Crushing On The Older Woman
I’m just going to throw this out there and hope someone gives me a fresh perspective.
I just ended my relationship of three years because she had sex with a guy. So there’s that. We still live together, in separate rooms and worlds. I’m working to get out of here as quickly as possible.
About three months ago, I started to become close with L., a woman from work. She is not around much but enough that we had some laughs over the years; she finally insisted on taking me out for a birthday drink, and the friendship grew from there. She is 44. I am 23. We have a lot in common. It’s weird though. The time we spent together is not like time that I spend with everyone. We cuddle each other pretty often. There’s this hill we go out on and sit to watch the stars. When it gets cold we just cuddle up to stay warm. That eventually moved onto spooning. We have slept together a few times. A few days ago, we shared a bottle of wine, talked some about my ex and hers (she lives with him but they’ve been apart for years; she also has two kids, who are closer to my age than she is). She had mentioned something before about having been “drawn” to me. She told me the other night that she’s attracted to me. And was before I came out to her, for like a year before we became friends. She says she’s as surprised by it as me, but it is what it is.
“Knowing” that she was straight, I never considered attraction an option – at least not in my consciousness. But cuddling her did make me horny on a few occasions. I don’t really know how to react to the whole “I’m attracted to you and have been for a while” thing, and the age factor is bugging me. I guess when it comes down to it; I’m not sure how I feel about it all yet. But I thrive on perspective, and I’d love some.
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. About your experience i think...
I find myself in a situation sort of like yours. I’m crushing on a woman 22 years older than me. (I am sort of envious of you). I don’t really think you should let the age thing bother you much. If you believe the both of you are at the same maturity level and have many (or any) things in common, I doubt it would hurt to give it a try…unless of course it a really good friendship that you don’t want to ruin. I don’t know if this helped any but good luck in whatever decision you make.
omg – same thing here. 30 years older (see “Twice my age and hot”)…
Go for it, what are you waiting for??! That’s my perspective, sorry. It’ll take you where it’ll take you… That’s for the age difference… But isn’t true for any relationship? You’re not planning to get married and have kids together, are you? So, love each other, NOW!!!
ok, ok
we made out last night
mmmmmmmmmmmmm
thanks.
OH MY GOD I’M SO JALEOUS!!!!!
DETAILS DETAILS, NOW!
ps: I’m going nuts
In this case I am the older woman and She is in a forty year heterosexual marriage that has gone flat. We are both waiting for him to have his third heart attack because she would feel too guilty leaving him in his old age! I spend a lot of my time just waiting for her and she is in complete control. It is not an equal relationship and I have tried many times to escape but just go completely suicidal when I even think about it!
Hope you were joking about the heart attack bit. :-/
Yeah!
It sounds like you’re going to cause him a heart attack!
Details?
We had a bonfire in her yard and cuddled. She said her back hurt, so she took off her shirt and I rubbed it. When I was done, she redressed but left the shirt unbuttoned. We were laying down, and she kissed my neck some then just looked at me and said, “May I?” Of course she could.
She said after that she’d wanted to do it for a long time, but “once you start doing it, you can’t not do it.”
GOOD JOB my friend. Enjoy. Don’t stop.
sigh.i’mvery envious,and happy for you!enjoy.