More Confidence
Hi All, I am new out and am with my first girlfriend. I love being with her sexually but have no confidence. I sometimes say that I am tired etc. just to avoid things when the truth is I would love nothing more than to do a, b and c. I feel as though I don’t know what I am doing and feel silly. Has anyone got any tips as in turn-ons that I could try and tips for my confidence?
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I would tell your girlfriend exactly what you just told us. Good communication is key. No on really knows what they are doing at first any time they are with someone new. It’s all about exploring each other and learning what makes you tick, so to speak. Ask her what she likes, pay attention to how she responds to the different things you do. All women are different, and like different things. What works for you may not work for her, she holds the key to what she likes so don’t be affraid to ask. And don’t worry about feeling silly, everyone does.
It’s true that everyone likes different things so you should ask her to let you know what she likes. But also, a lot of people like similar things. Try stuff on yourself. Figure out what feels good on you and try it on her. Then you can tweak it based on her reaction.
You really have to find the confidence within yourself, if you’re not ready to be sexual like she wants to be, then tell her, she’ll understand you completely and maybe even try to help you out with becoming more confident by giving you reassuring words like “it will benefit our relationship and help us understand eachother’s feelings for eachother more” (cuz it does, trust me, I’d say that if you think no person would lol kinky much? idc.) and she could also talk to you about it and what gets her going, don’t be afraid to ask. I’ll give ya one thing that could (depending on the person) really help you out…: Touch, women love to be touched=] Women that don’t, MUST have reasons. And touch her everywhere, the pleasure spots on you could possibly be on her too;-). And when you guys are getting intimate, you do the things first, like makin’ the sexual moves on her instead, she’ll be sooo surprised=] (Hell, I’d be too if my gf was more like that, sometimes she is and “I’m like Woah, Nelly, what’s goin’ on here?” I would definently NOT say that though, lmao, too kinky).
Good lucks to you hun, and don’t be afraid to explore Her and yourself! Nothing wrong with that at all.
Loves, Ro