Do You Think A Straight Girl Is Attracted To Me?
I’m a semi bisexual girl who has the biggest crush on a straight girl. I actually posted this story as a comment but I don’t think anyone will look at it or reply to it so I’m prepared to tell it again.
Ok, I’ve known this girl since I was about 9, maybe even younger. I didn’t start being attracted to her until I was about 16, and now I’m 18. It all started when we were in a group at our church and occasionally while we were on the bus to our destination we locked eyes but I didn’t think anything of it. But this past year she has been giving me plenty of looks, and locking eyes and stuff like that but I don’t know where all of this is going. Recently, this past Sunday was the first time I’ve seen her in a month. She was sitting in the front of the church and I was sitting in the back and for some reason she just so happened to turn around and look at me. Her being so far away I could not tell if she was actually looking at me or just in my direction, (she looks in my direction a lot!) but she was staring for a good minute, and I wasn’t so shy because she was so far away an she wouldn’t be able to tell if I was looking at her or just in her direction.
Well, the preacher asked if anyone was coming back to the evening service and she raised her hand and looked back “in my direction”. Since I knew she would be there, I made an appointment to be there as well. As soon as I’m escorted to my seat I see her on the opposite side of the pew I was sitting on. She was sitting where I could spot her easy since I got to church late. When she saw me, she immediately locked eyes with me and gave me a smile and look like she couldn’t believe I came since when she looked back at me when the preacher asked the question I did not have my hand raised. But throughout the service I tried to sneak a peak at her, and one time I caught her looking back at me but I quickly shifted my eyes afraid of what she might think, in case she was not the way that I’m thinking she is. I was so nervous that I didn’t look her way the whole service unless I was quite sure she was not looking at me.
I have a gay guy friend who tells me that maybe she just wants to have a conversation with me but I need more then that. I’m curious to know if she is into me or I’m just taking the way she looks at me way out of proportion.
But one last thing, one time I brought my guy friend to church for him to see how gorgeous she was and if he could see the way she looks at me and this is what happened. It was the end of the service and him, my cousin and I were walking a few feet behind her (not purposely, we just so happened to be leaving at the same time and parked near each other) an she literally turned her head just to look at me once she was outside of the door, and I do not know what that is about still to this day! But this girl always looking at me, I even caught her looking at me from the other end of the church when I was on the opposite side and she was standing still like I was the only one in the room.
Still I am not fully convinced; I try not to jump to conclusions when I think someone likes me or whatever this is. I am open to suggestions, and someone please let me know how I should handle this situation or am I just using my own imagination to think of something from what it really it is.
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Lipstick and Dipsticks, lesbian columnist in Portland have a long standing joke that going after a straight girl is a “homo no-no.” But if you are completely enamored by this girl, and you see her all the time at your church. Then maybe you shouldn’t worry about trying to gauge her for a relationship, maybe you should just go strike up a conversation. And work on becoming friends. It doesn’t matter if she is attracted to you, not initially. Because you would have to build up some sort of relationship anyway. And a person always has to begin from scratch at these things, so talking to her is going to be the best way to feel if she reciprocates your crush. If there are no outwardly signs when you talk to her, that would not necessarily be a sign that she is not interested, just rather shy. Start slow, have a conversation, work on friendship, and see where that takes you.
Good luck.
I agree with your gay guy friend… seems like she is trying to get your attention somehow- whether it’s romantic or friendly, who knows? I know it’s not much to go on, but October Blooms is right, you have to initiate the conversation. It’s the only way you’ll find out. Good luck, hun!
You haven’t said if you ever talked to each other in the past. Probably you never were friends as I can understand from your post. If I’m right, than you have to start from a “hi” and let a normal conversation begins. It wouldn’t be hard since she smiles to you when you see her. I’m sure she’s thinking about you why you’re looking at her too. I totally agree with October Blooms.
Good luck and don’t try to make snap conclusions.
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there was a girl i had science class with years ago and she would always stare at me and i never knew why .she was totally straight (i thought ) and popular and had alot of frieds in the class and i didnt really know anyone so i thought it was odd that she always stared at me ALL THE TIME . she started talking to me one day randomly and we became friends after that . soon she was at my house everyday spending the night all summer . long story short she totally made the moves on me one night wen we were laying in bed going to sleep . i was shocked !!! we dated for almost a year after that . ive learned that most lesbian or bisexual or bicurious girls will just stare at someone they like for a long time because they dont have the courage to go and talk to them . so chances are high that this girl likes you .
just take it slow and be friends with her. see where that leads. if it doesn’t lead to anything, at least, you’ve gained a friend.
This is interesting, I’ve had the same thing going on for quite awhile now. But truthfully, if I were you I’d go talk to her, she might wanta relationship with you, or maybe not. It’s hard to tell with these type of stories.
It’s nly a matter of time, confront her. But don’t talk about her staring you down. Clearly she desires something about you. Whether it’s friendship or a relationship