My Girlfriend Has A Friend That Likes Her

I will tell you one bit of advice that someone gave to me when I was in a similar situation. The more you dwell or try to control the situation the more it fuels your lady to act. Your ideas and worries will come true. Although its hard you need to remember you are in a realtionship which is based upon trust. Worrying only creates a distraction on your mind that does not allow you to be commited to your realtionship, instead you end up having a realtionship with your worries. Trust that your girlfriend wont do anything and if you really belive she will then why are you with her. I hope you are able to trust her and work through this. Good luck.

I agree with SC, completely. Every relationship is a leap of faith. It’s tough, but that is all you can do- to trust her. Hey, at least your gf told you, right? Telling her who she should be friends with might not be such a good idea. How about try being friends with this person? Maybe if she gets to know you, she would feel guilty for hitting on your girl

Good luck!

While completely understandable, it is not a good thing for you to be so upset about this and like Pinky said, at least your girlfriend told you right. If you have a bad reaction each time she says something, she may not tell you the next time a girl likes her. This is all about having an open and honest relationship. You’re going to have to trust your girlfriend on this one and let her make the decisions on who she stays friends with – having ill-feelings towards this girl, esp when she is your gf’s friend will only make things worse because you will create a wall that will just make it uncomfortable for everyone involved and your girlfriend will probably ask herself if you are going to do this with every girl who says she likes her. This has nothing to do with the girl at work and everything to do with your trust in your girlfriend. There is no such thing as ‘I trust you but not the women who want to hit on you’. If your relationship truly is about love and respect, it should be the other way around – ‘I trust you, especially when I know you’re highly sought after’.

The only exception I can see is if your girlfriend does anything to encourage the feelings of this other girl, or encourages this girl to flirt with her (esp in front of you). That’s when I think it is appropriate for you to draw the line. However, the issue will not be with this other girl (it is irrelevant WHO the other girl is because it could be anyone that comes along) – the issue would be with you and your girlfriend. If she does these things, it is time for you and your girlfriend to have a talk and not blame the third party (who really is just exposing an underlying deficiency in the relationship).

Cheers

You could also tell her about your fears. Even if you trust her, you can still be afraid to lose her. Knowing someone is after your girl, can make you feel insecure. You are entitled to these feelings. Just don’t make your girl feel you don’t trust her, or ask her to stop seeing the other girl. You have to deal with the situation, but you can ask your girlfriend for help, by asking her to understand your feelings and reactions.