http://www.thelesbianquestion.com/2009/10/01/im-confused-4/ Ask A Sister, We Always Answer Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:27:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://www.thelesbianquestion.com/2009/10/01/im-confused-4/comment-page-1/#comment-39530 sadsoul Thu, 01 Oct 2009 20:38:57 +0000 http://www.thelesbianquestion.com/?p=2070#comment-39530 Honestly it does not sound like you are a lesbian. Being emotionally attracted to women and being able to say they are beautiful don't make you gay. Maybe the problem lies with the relationship you have with your boyfriend. You may not be getting the emotional support from him that you may have gotten from a woman. That is a reason why so many women have had such wonderful friendships with each other. They often get the emotional support from each other because women get women. Some men are not capable of relating with their wives or girlfriends on the same level as women do with each other. So you have some gay male friends. That doesn't make a difference either. It sounds like somewhere in your life your emotional needs were met by a woman and now when you are stressed or dealing with hormones you are missing this. Men don't always know how to handle all the needs of women or at least be able to respond to their emotional needs. Female friendships that are real and true have alot of emotional attraction in them. It has nothing to do with your sexuality unless you are physically attracted to them and just want to be with them instead of a man. Yes there are lesbian relationships that revolve around emotional attraction but there is other desires that come into play too like physical intimacy. The desire to hold, to kiss or be near them. If you don't have those feelings don't knock yourself out worrying about it. Honestly it does not sound like you are a lesbian. Being emotionally attracted to women and being able to say they are beautiful don’t make you gay. Maybe the problem lies with the relationship you have with your boyfriend. You may not be getting the emotional support from him that you may have gotten from a woman. That is a reason why so many women have had such wonderful friendships with each other. They often get the emotional support from each other because women get women. Some men are not capable of relating with their wives or girlfriends on the same level as women do with each other. So you have some gay male friends. That doesn’t make a difference either. It sounds like somewhere in your life your emotional needs were met by a woman and now when you are stressed or dealing with hormones you are missing this. Men don’t always know how to handle all the needs of women or at least be able to respond to their emotional needs. Female friendships that are real and true have alot of emotional attraction in them. It has nothing to do with your sexuality unless you are physically attracted to them and just want to be with them instead of a man. Yes there are lesbian relationships that revolve around emotional attraction but there is other desires that come into play too like physical intimacy. The desire to hold, to kiss or be near them. If you don’t have those feelings don’t knock yourself out worrying about it.

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