So New To All Of This And I’m A Little Lost
Okay, well I have recently admitted to myself that I’m a lesbian and have met a girl. We are both crazy about each other, which is good right? We are both on the girly girl side. We like the same things, we can talk and talk even if we have different opinions we don’t fight about it or feel the other has to admit that she’s wrong. Everything about our relationship so far is great, well except sex.
Neither of us have a lot of experience with women, sexually anyway, me none, she was with one other girl one time. Neither of us have dominant personalities so in the bedroom we are both a little awkward and well, kind of stumble around a lot. She’s afraid this is going to turn into a problem and we don’t want to lose something so great for something as trivial as sex.
I’m not exactly asking for sex advice, but what I’m asking is will we get better at it as we go along? We met online and neither of us have any lesbian friends. The one lesbian I know says we are doomed because neither of us is dominant in the bedroom. Are we doomed? Am I getting all worried over nothing?
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According to things I’ve read in forums, etc., even 2 butches can make it work… I assume it’s all about willingness to find what makes you both happy…. That quality you mention of not getting into fights and agreeing to disagree and it being ok I find it very positive and a relief, actually it sets appart relationships than can work and those that can’t to me, but it took me a while to learn that. No, I don`t have any lesbian friends. Maybe it’s all about trust and being ok if whatever you do doesn’t work for the other… I have as much experienece as you lover so, whatever, don’t take me too seriously.
I think that neither one of you is dominant is a great thing. That’s how I prefer my relationships. It can be a little tricky to sort things out if both people are reluctant to take the lead. But the best part is, that if you do it one day, she can do it the next day or the next minute. You can both experience what it’s like to be dominant/submissive, pursuing/pursued, etc. At some point, you probably will need to just take a deep breath and go for it. Just know that you don’t have to be the one to do it all the time.
On the bright side, I imagine the buildup to sex must be just fantastic. With each of you a little reluctant and only pushing the envelope millimeters at a time, the foreplay must go on for hours. What’s bad about that?
I think it will get better. You just have to gather your courage a little each time to try something new or first or whatever. The confidence will come and the pleasure with it.
your not doomed you both need to learn each others sexual needs so talk to each other and find out what you both like,this is also my first girl on girl relationship and i was scared and embarrassed at 1st but we have now been together a yr and the relationship and sex is great cause we tell each other what we want how we like it just have a drink and relax have fun even introduce toys etc.Hope this works.
Both be corageous!
) If this worries you, just tell her. Then you can both try to resolve it.
And talk about it (not in the bedroom