I Have to Start Over

So I’ve been taking everyone’s advice and trying to forget about Natalie. I just realized I never mentioned her name is Natalie.
Anyways…

I’ve been focusing on my classes, we’re about half way through the semester and I want to bring up my grades. I didn’t really see her at all during the week except for Monday morning and I tried to ignore her. So I was doing good with slowly getting over her.

Then Friday happened.

I didn’t go to any of my classes Friday because I was getting sick and my roommate was sick and had signs of flu or swine flu which is going around campus. We’re both better now, so I think we just had colds. And we needed water because we were running out, so my friend Morgan goes home like every weekend and she said she would see if her dad could take me to the Giant that’s like maybe 5 minutes from campus. So I was walking up campus walk to meet Morgan and I see Natalie sitting with one of her friends. I wasn’t real thrilled to see her, I just ignored her until I heard someone yell really loudly in their direction. One of Natalie’s friends was telling her she better go to rugby practice, so about a minute later she left. Then Morgan finally came out of her building and they took me to get water and a little bit of food for me and my roommate.

When I got back to my building, I called my roommate to let me in. After everything that’s happened at Virginia Tech, my school and several others in the state have these things on the dorm buildings that we have to use our school IDs to get in. So it’s not exactly easy to do that with a 24 pack of water and a grocery bag all in my arms. So I’m waiting on the porch for my roommate and I saw people walking toward the door, so I got closer to the door and Natalie comes out first, and I’m like oh joy. So I’m waiting for the last person to come out, thinking maybe she’ll be nice and hold the door for me. Nope, she let it close.

So I’m standing there with my hands full trying to get my ID out of my pocket and Natalie comes up to me and asks if I need to get in the building. So I said yeah and she badges me in and holds the door. And as I’m walking towards her and the door, I’m thinking I’ll just thank her and ignore the butterflies that are now in my stomach. So as I’m walking past her I thanked her and OHMYGOD her cologne smells amazing.

So all the progress I made was shot to hell and now I have to start over. I wouldn’t have to if it wasn’t for her cologne.




Comments

I still think you need to find yourself a new, preferably single this time, girl to think about. You’ll be amazed how fast you get over Natalie. It sounds like you’re trying too hard to not be “thrilled” about seeing her. It’s not that simple. Start by acknowledging that, yeah, she’s cute, but she has a girlfriend. You don’t have to seek her out, but try not to act so uninterested, because let’s face it, you’re very interested.

In fact, the best thing you can do when you see her is give a big smile, say a sincere, “Hi Natalie,” and act like you’re busy. That will convey your confidence and also tell her you have places to go, people to see. If she has that whole subconscious desire to be lusted, she will feel a little left out.

Now, about her colonge. Scents have some amazing power over us. My first girlfriend wore this delicious perfume and when she broke up with me, it drove me crazy every time I smelled it. The only way to get over it was to buy it and start wearing it myself. I made it mine. Obviously, hopefully, this is not that deep. Find yourself a scent to compare. If Natalie is an obvious lesbian, she’s probably wearing Axe Kilo, lol.

Find yourself a new girl with a scent to match.

Good Luck

Natalie is an obvious lesbian. But I have no idea what Axe Kilo smells like. Her cologne reminds me of a guys cologne. My attraction to her cologne isn’t as bad as yours was to your ex girlfriends, however, I’ve only encountered it on her twice, and both times it was only noticeable if you were walking right past her but it’s very powerful when you do encounter it. It kind of invades the senses and all you can smell is the cologne.

I did consider finding what she wore and establishing the scent with someone or something other than Natalie as my friend suggested. However, that could be complicated, so I think I’m going to buy my own cologne and wear it, so when I pass her, I hopefully will smell my cologne and not hers.

I’ll try what you suggested the next time I see her, hopefully it’ll work

Thanks

If you find out what cologne she wears can you let us know ;) . I am always looking for good colognes to wear!! :)

Don’t worry about Natalie… it is hard to get over your crush, even if you know they are completely unavailable…. but you’ll get there…. just do what the above posts say – even though you’re not over her, don’t put her on a pedastal either – say hi… act like she would be just any other friend you met on campus.. that way you take the mystique out of it all…

Obviously, easier said than done right… there is this woman at work that I really like… There have been some subtle signs that she is interested (or at least enjoys the attention). I am a very social person, so it is strange that the one person I really like at the firm is pretty much the only person I have had a lot of contact with but have not spoken a word to yet.. it is strange… but I have changed my mentality and will make a point of saying hello and talking to her on a colleague basis next time, even if she ignores me.

I think maybe why we keep the mystery in all of this is that we are afraid of rejection… but that fear isn’t so much present when we meet people that don’t get to us emotionally like our crushes. But it really doesn’t matter if they reject you, as your life will continue with or without the Natalies of this world. I realized that a while ago with my colleague…

Good luck

Thank you CityWalker!

After Evolution and your comments I feel better about being able to get over Natalie. I will gladly tell you what cologne she wears once I find out. I just have no ideas about HOW to find out.

I think it would be a little odd if I went “Your cologne smells really good. What do you wear?” Ya know? Ideas anyone?

Well, perhaps not admit how amazing it smells (on her), but say something like “I know that scent! My friend used to wear it. What’s it called again?”

Oh girl, gettin’ over another girl is never easy. I should know, I was in love with this hot girl for like 5 years ans she totally liked me back, but it just never happened

I will tell you this tho, if you want to forget her all you have to do is: get away from her, stop looking at her, delete all the songs that make you think of her and get a new crush(this really works) even if you don’t like them much just pretend you do.

I haven’t seen the girl i used to love in like 2 years and I can totally say I don’t love her anymore but I’m not gonna lie, if I saw her tomorrow i would probably get all happy and “in love again” but just for that day ;)

Ladies you should be proud of me for what I did today.

It’s not exactly a big step but for me it was. So on Thursdays our meal plans end for the week and start over Friday and there’s only two dining places but only one allows you to use more than one meal at a time, so my friend and I ate lunch their today. So I went back inside to get a white hot chocolate (I don’t like white chocolate but this is SO good.) Anyways I wasn’t really paying attention to anything as I waited for it to be made and right before I got, I realized Natalie was the 2nd person behind me.

Instead of acting like I wasn’t thrilled she was there or sitting and drinking my hot chocolate, I left with the attitude that I had something better to do. Which I did, I had an episode of the L word waiting for me back in my room. I love that show and Shane is hott.

LOL the Natalie saga continues… but if you haven’t watched all of the Lword, I must say season 5 and 6 were really good… so I can understand why you had better things to do…

By the way enjoylife, really enjoy your time in college… have fun with some girls and don’t get caught up emotionally with all these girls that do your head in… my college years were some of the best years of my life (until my ex did my head in!)… you’ll find a cute girl soon :) .


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