Advice About My Friend, Please?
This is how it goes. I’ve been friends with this girl for a really long time since I was like 12 and I never knew I had such a crush on her but now I have fallen in love with her so hard. I am now 23 and she is 39. She is so beautiful and fun to be with I could sit with her forever and not say a word.
She tells me she’s not gay but she sometimes gives me looks like she is into me and when I ask her she always says her family would disown her. Anyway, to the main part we have had a thing once but she made me pay her. We had sex and it wasn’t just regular there was passion and love at least I felt it in the way she kissed me. She kissed me like she was in love with me. When she kissed me and touched me it felt like she was feeling the same as me and that she really liked it and she always acts different when we are alone and she’s not around her family.
And she always says when we get in my car that she wants to listen to our song which is that song “anymore” (by Travis Tritt) and she always sings it and looks me in the eyes so I don’t know, I’m confused. I really love her with all my heart, I’d do anything in the world for her I just wish I knew how she felt. I’ve asked her and all she says is I gotta do better things to make her love me, I mean what does that mean? I really wish I had some hope and some good advice about what she may be feeling.
Thanks.
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I don’t read anything that sounds like either one of you is unhappy...
I’m not really into country, so my song for you two would be “Meet Me Halfway.”
Unfortunately, it seems you two are on different wavelengths. On one side, you’re willing to risk it all for this woman. You want to be with her, you want to make her happy. On the other, it seems like there is a sincere connection (perhaps even love), but she is apprehensive about being with another woman.
She has known you since you were very young. I’m sure it’s a bit strange for her considering she was an adult and you were just a child when you met. That might be one of the biggest hurdles for her.
Another obvious one is her fear of being disowned. This one will be easier to tackle. When she uses it as an excuse, you can say, “You’re almost 40; your personal happiness should come first. Yes, your family might not approve, but won’t you be happy with me? I won’t disown you.”
As for her viewing you as the little 12-year old you once were, show her you have grown up if you haven’t already. This might be a situation for you to go out on a limb. Lay it all out for her. Tell her you love her, you want to be with her, and you’ll give her all your heart. You can’t do anymore than that and you can’t spend your life waiting for her to realize what’s right in front of her face. She has to meet you halfway on this one.
Good Luck
omg that is some great advice evolution! i sure will take it into great consideration and do everything you have advised. but since i have written this question we have been out and we made out in her driveway and i told her face to face how i truely felt she responded with she already knew because the way i treat her like shes a queen and do everything for her. i also asked her straight out did she have feelings for me and was she in love with me the way i am with her she said that she hasnt really hung out with me long enough to tell cuz see she went to prison for awhile over an addiction so we havent seen each other in awhile but we have been reunited as friends for 6 months and she also says she is curious and she did enjoy us having sex the one time that we did and i asked her did she wanna be with me she said that she couldnt be open about it though because of her mom and dad and her 2 grown kids would think bad of her or something or another so i think it could probably work out in secret and maybe once she realises that she loves me the way i love her she wont care what people say at least thats what im so hoping shes everything ive ever wanted anyways if u have any new advise on my update feel free to answer and thanks for your advice i truley appreciate it!!!!