I Just Realized I’m a Lesbian

we are now in the 21st century, and i think people should erase descrimination whether racial, cultural or sexual. we have to accept and respect our differences.

you can’t judge an individual looking at their sexual orientation, its the personality of the person that matters not his or her gender.

personally i dont care if you’re a lesbian or gay. and let’s face it, most of the individuals excelling in various fields are those 3rd sex individuals…

It’s a matter of choice and i dont think its just to condemn them for something that isn’t even a crime.
I also would like to quote that god see’s us all through our hearts and nothing more…

Love your lesbian site:

Im a lesbian and been lez for the last 15 years

Hi. I’m 22 and also just came out to (some) of my family. I’ve pushed being a lesbian out of my head for many years, but now I feel like it’s something I need to take control over. Just last week I came out to my best friend. She is a very conservative Baptist as well. It was the hardest thing to do, and it was almost a week before we could talk. The good thing, we talked for an hour. The not so good thing, she is still convinced that I am going to Hell and that I am just “confused”. She claims that she will never be able to accept this fact. I have not been a believer in God until this past year, and even then, it is shaky and sometimes non-existant. What I do know though, is that God created each of us, and he created us to love and not judge. I hope that people will realize this someday. I have not been with a woman yet, and the more people tell me that I am just “confused”, the more I FEEL confused. It’s a vicious cyle, and it sometimes just plain sucks. I’ve made an appointment with a pastor from a church who, while they do not believe that being gay is fine, accept people into the church. It might be to “save” them. Either way, I am going to go talk with the guy and find out more about what he thinks, this way, when I talk to my friend again, I can understand her more. Change the things you can. You can’t change your friends or family’s views, but you can change and decide how you handle them. I made a mistake. Before I told my friend, I was so freaked out about it, that she did something so minor as to not even register, and I got so angry and said some hurtful things. Fear was in control, not me or God, or peace or love. Take the time to breath and think. If you are thinking you are lesbian, that won’t go away, so taking time is not a problem. I’d really like to talk with you more or something if you want. I don’t know any other lesbians or questioning people (well…two, but they are 30 years older than I am…), and I sometimes feel at a loss because of that. If you ever want to e-mail, I’m at for_one_reason@yahoo.com

Be strong, chica.

…also, I’ve gone a couple of times to Metropolitan Community Churches… they are all inclusive… if you want to find/talk to God in an environment that you won’t feel like you’re not accepted, see if there is an MCC near where you live.

This sounds like me. Except I’m still in denial (Sophomore in college). I don’t think I am ready to accept anything yet.I kind of want to but at the same time I think it is not worth it.

I found that attending a really great church helped me with this. I go to an episcopal church that is very radical. We rewrote the liturgy so that it is gender-accurate and our readings from the bible are also gender-accurate. We don’t talk about “Lord” this and that, we talk about Adonai (a name for God that has never been used to designate any human relationship of domination or oppression.) We don’t talk about “kingdoms,” we talk about the “kindom.” We use imagery for god that has female elements, male elements, and other-gendered elements (one of my favorite songs has a line that says “the trout looking up in your face is a song from the Holy Spirit”) We talk about finding God in the creative power of life and in life’s longing for itself, and we talk about our urge to *be* in this world as a manifestation of the holy spirit working in each of us. Our priest is a woman and it is really something to see so many women running the show.

You would be amazed at how much is imposed on the bible and how different it is to encounter it in a really liberating and freedom-loving community. There are very healthy and robust theologies out there that can support your development into your full self. I have found that encountering a really liberating theology has been huge for supporting my efforts at self-development. Now I see those other churches as fallen, very much in need of redemption, and hurting a lot of people through their sinful use of the christian wisdom tradition.

Here is another of the songs we sing, this is the preface to the communion:

Eternal Spririt, Heartbreaker, Lovemaker, Painbearer, Source of All that Is and that Shall be . .
Father and Mother of us All living creatures in Heaven . .
The Hallowing of your name, echo through the universe
The way of your Justice be followed by the peoples of the world
Your heavenly will be done by all created beings
Your commonwealth of peace and justice sustains us in hope.

(I love imaging god as a painbearer, and a lovemaker)

Now when people start talking about God with me, I am well prepared to meet them on their own territory if I choose to do so, to engage in nonviolent practices of kindness and awareness, to reveal the pieces of liberating truth that have come to my own personal awareness so far, and most importantly I do not get shaken in my sense of who I am by somebody else’s narrow, unenlightened, and undeveloped conception of who God is.

PS I can’t stand to hear God referred to only in male language anymore. It makes me suffer so badly. If people just talked about god as white– “Oh heavely White Jesus” or whatever– it would be a real problem. I don’t understand why so many churches see nothing wrong with referring to God exclusively as male. Aren’t women co-participants in what is holy in this world? The liturgies and worship should reflect that. We all need to get hip to the power of language here.

I hope those of you who are visiting baptists for counsel will start to tune your ears in to a lot of the content of what they say, and the way women are positioned in relationship to God. When you really scrutinize the content of what they’re up to, you may see that it doesn’t offer that great of an avenue for self-respecting women of ANY sexual orientation.

I hope the suffering that these ideologies are causing you personally will help support your efforts to really go all the way with your critical engagement. The rejection of gays is just one manifestation of a general theology of domination, and that whole theology needs to be resisted in every single one of its parts.

Religion *can* serve as a way to help us be whole and to help us share in the creative work of this world. But there is a lot of crap you need to resist to get to that point. And you have to resist it ferociously if you want to survive. That is my experience so far.