Straight-curious

I’m a gold star and I have thught about that on many occasions . ESP because all my friends are straight !!!!they talk about it all the time . Personally I wouldn’t risk a good relationship for a simplee curiousity.and like u said random men+sex doesn’t sound interstng or safe lol.

I wouldn’t risk your relationship for it either. You are a self-confessed lesbian so it probably won’t be any good for you so it’s not even a good trade. Wait until your relationship ends, if it does. Of course, your girl might be up for a threesome.

As far as soliciting a random man, I don’t think you’ll really need to. Explain to a couple of straight men of your acquaintance what a gold star lesbian is, and I’m sure at least one of them will be willing to ‘show you what you’re missing’. Or they’ll tell their friends and someone will attempt to get you into bed. It would be like a prize for them. Aren’t they so sweet? And this is where I have to stop myself before I start sounding like a man-hating lesbian.

Your curiosity isn’t unusual and doesn’t make you any less gay. I’m a silver star and though I don’t regret my one time with that jerk, I could certainly have lived without it. It’s definitely not worth breaking it off with your girl (since you say you’re very happy) to explore when I’m confident you wouldn’t enjoy the experience.

I understand that you’ll have a constant wonder about the whole idea until you try, but I’d wait until a true opportunity presented itself…true opportunity meaning you’re single, in a safe place, and kind of know the guy.

Good Luck

hmm, is this a question just for gold-star lesbians? please, someone explain what that means and how do we go about getting these stars… then maybe i will have a clue how to help you. is it like, when you do good you get a star? do you get a star for being a graduate of camp lickalotopus?

If I understood the L-word episode right, goldstar means you are a lesbian and never slept with men. Reading Evolution’s answer, silverstar probably means you’re a lesbian, but you have some experience with a man.

No gold stars for me. I was married. To a man. You said -

“Am I missing out or is it the same as strap on??”

No, not the same as with a strap-on. Strap ons come attached to lesbians and if women are what turn you on “the real thing” isn’t neccessarily an improvement. Men are hairy, don’t smell as good, skin is rougher. In my experience women know better how to use a strap on than guys know how to use their dicks. Foreplay? Afterplay? G-spot? What’s a G-spot? Okay, not all men are like that but enough. They’re cock-centric. There’s that primal urge deep within to impregnate whether they’re aware of it or not and it makes them less focused on pleasing their partner than in shooting all those little sperm. Sorry if I’m making anyone woozy. The point is men can be fabulous if what arouses you are men. In your case it doesn’t sound like it. Maybe just fantasize and leave it at that? Myself, I wouldn’t mess up a good relationship for curiosity’s sake.

i really wouldnt risk your good relationship over this curiosity. psychologicaly speaking its perfectly normal for a lesbian to wonder about straight sex and for a straight girl to wonder about lesbian sex. humans are curious by nature. but i am a gold star lesbian and i have thought about it. but id never acctually act on it.

On behalf of the bi chicks I have to speak up and say that I’ve had great male and female lovers, as well as both make and females who were more interested in their own pleasure.
It isn’t necessarily a gender thing it’s a quality thing!

How would your girlfriend feel about being involved in a threesome? Maybe you could casually ask if she’s ever thought about doing with a guy -I don’t see why you have to lie. You could discuss it -maybe you could both go and try it with a guy; I know some straight couples where the guy is happy for the woman to go and satisfy her bi curiosity…

: and not just because he wants to watch!