Is She Really Into Me?
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I’m a bisexual in junior high and I’ve been really confused lately about the girl I’m into who happens to be my friend. First thing she’s not either bi or lesbian.
I’m confused about how she feels about me. When we’re talking she looks at me like she wants me to kiss her. When were alone its like she flirts with me, she touches my leg and when I notice she just smiles. She says she admire me a lot but for her own personal reasons. She always wants to hug me and when she does she touches my body. When she looks me in the eyes her face turns red, she loves to call me babe and hun. After she flirts with me sometimes she gives me a cold shoulder.
Recently I fell for a girl who told me she liked me. I was dumb to believe her. She lied to me and I fell in love with her. I don’t want to fall for a girl who wasn’t straight about her feelings towards me.
The girl I like now is beautiful no doubt that I’m attracted to her but I’m unsure of her feelings. I really need help. I don’t want to wreck our friendship and I don’t want to miss out on a great girl. I really need someone advise on this. Please help me on this one.
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I say you steal a kiss from her and see what happens… but do it when no one’s around!
Im just going to get straight to the point chicky & hope my advice helps.
First when she hugs you she’s going to touch you, your going to feel all gigly and think its more then just a friendly hug. But thats may all that it is. As for when she may be flirting with you… She may just trying to be there for you as a really good bff.
I think that she likes the idea of a bi girl having feelings for her so that she can feel like she attracts both sexes. Which may not be her thing. Only thing to do is to ask her when you guys are at a party or something where you’re not alone so their wont be as much pressure to answer the question because there’s distractions & everyone is off doing their own thing.
Drop some hints every now and again too, not big ones like “if i was a guy i’d like to go out with you” and those sorts of things. Just subtle things like, i like the way you dressed today or did your hair, or u look really hot in that. That way from her reactions you’ll be able to know whether to go forward or to just keep it at friends. My guess is she may be a little bit curious but from family values or other things she may not feel as confident about trying it.
If all that doesnt work, get drunk and ask her directly but dont make a move on her, until you find out the truth because she may not swing that way?
Have fun, hope my advice works
Simone thanks for the advice going little by little helps,I like the drunk idea though(easier).lol ^^
Uh, I’d nix the advice to get drunk — considering first of all that, hey, you’re still in junior high, and second of all — I don’t know if you’re at this point in your teenhood yet, but when I was a kid and went to parties where people were getting drunk, the girls tended to make out with pretty much everyone. Some of them turned out to be gay or bi, but most didn’t. Drunken behavior at the age of fifteen tends to be a pretty poor predictor of future sexual orientation, I’d say.
This girl? It sounds like she at least likes the idea of being desired by you. As to whether or not she’s into you, maybe she’s being deliberately unclear about her feelings, and maybe she’s being unclear because she hasn’t figured that out for herself. Try asking her — not in a big, serious, scary “I need to ask you something” way, but the next time she gets all flirty, bring it up lightly — “You know, it kind of seems like you’re flirting with me,” or something. Something easy to brush off on either end.
But recognize that even if you get a positive response, things might be rough for the two of you. If she is into girls, this is probably a pretty new realization for her. If you date, you’re likely to be facing social pressures that might well weigh on her more than on you. This is certainly not said in the way of discouragement — yay young love! — but do recognize that it might not be smooth sailing even in the best-case scenario.
DEE-I really don’t want to date a girl who never dated another girl, my ex-girlfriend plaid me.And the drunk idea I was just joking, I wouldn’t drunk my friend I want a answer when shes sober. My friend is crazy enough I prob would kill her if shes drunk. LOL JK
We got into a problem where we almost kissed any advice for that one
alrighty =)
well with the whole “almost kissed thing” why dont you discribe what happened. that would help us =)
we were just talkin about releationships and she walked away(the floor was wet) she almost fell and I caught her. I was about to kiss her and then somebody came in da bathroom(skipping class dats y we were in the bathroom)so we didnt kiss