Meeting Girls?

Hey Mate,
How far out of DC are you? If you take the red line to Dupont Circle and pick up the washington blade (DC’s gay magazine from the newspaper stands next to the subway - it is usually a black plastic stand) (the online version is http://www.washblade.com/), you’ll find everything that is going on in detail. There is an awesome gay bookstore in dupont circle called Lambda Rising you should definitely check out. Well, I liked it…

They also used to have a women’s discussion group close to the dupont circle stop in one of the churches nearby (it is generally advertised in the blade - can’t remember the name of the group, but I thought it was pretty good and they all usually go out for dinner afterwards. Pick up a copy of the blade and you’ll see it advertised -> there are quite a lot of girls in early to late 20s though so I don’t know if that is too hold for you. But yeah, the Blade’s your starting place is my bet.

Have a good time!

I’d say just be yourself. A lot of people strive to be more open-minded this days, so it may not be a big deal. Try to find other common grounds, but you don’t announce yourself; your sexuality is ultimately your business. It’s not like you’re a leper. You are a person before you’re gay, straight, black white, male, female, and I truly believe that. If she does have reservations about gay people, but gets to know you first, your potential roommate may see “hey, all dykes aren’t just looking to jump the next female”. She may even guess or bring it up herself. If there is noticeable tension and you believe it’s about THAT, just ask her to chat & be like “hey, I noticed there’s some tension- did I do something to upset you?” And then listen, and try to answer any questions(unless they make you uncomfortable- like “what is lesbian sex?” I usually say “it’s between two women” hehe.) Bigotry is just ignorance, and its not always a willful ignorance. If she makes a remark about she can’t stay with you because of it, say “I’m sorry you’re offended by this matter. I will understand if you seek to find a new roommate.” And leave it at that. You’ve done nothing wrong. If there is a problem that you can’t deal with, go to an administrator & request a new roommate. Being understanding is good; being a doormat is not. Just remember, you never have to defend the way God made you. Just have an “I am what I am” attitude. Drama is the perpetration of two people, so do your best to avoid it. (which it sounds like you plan to )
But whatever you do, don’t anticipate a problem. Just be cool, friendly (but not pushy), and roll with the whatever happens. When I came out to a good friend, she stopped talking to me for a year, but we’re pretty cool now. She just had to realize that I haven’t changed because of the person I’m dating.
Good luck, and enjoy college!

All I have to say, is that I have a friend who was in the Navy and found a whole gay crew there- I’m positive that if he can do that in the Navy, you can find a niche in your conservative school. The previous post was right too- be yourself, be nice, and get to know your roommate as a person, always being respectful. Most people really are more accepting if they actually know you first…though prejudice is everywhere, so if you hit it don’t be dismayed- there are more people who are accepting than aren’t, particularly around this area.

And do go to Dupont Circle and visit Lambda Rising- I’m not even from DC and I love going to that place!

I wouldn’t come out at school to your roommate unless you totally know she wouldn’t turn you in or make your stay at college a living hell. Just try and bait her in conversations and she where she stands on certain issues…go political…ask her if shes a conservative, and just start there…it should give you some clue as to what kind of response you get from coming out to her. Good Luck!!

hey, well what I did was that I joined some online clubs through “myspace” and stared to talk to them but be open minded about anything in ur life cause sooner or later the gaydar will go to action. also feel free to do what u want but be careful to who u say what. remember its ur life no matter what.

Oh hey! I’m in Maryland and I’m gay! There are others out there, I promise