Does She Like Me?
I work with this girl, and since we’ve worked together we’ve started seeing each other socially too. We’ve been out a few times, but she has a boyfriend and so do I. My boyfriend has messed up so many times I’m sick of him and I’m just waiting to break it to him. I’m sick of being hurt and I deserve better. I’m openly bisexual, but when I first started the job I didn’t tell anyone. I went out with this girl one night and we’d been drinking so I said ‘I need to tell you something, I’m bisexual.’ She said ‘it’s alright mate, me too’. Since then I have had so many times where I’ve thought something would happen between us – but it hasn’t. I’ve been so used to just asking a girl to stay over after a night out, and she’s just made the first move, that I’m used to it. But she doesn’t. She stayed one night when we’d been out and she cuddled up to me, then I felt her fingers tracing up my back, just stroking me. It felt so natural, but I wanted more. I said ‘is it because of James that you’ll never just kiss me?’ and she said ‘it’s because I’m scared. I’ve got with girls before, but yeah I do have a boyfriend and to be honest I think there’s too much at risk… but I want to. You know I do. I just can’t.’
So I left it, and thought: fair enough, she has a boyfriend. But we went to a gig and I made a joke that she thought I was ugly, and she gave me the sexiest look I’ve ever received from a girl and said ‘you know I find you attractive hol…very attractive’. So now, whenever she hugs me or smiles at me or just gives me those looks, I’m entranced. It’s because I know that if her boyfriend wasn’t around then I would have been able to show her how amazing I think she is. But all the while now I’m trying to just be this fun friend to go out with, but I fantasise about her constantly. Doesn’t help when she sits opposite me, and she compliments me on my body all the time. I just don’t know if I should hang in so I can just get with her and see if she feels the same, or just try my darnest to push her out my mind?
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I don’t read anything that sounds like either one of you is unhappy...
First things first- end it with your man. I’m not just saying that because I’m rooting for your gay side (ha, that sounds funny), I’m saying it because you sound sick of him.
As for the girl you work with and have been hanging with, give yourself a hypothetical: Imagine that you guys DO hook up and have amazing, mind-blowing sex every night you hang out. Is that going to be okay with you? Is her cheating on her boyfriend going to bother you? Is getting the physical part of a relationship without any emotion or commitment okay? Or do you want something more from her? If you’re okay with a steamy make-out session without the strings every now and then, go for it. If you think a physical relationship will make you yearn for something deeper, stay away until she’s single.
Good Luck
She’s teasing you and she knows it — because i do it too…well who hasn’t? Just let it be, she enjoys making you feel the way you do and when she becomes single, go for it.
cheers guys,i took your advice. read my post thats coming out soon. well funny.lol x
I’m about to read your next post but before I do, I’d like to say to Evolution: If they did hook up while she was with her boyfriend, commitment is obviously out of the question, but emotion isn’t. From the way she sounds, I doubt she’d want to share this girl, but who’s to say that the girl she likes doesn’t feel exactly as she does?