Will It Get Better?
I’m a 29 year old Canadian, living in Korea and I’ve met a super-nice, sweet Korean girl. We have gone on a few dates and she just came over to my house this weekend. We talked about having sex and she said she wanted to, even though it was her first time. She had a girlfriend back in college but they had only kissed and touched each other with clothes on. So we did have sex and it was very awkward. She was clueless, which was to be expected but as it turns out she’s never even masturbated so she had no idea about how to touch me (at all!) or even basic anatomy. I was touching her and could tell she was getting turned on but then she wanted me to stop because I think she was uncomfortable with these feelings she was having for the first time. So I was quite frustrated and she felt kind of embarrassed I think, although it was kind of hard to know with the language and culture barrier.
And so the thing is that I really like spending time with her. She’s cute, interesting, has a sexy body (!), and we like a lot of the same things. But I also like sex a lot and I’m not sure I really want to date someone if the sex is bad. But maybe it will get better? Anyone have any advice or experienced the same thing?
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I don’t read anything that sounds like either one of you is unhappy...
Well I remember my first time, and just like her, I was awkward, nervous, scared, etc. I’m pretty sure most of us went through that! All I can say is that if you really like this girl and think that the relationship is worth pursuing, then you should be willing to teach her. Be patient with her and make her feel comfortable; let her know that sex is a wonderful thing and nothing to be ashamed of. More importantly, the key is to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE~~ because as we all know, practice makes perfect!
Good luck, hun!
Yes, it will get better. She’ll probably catch on quite quickly. You, however, will ALWAYS be the teacher. Anything new, she’s going to be learning from you. The teacher role can be exciting, but after a while, you might want someone to take charge and know exactly what they’re doing.
It all comes down to how important the sex is for you to continue pursuing relationship. You enjoy her company and the two of you have a lot in common, so I certainly wouldn’t suggest dropping her, but I’ve found that it’s very important that lesbians be on the same level to have a successful relationship. I fell head over heels for my first girlfriend, but she was much more experienced than I was and the novelty of “breaking me in” faded after a while.
You might want to try touching yourself while she watches (and helps), and then have her touch herself while you watch. This is not only REALLY hot, but also a good way for her to learn what you like while getting comfortable with her own body and learning how to pleasure herself… which she should be doing anyway. Masturbation = friend.