Sexual Problems? Help (Again…)!

Ok. I need advice or help or something. Two Problems here.

Me & my girl are sexual, you know, sexual (which our parents supposedly know about) anyways. When ever we are ‘in the mood’ (lol) we get sexual. Usually I end up being the arouser (person doing the arousing); which means I’m always being sexual to her more than she is to me. I mean I love being The Arouser, because I just do, it gets me going, I guess but, the odd thing here is, I’m never aroused as much as she is or at all. It confuses me a little…. ok a lot and bothers me because she feels bad and probably thinks that she can’t arouse me, I want to be aroused when I do things sexually to her, but it… just… doesn’t do it (hate my damn body lol), I’m not pressured to do it though, completely my decision.

Is there something I’m missing here? Am I un-arouseable by her or anything I do to her? Also, she is rarely The Arouser, I’m always doing things to get her going, but she rarely does anything back, I’m not sure if she’s afraid (even though we’ve been this way for some time and I was always the more sexual one) or scared that she’ll do something wrong and turn me off on it (highly doubt) but, I would love to be The Arousee (person being aroused). Sometimes I am and I love it and it does turn me on/make me aroused, but other times I’m not by some things she does to me, I love it all though. I don’t know, it’s confusing me. If I was The Arousee more often, would I be easier to arouse after? Because she is definitely easy to arouse in so many ways, but I won’t get into that. Is there something wrong with me? Is she doing something wrong? Am I sexually attracted to her? Have I ever been ready to become sexual? I know I am, but is my body ready?

We also finger each other (woo wee, is that shocking? ha.) Very point blank and out there, anyways… When I finger her, she hands down loves it and like gets lost in like ecstasy (which I love, god I love doing a lot of things to her), I love fingering her (sorry if that sounds weird, not my point), she tells me that I do it perfectly to her and it’s amazing and stuff but, when it comes to her doing it to me, it’s totally different. When she fingers me, it kind of hurts. First of all, we’re both new to this fingering stuff. Second of all, I’ve never had anything go in my vagina like she has (no men lol, but like tampons and a cathedral thing [medical reasons]). I can’t even put a tampon in. Third, I think she is unsure and a little nervous about it and stuff. Fourth, I think my body reacts with tensing up down there even though I really want it (damn body again), but I don’t know what to do. When she does it, it feels like a fingernail is getting pressed against my vagina or something (she doesn’t have long fingernails either). I don’t even know why it’s not pleasurable to my body, but I seriously want it to be.

She feels horrible about it and thinks she can’t finger me right or is doing it wrong, is there a wrong way to do it? She feels like she is the problem for it hurting, but I think it’s my own vagina. Because I even tried to finger myself or as some say masturbate and it wasn’t arousing me (despite the fact that I drained it all before fingering) but I’d expect it to arouse me again, it didn’t, I’m trying to figure out what’s wrong here, why I can’t get aroused and why it hurts. Someone help me. Is it because she’s doing it wrong? I’m not ready? Or there’s something wrong with my vagina? (I think it’s small) Why would it hurt? What can we do to help it be more enjoyable for me?

Please comment on both these problems, I need advice, I don’t want our sex life to go downhill, I love our sex life, it just needs fixing up, some one give me a hand… Sheesh, I’m a girl with a lot of problems… sorry to keep posting, I need help. Thanks for reading this very personal post, sorry if it’s a little too much or something.
K. Loves, Ro

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