What’s My Problem?
I think I have a problem. I’m attracted to one woman one day then another the next. But the thing is that I don’t stop going from one to the other until I get them in bed, which lately it’s very often. I tell the girl the world just to get her to sleep with me, then she thinks we are dating then I leave her for the next “victim”. I lie to them all unconsciously at the time but later realize it. I will tell a girl anything and everything she wants to hear to get her to “fall” for me. I feel like one of those jerk guys who always does this to the girls like in the movies.
I haven’t always done this, but I think I do it because I’m afraid to fall for anyone. I fell in love once and got my heart broken and since then I have been like this. I have feelings for this one woman but it’s something impossible, but if I could have her she’s the only one I would want to be with and everyone else to me isn’t good enough, just good enough to sleep with. The reason I say she’s impossible is because she’s straight and married with kids. If someone could give me advice as to whether or not this is healthy not or what I should do.
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I won’t call your case typical, but it isn’t uncommon. The heart heals itself from being broken in a variety of ways and I think this just happens to be the way you’re coping. You still crave the same satisfaction you got from the one girl (not just in bed, but all those feel-good feelings you get from a relationship), but are now getting it from a variety of sources with much fewer strings. You thrive on the chase: meeting a cute girl, getting her number, making out, getting her in bed. It’s become clockwork, a science.
From my experience, your recent actions are a phase and you’ll eventually meet a girl who you consider “good enough.” How long does this phase last? It depends on the person. It could take months, could take over a year. I’d suggest you start looking in better places to meet girls. Are you finding all your prospects in bars/clubs? Make yourself slow it down. Go get coffee or lunch and avoid the bedroom.
As for the married woman, well, she’s straight. She has a family. Maybe you feel you could fall for her because your mind knows it’s irrational. I’d suggest you forget about a relationship with her and try and focus on finding someone you truly like who will like you just as much.
Good Luck
I completely agree with the person above…perfect advise…forget about the straight women and move on…you will find someone who is worthy al…just give it time and try not t sleep with to many women .::for your own health LOL
“I think I have a problem. I’m attracted to one woman one day then another the next. But the thing is that I don’t stop going from one to the other until I get them in bed, which lately it’s very often.” I…’m not seeing the problem