Justified?
I fell for a friend a couple of years ago, but as she’s straight I let it be and didn’t tell her. Over the last six months we got closer, to the point that friends began assuming we were in a relationship. She said she was attracted to me, she loved me, and she wanted more; I was overjoyed and agreed. We started kissing, and a month ago we had sex for the first time – she set the pace of the sexual side of the relationship. Both of us were happy with where we were and open with each other, and though we didn’t refer to each other as ‘girlfriends’ we were in a mutually committed relationship, or so I thought.
Recently she told me she’s found a boyfriend. She seems to expect me to immediately put aside the ‘girlfriend’ role, take on the role of ‘friend’ and be pleased for her. I’m heartbroken and finding it impossible to be happy for her. I want to pull away for a while to calm down so I don’t act/speak rashly, but she wants to stay as we were except without the sex. Do you think my hurt feelings and desire for space is justified, or am I being selfish?
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I think she needs to be kicked to the kurb for that! unbelievable, poor you. You are better off moving on and finding a woman who dose not think you are a toy to play with until a man comes along. I think she has behaved very badly.
Agreed, agreed, agreed.
What an ignorant you know what…
Also to think that a woman-woman relationship is not as significant, or does not deserve the same kind of emotional consideration as a woman-man relationship…. She doesn’t deserve your attention. You need to stay as far away from her as you can to let yourself heal… sorry that happened to you.
Whaddabitch!
You absolutely have every single right to be hurt. There was no right for her to use you as an intermediate and toy with your affections like that. To be honest, I would confront her, though I don’t know if that would work in your situation. I personally would not let this slide.