiness
tc

Staying in the closet is not good for you. But under certain circumstances I realize its necessary. However if you are ever going to have a good relationship with a woman you are going to have to come out at least to some people. We have all had terrifying experiences coming out, but you get over them and move on with your unburdened life!! I’m not saying you should come out to everyone you meet. Just relax and don’t think about other people reactions. You will have a great time with this girl and maybe a life long commitment.

In this kind of situation, I’d say, wait. keep giving her the signals or you’ll lose her completely. But! It seems like she loves your attention and such and loves being with you, seems like she loves you depending on the things you said. I’d say wait a little and see what happens, and if you think the time is right Go for her girl! what ya got to lose??? Soon or a later she just might fall for you, cuz I’ll tell ya this, that’s what happened to me with my current girlfriend;-) hope that helped. Don’t be afraid, she’s your bestfriend and WILL understand if you tell her and will still totally want to be your friend, Religion doesn’t really matter that much. Good luck

i am in the same situation and i am kinda sure that i am in love with my roomie. unlike u, i am pretty sure she’s straight. it’s really kills me when she asked for my opinion as to whether she should go out with this guy. don’t think i will ever confess to her because i would never want to ruin this friendship. we share everything in common and we just enjoy each others company a lot. suppressing myself is also very painful. no one knows i am leso and i am so afraid to let it show. i really do not know what i should do.

this is what i did with my friend, i got us both realy drunk then told her all of my feelings. (i got us drunk so i could blame the drink if she didnt feel the same way) but she told me she felt the same way & we slept together that night. we have been together for 2years now TELL HER

honestly thats the same situation i was in its scary i was the lil tombhoy that was amazing in sports and like always knew i was bi but didnt understand it cuz i was young but then i met this flawless gorgeous amazing girl in like the 8th grade we ended up becoming best friends there was something about this girl that oh my god i couldnt help but just love her but i didnt wantt to cuz i truly felt she would never feel like that towards me but i knew she was bi she told me she was to even then i didnt tell her i was but we were very flirtacious always together acting like a couple shed get at mad at me if i didnt call her wen i would first wake up or didnt go see her she gave me that butterfly feeling no one elsee could give me since i met her she would always say were not best friends but not a couple idk wat we were lol but i needed more yu kno i gavee it timee cuz i didnt wanna ruin it i wanted to get her to want me so i wouldnt look like the ass she would have boyfriends id have boyfriends every boyfriend we ever had always assumed something about us but we always denied it one boyfriend broke up w. her cuz she told him i was number 1 in her life and no 1 could change it thats wen i relized i had a chance so i tried a lil harder and about 5 months ago something happened where i didnt wanna speak to her look at her nuthin to do w. her this girl runs all the way to my house lookin for me hunting me down finally gets a hold of me on the fone cryin saying sgell make it up to me just meet her please so i do shes crying apologizong then i was like w.e. made her laff alil bit and she started saying how much she loved me im the only person that could make her this upset or happy and shes like have you ever thought about us being like that and i was yea sometimess she started sayin how she always did and asked me if it was okay if she kissed me i obviously said yea and ever since then weve been togetherr and honestly its like a fairy tale one of those itll never be i have no shot in life and u dream of that moment everynight then it happens im tellin yu from expirience make her fall in love with you lol it worked for me now im prolly the happiest person in the world and i feel like everybosy deserves to feel liekis its not fair for sum too be able to expirience somehting like this and other good people just dream of it good luck i hope your outcome can be like minee

im in the same situation,and i dont know what to do.ive known this girl for a year now,and she is simply the best thing that has ever happened to me.shes perfect in every single way,ive had a girlfriend before,but i was young so i never took it seriously.its different with her,she makes me feel like i could fuck the rest of the world and just do anything for her.shes the first thing i think of ,and the last to leave my mind.weve been through so much together.im not pervy,i dont stare at her ass or anything,i just watch her.just watch how she reacts at stuff,or the way she looks at people.she has a boyfriend now,and im so confused.shes shown me she might like me,the way she touches me sometimes.once,at a sleepover someone else was there,and we were sat next to each other and she slowly ran her fingers up and down my hands,then up my arms.she makes me feel so alive when she does this.i just cant help but be in complete love with her.if its the same,which im sure it is.there’s gonna be a moment,where everything is going to fall into place,and thats when you know.you tell her.its horrible to be bi,and fall in love.you just never know what to do. xx

I have the same situation, i was actually writing the letter to give to her tonight.. but I dont think I can tell her because I dont want to lose her. But like you said “She hits me gently on the shoulder when I make her laugh… she fights for the seat next to me… she loves to hug me… she picks me up and drops me off to class.” that is EXACTLY the same as me. Last night we both got pretty drunk and she was laying on me and she said happy new year and we started hooking up, then i just put my head down and we went again, we kissed about 7 times in half an hour. and then we had a shower and in the shower i was putting conditioner in her hair and we just started kissing again.. but i didnt want it to stop! i dont even know if she has feelings for me.. but im not attracted to ANYONE else!! not even hottt guys and hot girls.. shes the only one! helpppp

Im not a lesbian but I think that my best friend is. We have been friends for 4 years. We are very close and share alot of our personal business with each other. But recently, my suspicions of her having a crush on me has grown. She goes through my phone whenever she gets the opportunity, she gets upset if i dont answer her phone calls, and she doesnt like me to hang out with anyone but her. One day she found text on my phone from another friend and got mad and threw my phone. She told me that she was done being friends and never talk to her again. When I tried to talk to her she told me to “go and have sex with my friend” and ” have fun fucking in a orgie party”…. she acts out like this and will ignore all my phone calls for days! The funny thing is she has a boyfriend and lives with him. Is she in love with me but trying to fight or hide it??

Awww, I’m like 2 years late. Hopefully you told her you like her by now. I think she does like you. Keeep me updated this is a cute story I wanna know the rest ! ^_^

ive only fallen for a best friend once.
and trust me, no matter the situation if they know your gay or straight is hard.
coming out is a difficult situation. god knows i could have handled it better.
this girl, if she means this much to you, will always be in your life.
gay, straight, whatever.
she will always be there.
HOWEVER…
take into context the situation.
i would honestly suggest not confessing your complete emotional attatchment to her.
maybe wade your way in.
if she’s your best friend im sure she will understand if your gay. but also be prepared to have everyone else possibly find out.
in the case that they do and are douches, dont be ashamed.
keep your chin up, cause people are pricks.
but the way you talk about this girl i think you will be okay.
then just play it by ear. when you tell her and she’s okay with it, just treat it like any other friendship.
with any luck once she knows that your gay she may even possible begin to evaluate her place in your friendship.
just keep doing what your doing.
make your self happy.
be proud.
and everything else will just fall into place.
promise.

hiiiii

Don’t tell her anything , cuz tht might ruins your friendship , and if she means tht much to you , you rather keep her in your life cuz she might not respond to how you feel for her , then you ll lose her once for all .
U knw .. i have a bestfriend who also fights for the seat next to me and keeps tellin me how much she loves me and i surely love her back, but tht doesnt mean she s lesbian and “in love” with me.she s totally straight.hope you got my point .
Keep your bestfriend in your life,and one day u ll find “the one”.then you ll have someone who you truly love and loves u nack,and a bestfriend who completes u.
Good luck

dont worrie this happend to me too.im 15 and my best friend that iv known for about 6 years now i never thought i would fall inlove with her and i fianly did about 4 months ago i loe her so much i would do enything for her i trusted her enough to tell her so i called her up one day and told her how i felt about her if shes ur trully bestfriend she would understand u and she also told me how she loved me and that she would like to try it out but she has a boyfriend and we r together now shes the onlyyy person that knows.i love her so much.she was the frist person to kiss me well noo not true the first kiss we had she cought me by serprice and i knew that she was into me the next time we made out complitly it was the most amazing this ever iv never felt a kiss so amazing as this one did she might be moving to mexico and i hope not i would go looking for her. tell your bestfriend wat u feel tell her you dident plan this on happening it just did and that ur feelings for her a pure and clean thats wat i did!! try it girl happyness is wondeful especially when your with the one u whant!!!

Judging from my own recent,personal experience from a very similar situation–I would say, when you have a chance, you should definitely confess and be honest with her about your feelings, cuz you never know! I know it may be the hardest thing to do–but it’s something that(even if nothing ever happens) is healthy for you. And even if her feelings don’t reciprocate, at least you’ve made an attempt to let her know how you feel, and that you won’t hold any regrets later on in life.

I’ve recently confessed to one of my really really dear friend, whom I’m really in love with right now. And unfortunately, she’s not gay, but straight…she actually took it really well. She said she’s not creeped out, and actually comforted me and gave me a friendly kiss on the cheek…it’s really hard to have strong feelings for your very close female friend…so I know how you feel. It’s worse for me actually, because, she seems to be very oblivious to how strongly I am attracted to her ( like she would think I am her close girlfriend, so she’ll change in front of me naked…or caress me hard) but trust me, she’s totally straight, and only likes men.

Since confessing to her, she’s not been acting weird in front of me, or am weirded out by me. So I’m happy, even though I’m sad the fact that I couldn’t be with her…

Eventually, i’ll get over her, but it’s painful, really painful,, to fall in love with a straight female friend whom you’re really close with.

I wish you the best of luck, hopefully you’ll be able to be together, or find someone you can love

I noticed that this was written in 2008, and people are still giving you advice.

Are you still in this situation?

This exact situation is happening to me at the moment.
I’m in love with my best friend Peta, but I don’t know whether it’s lesbian love or just simply love for a friend. I really can’t tell the difference. She’s perfect in every way, and I’m starting to think I want to actually be with her, if you know what I mean. The plus side is, (like your story as well), she might like me back. We both kind of speak sexually sometimes but it’s always as a joke, at least I think it is. It’s just funny, that’s all. But lately it’s been more than just fooling around. We actually kind of act like lesbians. We sort of give each other hints of being lesbian – although I’m not entirely sure yet. Like she would say “You know your such a lesbian” and I would say “if i am that means you would be a lesbian too.” and we would laugh and carry on.
I really love her and it’s working out.

What I’m trying to say is that you should just leave hints here and there like I am doing. If worse comes to worse and she starts to think you are a lesbian, just tell her ‘oh you know it was a joke right….’ or something like that.

I know how you feel, just tell her on facebook or through text you have a secret, then ask if she wants to know, she will obviously say yes! Just tell her! I did this & my bestfriend said she loves me too! Now shes not just my bestfriend but my girlfriend! So speak your mind, if you dont you will never have a future together, if you think she loves you too then go for it gurl!!! Good luck xxx

I think you should tell her. If she’s really your best friend it’ll work out, wether or not she likes you back or doesn’t. I’m in your exact situation and after 3 years of having feelings for said friend, I told her. Nothing romantic came of it and I still feel the same way, but we’re closer than ever. If you are as close as it seems, it wouldn’t mess anything up.

Good Luck.

Well im in the same position! :/ its really hard i love my bestfriend more than anything in the world but shes “straight” well says she is but shes always flirting and twines when i dont ring her before bed to say good night and loveyou! She always says it back & tells me i mean the world to her! & always hugs me & gives es a kiss when i walk her home and shouts “iloveyou” down the road! and she knows how i feel because i told her shes my everything & i love her more than life its self and she turns around and says “i just dont feel that way! Im straight” but im really 110% positive shes bi! But she doesnt want to admit it because she got picked on alot at school and she thinks it will happen again but im the most popular lass in my town of 13-21year olds so i dont know why shes bothered when i choose her! Im the tomboy of this equation always wearing joggers and hightops! Im a boxer and iv told her i can keep her safe and protect her! Everyone knows i could make her happy & everyone excepts it but its like shes lying to herself! She keeps saying she loves me and shes just scared to let people in because she gets hurt! :/ do i keep hanging on or should i move on?

When you and your best friend are alone tell her if she’s a true best friend she will understand I date my best friend and were lesbians I told here at my house by grabing her boobs and pulling down her pants and licking her pp and then we started being lovers now every night we have sex.
(but we had bf at first so we broke up with them.

I’m in love with a close friend also. I’m Bi, but I havent confessed this to her, or anyone for that matter. She is divorced with 2 teenagers. Her 11 year old daughter & I have become close & she always wants to come stay with me. My friend has sent mixed signals— some good, some bad. She talks about having little “crushes” on a few guys, all of which are married men. However, I’m the one she calls every morning & every night before she goes to bed. We spend alot of time together & she & I flirt ALOT with eachother. She calls me “baby”, “honey”, etc. She touches my thigh if we’re in the middle of laughing, fixes my shirt sleeve if it’s not straight, hugs me before I leave her house—- Sometimes, when we hug, we both hold onto one another a little longer than normal & our embrace is tighter than a normal friendship hug. She talks about future plans & how she wants me to go on vacation with her & her kids, as a family. And she makes comments about she & I moving to Florida & living together (we both HATE Winter!) One time, she was talking about us going to a college football game & how we could just be lesibans together. How should I take that comment? Was she joking or really serious? She is sending so many mixed signals- I really believe she’s in love with me, but I’m not totally sure just yet. I want her SO BADLY. She’s on my mind all the time. I want to kiss her, it kills me bc I cant. She is so beautiful, its difficult for me to look her in the eye without smiling. I dont think I’m going to tell her how I feel. I dont want to lose her friendship or the relationship I have with her Daughter. I’m just going to wait & see what develops. I have spent the whole Summer with her bc she owns a pool – I’ve stayed overnight a few times, but slept in her Daughter’s room by myself. She’s been late getting me up a few times & says she didnt intend to, she just didnt want me to leave. Again, another mixed signal! Soo…time will tell what happens. I know I’m completely in love with her. She gives me butterflies & I start to sweat when she’s around. Silly, I know, but…..that’s what love does to you I guess. I’ve read all the comments above. I wish good luck to everyone! Make love, not war!

i have a friend named anne-hamilton and she looks cute and i made her so popular and now everybodys her friend .but now i cant stop thinking about her.i think about her kissing me and stuff.but i try not to think about her. shes really confuseing me. i dont know what to do?

I was in the same situation, and I just worked up the courage and told her one drunken night…she was weird about it at first, but it just took her a couple of days to adjust to the thought, and I’m now the happiest girl in the world What I had imagined of for so long is now real!

I’m in love with my “used to be best friend. We have known each othe sence the 2nd grade. And web are in 7th now. I have liked a girl in the past and a lot of people kind of know but they think it’s not true now. But over the summer I told the girl I liked and she understood cuz she knows I’m bi. So I asked her wht she would do if I kissed her and she said she would kiss me back but I also said I would never do tht. So tht day we hung out and say a movie and had a good time. But tht night I thought of making out with her. So I slowly pretended my hand fell over her. We were I. A twin sized bed… Idk y tho…. But I feel like she liked me back so how but ik she is straight. So I slowly began to grab her hand and we began rubbing each others hands and holding them. Then I moved my hand to grab the other one but pulled back cuz I was scared tht she wouldn’t like it. But then she grabed my hand again and we were now facing each other and rubing each others arms. Then I asked if she was scared and she said no. Cuz she knew I was going to kiss her cuz are faces we really close. So I slowly moved in but she went right for it and stared kissing me. We kept on kissing and she then put her leg on top of me. So we had been kissing in bed in till my dogs made noise and we stopped. I asked if she wanted to do more but she said it felt weird but now I’m confused cuz she went right for it and she was giving me signals that she liked me back.

Im in about the same situation as everyone’s..
I’m in love with my bestfriend. She has a boyfriend.. But I think she might have some feelings towards me. We are pervs, and we joke around about sex a lot. Like, She works with me, and one day she said “I say we just go back to your house and cuddle.” But then we just laughed. And we make jokes like that.. And I was reading an Internet page on things to do when youre bored, and it said “Explore your sexuality” and she said “Okay!” and I guess it took me too long to say something because when I looked up at her she said “I was just kidding. :/”.
We hug a lot, and tell each other we love each other, but I don’t know.
I’m scared to tell her.. And it hurts because I’m always having to help her in her relationships. But I feel like I can tell her everything and trust her with my life.. She is amazing. I was thinking about us getting drunk one night and me telling her how I feel, and if she doesn’t take it too good, just blame it on the alcohol.
Please help? I know this post was from awhile ago, but y’all don’t know how much help I need, I’m hurting so bad. Please help me.

we are in the same situation. actually, last year i was so confused either to tell her or not about my feelings. because i can’t fight my feelings anymore during those time, i confessed. at first, she said, am “are you serious?”. then she commend me for having the guts to confess my feelings to her. well, the bottom line is, i was rejected. after that rejection, my whole world collapsed, being drunk every night etc. i really regret my confession to her. because of that, she won’t talk to me, as if i didn’t really exist at all. the friendship was just wasted and was thrown away just like that. still, we see each other in school, because we have the same classes. i have a very difficult time in moving on and getting up after that incident. and now, it would be a year since that incident, and i’m very proud to say that i totally moved on. whenever i see her at class, it’s like we’re just acquitance. we just talk on important things related to our subject and etc, and nothing more after that

Tell her! If he’ really your best friend, she’ll understand, even if she doesn’t feel the same way. I’ve been in love with my best friend for over a year and she found out. It didn’t change anything between us.

I told my best friend I like her…which isn’t true because I am crazy about her all I can think of is her she is my everything. I wish that she could love me back because then I would be the happiest person alive! I wish I had the courage to tell her all the things I love about her like the way her eyes remind me of the ocean and when I hug her I feel like I’m home and I never want to let go. I have had dreams about her, nice dreams not kinky ones where I kiss her and run my hands over her body. I know this is from a long time ago but of u r still friends with her and still feel the same way becasue I feel better for telling her, she also knows I’m a lesbian and is the only one. X

I know the feeling, I been through it but it depend on your best friend, how much you could trust her,how much she willing to understand, the girl I love is my best friend, she the person I couldn’t lived without, I love her since the first day I met her, she is my first love, my only first love, back then I always wonder what she would say if I confess to her, a year gone past I confessed to her, and she accept who I am, she said she love me, how I always be there for her for better and for worst, make her laugh and smile and just because who I like,what I am, who I am, it won’t change nothing so treat your girl right,she might not be my girlfriend but she still right by my side, if you truly love her, make her smile because her smile are meant to be the most beautiful smile to you even if it might not be relationship you dreamt about with her but love is just making your girl happy, be right on her side when she needed and don’t be scared to confess, tell her cos my best friend taught me if you meant to be, you will always be and everything happen for a reason but sometime you might don’t know the reason yet, you got nothing to loss,tell her and if you loss her,she never belong to you, hide it from her and she still will never will belong to you cos she don’t know the big part of you

I know what it feels like to be in love with your best mate, i even dated my best mate for a while but people started to find out that we were dating so we broke up and never talked about it again. I barely ever see her now because she moved house but i wish we could get back together. It all happened because she was sleeping round mine that night and we always used to sleep in my bed together even though it wa a single bed but then we were talking about who we thought were staright out of our classes and then she came out with it and asked if i was a lesbian. I said yes and she knew i was telling the truth so she told me the truthand told me she was a lesbian too, she even told me that she had major feelings for me. I was relieved that i didn’t have to ask her the questions but then it did start to get strange and uncomfortable round my mum so we told my mum and she thought i was lying so we just left it and never spoke about again. So, my word of advice is wait until you have been with your girlfriend for a couple or few weeks and you know that you really have feelings for each other, also casually drop hints to your parents like what would you do if i was a lesbian and ask for your girlfriend to come round more, it really helps. After you have done them things above it would probably be best if you tell your parents, i found it easier talking to my mum and i know my mate did aswell but try not to keep it a secret for too long because it will only make it worse. If people at school tease you about it just ignore them and get on with your life with your girlfriend because they will soon forget about it and stop bothering you if you ignore them because they will only tease you in the first place if they think you will have a major reaction to it. I hope this has come in handy to all of those who love their mates but don’t know what to do!

heyy you know something i was in the same situation . we went to one school and i really was in love with her one day i couldnt stand it anymore so i decided to tell her we both r muslims.so i was at her house and then i told her that i’m in love with her first she was shocked but she told me she loves me 2 and we kissed.we were together for 1 year … then something really bad happened her mum saw us kissing then her mum started to hit me all over my body :S:S and told me bad things it was a big problem.now we dont have contact at all … look i think u should tell her if she loves u she will tell u and if not u will stay friends becoz if she is really ur best friend she wont leave u becoz of this…
believe me