Still Questioning…
At 23 I had my first sexual experience and subsequent relationship with a woman after years of being straight. Two years later, I still struggle with figuring out whether I am bisexual now or a lesbian. I still feel like a straight woman who just happens to have a relationship with another woman. I find myself still attracted to men and some women but definitely picture myself with men, maybe because it’s easier (to picture). I find myself wanting to date other people and leave my relationship but I don’t know want to lose someone great just because I want to explore other options. How important is exploring with several people to maybe figure myself out, versus having a committed and fulfilling relationship that I could lose out on?
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Terms are not important. You are who you are, no matter what you call it. If you fall in love with a person, you shouldn’t question your sexuality all the time, just take it as it comes.
And if you are in a relationship and feel the need to explore, then do it… it’s no use to force yourself to stay with one person, if really you want something else. When you find the right person you won’t feel the need to explore anything anymore.
I agree that it really doesn’t matter what you call youself. You are who you are ~ straight, bi, whatever. But…I don’t think it’s the best idea to go off “exploring”. You could lose the best thing you ever had. We always think there is something “better” out there, a love that is perfect, a partner who will complete us. But, it honestly doesn’t work that way. We have to complete ourselves, and in doing that, we open up the door to finding so much more ~ there isn’t one specific person out there you are “meant” to be with. If you are ok with yourself, you’ll find being with someone easier, and so much better.