Out Of The Closet: Tell Us Your Coming Out Story

Ohhh… I love to read coming out stories! Maybe there should be an award too… “best coming out story” :p Mine’s not particularly exciting, but I’d love to hear everyone else’s coming out stories

i posted my story but don’t see it yet?

My story is a little out of the ordinary, well for me it is. I am married, and suspected I was Bi for a long time, because I was married. The longer time went on the more I realized that I did not like men (at all, except my husband) and only women. While my H and I were installing a new ceiling fan, I blurted out, “I’m a lesbian!” My H stopped and looked at me and we talked about it. I went back in the closet to him for a long time, but stayed out to my sister and friends. I was kind of hoping “being gay” would just disappear. I am now openly gay to everyone at the age of 27, and I am accepted by the most important person, my H. We have decided to stay married, but not in the traditional sense. I love him, because he is my best friend and greatest supporter. He is open to me dating, but I have not even been able to allow myself to be okay with the idea.

So, that’s it. That is how I came out of my really weird closet.

i came out 6 yrs ago when i was 32. i was living in kansas city and at the end of my marriage. i met someone who just moved to kc from texas. she was a lesbian and she is the one who helped me come out. i didn’t even know what was happening. but after hanging out with her and then meeting someone i came out. i didn’t even really tell my parents and i was living with my girlfriend at the time. they just kind of figured it out. i didn’t feel as if i really had to sit them down and tell them because i was 32 and had 5 kids. i mean i didn’t feel as if i really had to explain anything to anyone. i am so glad i came out though and that amber helped me do it. i don’t think she really knows how she helped me.

Yeah I was 14 when I was outed. It was my freshman year of highschool and it was pretty awful. I had been friends with this girl for a little over a year and she was out and was a few years older than me. I literally fell for her as soon as I met her. I was living with my conservative aunt and uncle at the time and one day while I was at school they found a “love letter” from her in my room. When I got home from school that day and every car that belonged to every member of our family was parked outside of the house I thought I was going to shit my pants. My aunt had been up my ass asking me questions like, what did she and I do when we hung out? Why would she want to hang out with someone who is younger? And saying things like, she’s going to try to convince you you’re gay (As if I needed any convincing!)… anyways I had a shitty rest of the afternoon and I decided to move back in with my mom that very night because she was a ginat pushover and they had been telling me that I couldn’t see her anymore. Needless to say about a month later she was living with me at my moms. To think about it now it’s kind of crazy that I was living and having sex with the person that I was in a relationship with when I was so young, but with her it just seemed so normal. Anyways shortly before all of that happened I was outed at school and it was this big scandal. I’m pretty femme so it was this shocking news that spread in a matter of hours. Everyone was harassing me and shunning me and it was really difficult to deal with. I felt really isolated and I didn’t really have anyone to talk to. Thank GOD for my school counselor who by the way was a lesbian=)(and a life saver). Anyway back to my story she and I dated until I was about 19. I’m 23 now and we still talk occasionally…well she’ll drunk dial me to remind me how much she loves me And I tell her that I love her too but that it would never work, which it wouldn’t. My aunt is still in denial and just thinks I “haven’t met the right guy yet” *vomit* and my mom and I were talking like 6 months ago and I was talking about being gay and she truly believes that that was when I came out! She apparently is that dense, I had know idea, I mean I love her but you’ve got to be kidding me. I don’t know what else could have made it anymore obvious! Anyway, she came to the prop 8 protest that we had in Kansas City on the 15th, so that was pretty cool. Unfortunately a lot of people don’t have that much or any support from their parents so I definitely recognize that and appreciate it. Anyways that was the extended version of my coming out story, hope you enjoyed it!