Drama Virgin

don’t feel bad about the situation because its not totally all your fault. she shouldnt have been playing games, leading you on, letting you think something was there that wasnt. to the part about calling her ex, oh well people do dumb things after drinking…it’s life. i commend you for trying to stay away from drama but women bring drama.

Just try to keep your cool and don’t do anything else dramatic or provocative. People get bored quickly and this will blow over if nobody keeps adding flames to the fire.

Sometimes it can be fun to add flames to the fire because if you are suffering inside, creating a big dramatic show can distract you from just how much it hurts to have feelings for someone who doesn’t want to continue things. Instead of thinking about how much you want to call her and can’t, you can think about facebook or these rumors or whatever else. There is no way around it though, it just really hurts and no amount of directing your attention elsewhere is going to make it anything else. My advice would be to spend time being tender with your bruised little heart, it sounds hard, and wait for this to pass.

If people want to attack you about it, you can just say very gently that you know it wasn’t a good idea to send the text, that you were hurting and drunk and feeling a little dramatic, but that now you are just back to focusing on your tender feelings and not wanting more drama. And then really really let it go. Other people will let it go when they see that they can’t poke you and get a reaction (and your friends will see the pain you are in and will want to support you in being healthy).

Good luck, I hope you have a nice easy week to rest and process all this.

It could be worse…….I met a man online and because he wrote that he was really a woman inside, I confessed that I was man inside, then we married because he was a 2X loser and I was 59 and single and facing retirement alone, my girl-friend having died 10 years before. She was my only love, and now he says that because we were not sexual, I was never really anything. Now he is terminally ill, and all my 39 years of labor and retirement have gone to him, and he says I am a bitch for wanting him to be forever grateful. And this whole thing is legal!! Meaning, forever! He had no retirement awarded nor savings, so I am doing all the work on the farm, and we are living on my and his social security and my retirement, and he has decided that he no longer feels like a woman, and that I was in error to ever think I could be a man (I am only 4’9″, and 80 pounds). He is over 6′ tall, but wasting badly, and I am beginning to regret my life. Especially the part that was so pressured into marriage by society, just because I never could marry a woman. At least yours does not have to end up in court costing you more than you could ever pay at 66 years of age!