Looking For Insight
Ok? Where to begin? I’m a 21 turning 22 in November, Confused individual. I have always been confused about my identity. I knew that I was supposed to like boys, dated a few during my younger ten years. To be honest with myself, it doesn’t make me feel whole being with men. I tried a “fling” with a girl last year, and found out that it was enjoyable.
Part of me wants to write the whole experience off as a curious experiment. The other part of me realizes that I’m either Bi or a Lesbian. I keep over analyzing the fact, and keep saying, oh I just had fun. I keep denying to myself that I possible could be a lesbian. I know that it will hurt my family, and not sure what to think. Part of me hold on to the fact that I really felt like myself with the woman I was with. I feel like this inner struggle with never cease. Does everyone go through this? Is it that I am over analyzing myself?
I feel like I am making excuses, even as I type this as why I am not a fully a lesbian. Please send me your thoughts. In desperate need of insight.
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I don’t read anything that sounds like either one of you is unhappy...
Remember two things: 1) there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, even if it would hurt your family, you need to be comfortable with yourself eventually, in whatever sexuality you find yourself identifying with. 2) try to skip the labels, to me, it’s not important what’s in someone’s pants, it’s what’s in their heart. If it helps you feel more comfortable, don’t think of your fling as making you a lesbian, but don’t forget about women all together, you will fall in love with a person, not a gender
go for the gold, go for the girls
I just turned 22 this year too. I don’t have much experience, but I know that you should at least seize the moment for the sake of your own well being. Ask her out or else you’ll never know what it could have been. Or you could do like how I usually do and just stay friends and let your crush on her wane away until you’re not into her anymore. Then if you’re lucky someone else might come along, a new crush might develop, and you can go through the same dilemma all over again…
Oh and don’t worry about labeling yourself! At least you’re a step in the right direction: i.e. recognizing that you are not 100% straight… who is anyway. I think it also goes both ways, who’s really 100% gay?… People keep on creating a false dichotomy for sexuality when the spectrum is so much more than straight and gay.
Oh yeah and screw religion, it’s overrated
I’m an x-Christian because if God is really about love, than something as minuscule as who I choose to share my love with shouldn’t condemn me to eternal damnation in a lake of fire…
Oopsie I commented on the wrong post…
but I guess you could still use my advice…
I’m in a similar situation. You should not try to label yourself and try to figure out what exactly it was that happened between you and that girl. Just keep an open mind to men and women, and what happens will happen. Eventually everything will start to make sense to you, in time. Don’t label yourself… just think of love as love. ( I feel like I just said the same thing five different ways lol). Goodluck
*and not try to figure out