Friend/Best friend is in love with me???
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I have a friend, we are so very close with each other and i know her for almost 4 years. She’s straight.
Well, i don’t know if i am a lesbian or straight or bi. I’m attracted to men but i’m really confused if i am really attracted to women too.
Maybe I’m a lesbian because i love her so much. I always want to be with her. Or maybe we are just too close that’s why i have feelings for her and i love her as a best friend.
But she’s acting weird lately because:
1. She always wants to hold hands with me.
2. She wants to be beside me in our class and cuddling me.
3. She’s always staring at me and when i caught her looking, she always throws her stare in another direction.
4. She always kisses me on my cheeks though she didn’t do it with any other friends (though its normal in other countries, but not here).
5. Always wants to hug me.
6. Her picture profile is with me but not with her boyfriend (yes, she has a boyfriend)
7. And mostly, when we are in the retreat house for recollection, we did activities like group sharing but i’m not in a group with her so we talk about it later in our room.
When i asked her,”What did you confess?”. And then she said “Why should I confess about being a boy? I’m not a boy.” (sounds like too defensive). And then I told her that, “I didn’t tell that you should confess about being a boy, I asked you if you confess your true feelings?” and then she changed the subject.
My other friends always tell me that i’m a lesbian because we are too close with each other but she is the one who is sweet and clingy with me. Maybe they suspect me because i don’t have a boyfriend in this time and she already has a boyfriend.
What test should i do to know if she’s really a lesbian or bi?
I don’t want to confront her because i’m not really sure if it is only my imagination and i don’t want to lose our friendship because of that.
If she is really a lesbian, then i’ll accept it because i love her.
If not, then it is ok, too.
Hope you can help, thank you.
Sorry for bad English. I’m Asian.
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you and your friend are still young, right? i’m guessing you’re in high school? it’s a confusing time… maybe your friend has only recently found out she likes you as more than a friend? she certainly seems to like you a lot, by the way she acts around you. but she already has a boyfriend…does she seem very in love with her boyfriend?
and the part about her saying she’s not a boy? hmm…she possibly feels like she’s more like a boy than a girl? which would explain why she likes you romantically?
first, i think you should spend more time with her and try to figure out if you really like her that way. have you been attracted to other girls before? do you feel sexually attracted to your friend or other girls? have you had any boyfriends? are you attracted to both girls and guys? think carefully about the way you feel about her….can you picture yourself being with her no matter what? how important is she to you? are there things you want to do with her, that regular friends would not do?
and about her….well. there’s no “test” you can do to see if she’s lesbian or bi. (unfortunately. =P) but maybe you can try being sweet and clingy to her too. see how she reacts….does she like it? does she treat you even nicer? maybe you can try flirting with her…or say that you know someone who’s a lesbian or bi, ask her how she feels about girls who like girls….
good luck!
i hope my comments can help you. (i’m asian too!)
ok i agree with yuna! i think you should get all sweet and clingy to her to just to see how both you feel and how she reacts. ive been in this situation before it kinda sucks but i know for a fact that im a lesbian im sory theres really no other way to find out then to just experament with it. and as for what others say dont let them get to you they dont know the truth until you do. then again they never have to know exactly what you are you dont have to wear a lable and you dont have to officially tell people what you are.