aw, you two are so sweet with each other. =) i’m happy you found someone you’re so in love with! hmm…very religious. well, this is tricky, but i think you’ve gotta try. say you have a lesbian friend or something…bring up the subject. see how she feels about girls who like girls. if she seems fine, then you can try flirting with her and see how she reacts. if she flirts back, and you really think she likes you back, you should really try asking her out! i hope things work out for you two!

(and personally, i think that if you’re really good friends, even if she says she doesn’t like you romantically…you can still stay friends, right? hmm…it’ll be tough, but if it was me, i would still want to be friends with her even if i don’t like her in that way.)

you already HAVE the relationship. No need for words. your relationship will progress naturally and be very beautiful. words will stop the relationship in it’s tracks.

the trick here is to understand that you HAVE her. you are allowed to hug her and kiss her on the cheek, and have sleep overs. and.. more hugs. you can achieve an emotional closeness that is worth a thousand times the physical. because it will grow. both of you have your walls down now. dont screw it up by not appreciating a good thing!!

i remember being in a similar position when i was in high school (i’m in my mid 20s now). honestly my advice would to be careful. its very easy to fall for your best friend. you share everything with them already on an emotional level, but when you develop a physical attraction to them things oftentimes get complicated. In my experience, my friend was giving me the same signs yours is. A flirtacious vibe that even though nothing was ever said about it, I felt was becoming a part of our friendship. I began to think about her all the time, want to be with her all the time, and talk to her on the phone constantly. Then it started to seem like we were a couple, but still nothing was ever said. but then she started talking about guys that she liked, started dating guys, etc and i became insanely jealous and couldn’t pretend to just want to be her friend anymore, so i told her. and she said she kinda had a feeling that i thought of her in that way, but that she didn’t feel that way about me. I was really upset for awhile but we eventually made up and are still good friends to this day. So really you should proceed with caution on this one. I hope it works out differently for you, just thought i would share my experience in that field.

Actually you already have a relationship with her hun but you should keep yourself then maybe she can do some action on this. Believe me, you just dont have sex, you will see, I hope she will do something and I hope she can feel that nobody can love her like you http://bisexualessais.blogspot.com/ (bisexual woman from istanbul) xxx

I am in almost the EXACT same sitch as you–except for the fact that I`m 13 and my friend already knows. I knew this girl for about four years, ever since she transferred to my school, but I never really talked to her until this year. Now we`re best friends, and after a series of complicated events, freaking out in gym class, and fainting during a math test. the feelings I had for her came into the open (well, to her and a few friends anyway). It probably didn`t help that I carried a notebook filled with poetry (I`m a poet) around with me. She said she`d known for a while but didn`t want to say anything in case of ruining our friendship.

To this point, I don`t even completely know what made me so sure I liked her. Maybe it`s just the fact that she could roll in mud and still be the most beautiful person in the world. Maybe it`s the fact that I`ve never seen her without a smile on ner face. Maybe it was her laugh, or the way that I could have watched someone rob a bank and she could still make me smile when no one else could…

Anyway, to end my rant, if you guys are as close as you say you are, go for it! If she really cares about you, you guys will stay close whether the feelings are mutual or not. Maybe start out by flirting a little. I`m no expert, but me and my friend are closer than ever, and I can`t tell but maybe closer than I thought…(;

Of course be VERY careful if you`re like me and have a boyfriend…

GOOD LUCK! –Jenny

i love lesbian sex

I completely understand your situation as I’m 18 and I’m in the same sh*t as you. I’ve had this friend for three years now and I’m in love with her for more than two. I’m straight and she’s straight too, but this is just something stronger than any label. She is the most beautiful person in the whole world, everything she does is perfect, she is perfect for me and I feel that I could spend all my life with her, I could take care of her, I understand how she feels and what she needs more then anybody and I love her like I will never love anybody else again.
Our relationship is very complex because we also have those *moments* that you described, but those are not just moments – those are whole bunches of smiling, touching, talking, hugging, oh I’m writing this and I have the Feeling in my stomach. I also sometimes feel that she likes me too, but I’m sure that she’s straight and that her home education was not liberal as we live in this small and conservative country, so I tell myself I’m just tripping. That’s why it is so difficult to live with these feelings and in the same time to be seeing her every day without being sure how she feels, knowing that we will never be able to be completely sincere to each other.
I can’t even imagine how she feels because for her environement is unimaginable to be gay and that’s what her home education is like, and in the same time, if she likes me in that special way as I think she is, she must be torn. And it hurts me pretty bad to see her so sad and blue, when she’s telling me that she will never find a male partner to have this kind of relationship with him. I have a strong desire to take her somewhere where she could be free and happy with someone, no matter who that person is going to be, me or somebody else. I just want her to be happy.
Yesterday we ended up alone in the classroom, she said to me: “oh why you’re not male!!!” I said: “lol, why would I be male?” and she said: “Because if you were a male we would be very happy together for a long long time.” I said “Don’t worry, in 40 years time we will be sitting somewhere in California eating barbecue at my house and laughing with our husbands and children, and you will be happy, you’ll see.” I cried inside while I was telling her this, with a smile on my face. I said: “We’re happy this way too, I’m always open for new experiences hehe” and then she smiled and grabbed me like she’s horny, but then somebody came in and interrupt the conversation. I’m affraid that I’m just imagining that she likes me, so I often do this little jokes to see how she reacts. And her reaction is always double meaning.
I feel that I’m slowly reaching the edge and that I can’t continue living like this for long. That’s why I don’t know what to do and I’m depressed, because I love her: I can’t stop talking to her and I also can’t tell her how I feel because I might lose her. I can only learn to be happy with this kind of relationship, without being sure how she feels and always paying special attention on my behavior when I’m with her or when we’re with other people. It’s a lot of pressure and sometimes I really don’t need it, as my school is already stressful enough.
So don’t worry, you’re not lonely in this, I hope you will see this. Try to tease her, to provoke her to get herself out to you just a little, so you could know if she likes you in the special way or not. Talk to her about relationships, go out on parties with her and try to be sure. And be strong and brave. We’re all going to die once anyway!

I know exactly what you’re going through…my best friend’s straigh/asexual…(I’m going into 10th grade) I only met her this year, but I’ve never been closer to ANYONE in my life. She says she can trust me with anything, she tells me her deepest secrets…we hug, we tell eachother how beautiful the other is…we say “I love you”…
I would just…be careful. You might accidently scare her away. And even if you don’t scare her away, it might be awkward. Just show her how much you love her and let her know that you’ll always be there for her. Let her know that you love her. If it’s meant to be, it’ll grow and become somthing beautiful. Good luck.

i am 14 and in the same situation as you i have known her for three years and have been in love with her from the start.she dose not know but i have a feeling she feels the same. my advice for you will be make sure u r sure of your sexuality and take it slow and i hope it works out for u like it hopefully will for me. good luck x

i am in the same situation with my freind i’m 15 now and i have known this girl since year 7 but have only been getting close in the past year anyways i am in love with her i cant get her out of my head yet i am straight but i have never had this feeling with anybody else ever ! but in the past year i tried to lay off incase of any signals , we fell out big time and it destroyed both of us but i wanted to see if i could stay away from her but i couldn’t. she said she was devastated and she never wanted to happen again so we got back talking and it’s happening again we are getting close , i dont know whether she likes me or not but it’s like my whole world revolves around her. i hate it when she is upset because i want to be the only one to make it up to her. we have had deep conversations she said i am the only one who understands her and she will never forget me. when ever i do anything wrong she always forgives me , i wouldn’t let no-one hurt her!! but when we fell out i thought to get over her and to not let her get hurt if i loved her that much i would leave her alone. but i couldn’t i don’t know what to do because she always laughs at me and she always hugs me and has given me three kisses on my cheek and said she loves me! x i don’t know whether she likes me or not. but to your situation i know how it feels you don’t want to tell her incase of it runing anything but you want to know whether she feels the same way. one other she has said to me when i have dropped in the girl lesbian thing that she feels there isn’t nothing wrong and she isn’t against one bit. :/

Please let us Know what happens

I’m in the same situation. I’ve known my bestfriend ever since the start of high school. We didn’t really get close until the last year of high school. I like to think that it was fate that got us closer. These past few weeks I’ve not stopped thinking about her and a few months ago I thought that it was just my mind playing tricks on me but now I know that the more I get to spend more time with her, the more I fall in love with her. Whenever when we are together she always ask me of why can’t she get a decent boyfriend and why can’t love be more easier like the movies. Whenever she talks about how hard it is trying to find the perfect “boy” to come and sweep her off her feet I just feel completely hopeless. In my head I tell her secretly that “one day I’m going to be the one who’s going to take care of you and love you more than any one can” It’s just hard, I’ve not cared about anyone this much before and I didn’t know that my first love would be like this.

i also have the same situation as you do and until now i haven’t told her my feelings yet. i’m 21yrs old and we’ve been frieds for 7-8 years. it sucks right? because there’s some instances that i feel that she feels the same way too but i’m too scared of asking or telling her what i feel. well actually i don’t have any answer to your question but right now we’re just enjoying each others company but i’m planning to tell her what i feel in right time. maybe if you also plan to tell your bestfriend what you feel just be prepared what will be happening next ok? because this will be your make or break decision. remember this might ruin your friendship but who knows this also might be your opening door for a new relationship.

good luck to us!

Hello, it’s me again. I hope you still didn’t do anything because yesterday I decided to do something and it didn’t turned up good. I’m here just to tell you about it so you can take care, I really really hope that it’s not going to be this way with you.
Last week we went to a school trip in Italy, but my friend didn’t because of family issues. (That is the worst injustice ever, but that is another story.) We brought her a lot of presents, we taped her a huge video about it and every day I sent her messages to let her know that we miss her so much. You can’t imagine how it is to miss somebody like that. I was sitting in the bus and everybody was sleeping, and there was Eros Ramazzoti’s music and road through Toscana, and I felt how hard it is to do anything without her and how sad and discouraged I am because she is not there. Missing her was one of the hardest feelings I ever felt. So, I couldn’t wait to get back to see her.
Yesterday was Monday, the first day at school after he school trip, and she was there. She was hugging me and squeezing me and kissing me and tickling me all day, she was like “I don’t care that you want to go to the toilet, you can’t go anywhere without me today, I missed you so much I need to catch up!” and stuff and it was such a beautiful day. At the end of the day, I felt that I can’t be close to her anymore, it is even more difficult than being far away in Italy. We walked home, talking and laughing, but all the time in my head there was a “oh, I wish you knew!” feeling that couldn’t let me be happy. So I decided to do something.
I told her that something very strange happened today. After a while of “Whaaat? Tell me! – No. – Comeoooon, tell mee! – No, I can’t. – Tell meeeeeee!!” I said that I’ll tell her but in one condition: that things about us remain how they are now. She said “Of course, you know already it’s gonna be that way, stop saying bullshit and tell me what is it!”
I could’t say through my mouth the whole truth. I felt it would be inappropriate and awkward to tell her all, so I said that whole day I had an indescribable desire to kiss her. She looked at me (with her beautiful big eyes!) and she was confused and then, after two seconds, she started laughing and said “Are you kidding me?” I said “no, I’m not kidding you, I’m serious!” and then she said “Hahahahhahahahahahhaha oh my dear lesbian, I will have to keep an eye on you. Don’t worry, it’s because you missed me last week and because my hair is so beautiful today. don’t worry, it won’t happen again, I will try not to touch you and lay on you like I did today, it’s okay. Tell me if the desire comes back, so we will think of something else to stop it.”
It was like someone spilled water all over me, cold water as ice, as snow, like I jumped into sea of coldness, I started laughing and making jokes about it because if I didn’t, I would have lost her that very minute. I went home and everything is okay between us now like it was before, I am now sure that she doesn’t like me or that she doesn’t have courage to admit, but I don’t understand why is she still sending me little signs. Maybe I’m crazy and I don’t read them properly. I don’t know anything anymore, I just want it to end, because I’m losing my mind.
So please take care, be careful, you can obviously never be sure. And let us know what happened. Good luck!

Hi,
After readung your posts on here, I decided I would share my story with you. When, I was 14, (I am now 23) I was in the same situation, beautiful girl, the looks, the flirting, the touching etc, and one night at a sleep over we decided we would kiss to see what kissing a girl was like…(we both had boyfriends). It was only suppose to happen the once, and it didn’t, we kissed for hours, and then on every sleep over we had after that for about the next 6 months. We told eachother we loved each other, and spoke everyday on the phone / text. Eventually, I plucked up the courage if she wanted to be my girlfriend, her response was laughter and “don’t be silly”. After that our friendship faded out quite quickly into a shy hello here and there. After that, I forgot how it felt to feel like that about someone, and I had boyfriends up until I was 18. It happened to me again. Needless to say both of these girls are now engaged and one even has a 3 year old daughter! What I’m trying to say is that when you are young, feelings can be very confusing, and for some people, it can be very hard to accept how you feel.It doesn’t mean you will always feel that way, and nor does it mean that nothing will happen between you both, but even when it does, its not always a fairytale ending, but it’s not end of the world!(even if it does feel like it!) Following my experiences, I have come to realise that I am in fact gay,
and I have found girls who are like me and who I have been very happy with… I haven’t found the one yet, but she is out there. My advice would be…. hold out… it all works out in the end! And it’s good to talk about these things! x

Hi I am in the same situation as you. I’m 18 years old and in love with my best friend, Abbi, who is a year younger than me. I have been trying to figure out what to do for some time now. Although I haven’t confronted her directly yet, I did write a letter to her telling her how I feel and just didn’t send it. It was a good release for all the feelings for her that I’m holding in. Here it is:

“Abbi,
I’m writing this because there are a lot of things you deserve to know. Ever since we became friends I’ve been fighting how I feel, but I can’t do it anymore. I feel something for you that makes my stomach flutter. When you’re upset I want to make you smile that beautiful smile of yours. When you’re tired I want to lay your head on my lap and run my hands through your hair until you fall asleep. And when you’re happy, I want you to be happy with me. I want so much to be the person to kiss you goodnight and take care of you, to be the person you deserve in your life. But I know that by telling you this I risk losing you as a friend. However, when you love someone as much as I love you, you’re willing to risk it all in hopes that something good will come of expressing these feelings. I hope you know that no matter how you feel towards me, whether it be just friends or more, I will ALWAYS be there for you when you need me, and I will NEVER turn my back on you.
Love,
Zoe”

So that was what I wrote just to get the feelings out. Will I ever tell Abbi? Yes. I plan on telling her face to face and giving her this letter when I get the courage/right state of mind. Anyway, I hope you find love with your friend.

Cheers.

I am also in the same situation. I am 18 and I have had feelings for this girl since the 7th grade. We just recently became best friends the last two years. She has a 1 year old daughter and is in a complicated relationship with her baby’s father. Since the day I fell in love with her I knew I would have to tell her one day, but apart of me just wanted to get far away from her so I would feel that way about her. Sometimes I thought she felt the same way about me. She acted differently toward me than she did her other friends. We have opposite personalities and sometimes people would asked how are we best friends when we are so different from each other. There was moments when we would just stare into each others eyes for minutes and not say a word and sometimes when her and her bf were having problems she would say all she needs is her daughter and me. I really don’t want to have these kinds of feelings toward her but they are just there. About a month ago I finally told her I loved her and it has been the biggest mistake of my life. At first she wouldnt even talk to me and we acted as if we were in a huge fight but we still had them moments in class or walking down the hall that our eyes would meet and we would both just stare at each other. In the past couple of weeks our friendship has gotten better. We talk as if we are friends again and she still flirts with me knowing that I am in LOVE with her. If she doesn’t feel the same about me then why does she still flirt with me and why do we still have them moments where we just stare each other in the eyes for minutes with out saying a word? I still think of myself as straight because she is the only girl that I have ever found attractive. There is something about her that intrigues me. I’m not sure if she is just hiding her feelings from me or if she just likes the attention I give her. I am afraid that after high school we will completely lose touch and I just can’t image not having her in my
life. What should I do??

I’m in the exact same situation only I’m in 6th grade! I want to have sex with her sooooo badly. I’m scared to ask her because I know she is straight.

I’ m in a somewhat similar situation but with more than 1 girl it’s 5!! But there the only girls that Ive ever felt like this for. I know that 4 of them are straight

I’ m in a somewhat similar situation but with more than 1 girl it’s 5!! But there the only girls that Ive ever felt like this for. I know that 3 of them are straight or at least they act straight but the other 2 idk. One of them posted a couple a things on fb that make her sound lesbian, and I always wanted to ask but it just seems like a really weird question. We always hug, like we’re in a together or at least it seems that way to me. At our softball closing day, she was there and when 2 of my team mates shashed cupcakes in my face, and i got one of them back, i asked her to help me clean myself up. When we finished we helped the one i got get the frosting out of her hair, we plugged up a sink and filled it with water. When we finished the sink wouldnt come unplugged so i took the top part of the can of soda the part that opens the can and broke it in half and used it to pry the plug out of the sink. I sliced my finger up pretty bad and she felt like it was her fault but i reassured her it wasnt, cuz i didnt want her to feel bad. Latter that day i was at her house and we were using nails for something and one was rusty and she said that i should put on a glove so it wouldnt get infection and i said i would be fine and she said “but what if you arent, what if your finger has to be amputated cuz it gets infected, if you ever get hurt and you don’t do anything about it and you die, I would never get over it.” she looked as if she was about to cry. “then Ill make sure I don’t get hurt, don’t worry about me” I gave her a hug and she squeezed my really tight. She had cross country in the morning so I couldn’t spend the night and she was so sad when I gave her a goodbye hug she wouldn’t let go until her mom said I could come over again soon. And one time we were at a movie night for our softball league and there was me and 2 of my other friends (one of them one of the other ones I like) sitting on a blanket and there was no room for her so she sat down on me and when I said I couldn’t see she snugled into me and then when she started sliding off a little bit I wrapped my arms around her waist and she put her hands on top of mine. When the we all went to another field to hang out there were no lights so she stayed right next to me the whole time holding onto my arm she seemed pretty scared cuz when she let go I ran to chase one of the other ones and when I got back she hugged me and told me not to leave her alone again. The other girl that was with us didn’t show any signs that night but she has before. The other girl she cuddled into me after one game and fell asleep. When she woke up I carried her on my back out to her car. We were on the same All Star team and there were a couple of us in my hotel room me and her were watching tv and idk what the other 2 were doing. I was laying on the end of the bed and she kept complianing that I was blocking her view so I told her to come down to the bottom of the bed with me and she did. I was laying with one arm over the edge and the other on the bed and she came over and laid her head on my shoulder and she drapped her arm over my waist the other in the small gap between us. She was turned side ways and way laying on the top half of my arm. I bent my elbow and laid my hand on her waist. She cuddled in to me a little more. We stayed like that for a while and then she moved back to the top of the bed. That night she fell asleep in my room and I carried her back to her room. During spring break she invited me to go with them on vacation and I did. On the way there she snuggled into me and we watched a movie. We shared a bed at the hotel room and one morining she told me that the night before she had woken up cuddle up to me. That day we went to a little river lake place and we played in the water afterwards we sat down on a rock and let our feet dry before we put our shoes on but we didn’t realize until it was to late that we were on the wrong side of the river. She asked her dad to come from the other side of the small river to carry her back and when he wouldn’t do it I did. When we got back into the car the first thing she did was cuddle into me and fall asleep. I really want to tell all of them but their all some of my best friends and I don’t want to lose them but I think I have to tell them and I will once I’m total sure I’m in love with them. Some days I know I am and some days I’m not so sure. And when I’m abosoltly sure I’m in love with them or at least one of them I’ll tell them and if they like me back great if they don’t if theyre my real friends then they keep being my friends.

It makes me feel comforted and soothing when I see that so many people have this, how to call it, a problem situation. I don’t feel alone anymore. And you guys are the main reason why, so THANK YOU so much for being here and talking about this, it’s really helpful.

Things with my best friend are going well these days despite the fact that I started to pay less attention on my behavior after that ugly situation in the past post. She doesn’t seem unconfortable anymore when I tell her what I feel, but she always turns it to a joke. And I still don’t know what she really thinks behind her smile, because she says one thing and then behaves like she feels the opposite.
Yesterday we were talking with another friend about a particular song, and I said how I always turn on when I hear it and start to cry.
The conversation was like this:
“Me: Yes, when I hear it I always turn on and start to cry!
Her: Hahaha omg you cry when you are turned on??
Friend (to Her): Hahahahahaha oh poor you!
Me: Hahahaha noo! But why did you say that, why is she poor?
Her (to Friend): SHUTUP!!
Friend (to Her): Whyyy, well she (Me) has the right to know hahahaha!
Me (to Her): Well missy explain it, what is there you didn’t tell me?
Her: Okay Ana (Me), listen, there is something you should know. I decided to seduce you one day. But only after 100 years if nobody else would have wanted me!
Friend (to Me): And she’s been telling me that every single day over and over, that you two are going to be together one day, hahahaha!
Me: Really? Hahahahaa! And what makes you think that I would wait for you my whole life?
Her: Well if you don’t, I don’t care, I’ll move in with your family, hahahaaha!
Me: I agree, if you’re going to be rich one day, hahaha!
Her: You don’t need money when you have me!
Friend (to Me): Yes, if you had these three bones of Hers and a smile, wouldn’t it be enough for you to be happy forever, hahahahaha?”

That was the end of the conversation.
I felt an extreme need to say: “Yes, in fact, I would be happy forever, I would be happy forever right now and right here, because you can’t even imagine how much I love her and that she is and will remain my soulmate not only in this life, but also in the next fifty.”
I knew I mustn’t, so all I did was leaving the room.
Something strange is going on anyway, and sometimes I feel like the things are better then ever before. And I have about half a year before we finish high school and go to college, half a year to spend time with her every day and think of the most right and the most beautiful way to finaly make her realise what is going on for the past four years.

And again, thank you so much for posting your stories here, you can’t imagine how much it means to me.

i am in a similar situation as well, except i just recently found out that i am bi. my best friend is funny, crazy, geeky, smart, and kind. we have so much in common. the other day i found out that i am totally falling for her. i would do anything for her. if anyone tried ti hurt her in anyway i would make sure they never heard or saw the end of it. she is my world, and im so confused because im pretty sure she is straight, but she’ll randomly hold my hand, she leans on me, puts her head on my shoulder, ask for piggy back rides, etc… today she asked me who i like now because i just stopped liking this guy and i said i dont know. she said i needed to find someone to like because she doesnt want to be alone in liking a guy, but i just cant bring myself to like anyone but her. some of theses comments help and some do not. im just afraid to tell her.

I’m in love with this girl and we just went to high school about 8 weeks ago, before we went me and her were like really good friends. We used to hug and we would kiss each others cheeks and she would flirt with me so much although it’s most likely that I’m just imagining it because she is straight. But since we came to high school she just stopped talking to me, every time I would try to talk to her she would just tell me to f**k off. But about a week ago she just randomly had a conversation with me on facebook. And again just before, she said she missed me and that I should come and find her at school when she is out of the isolation room (for naughty kids) and I’m just really confused and I don’t it’s just that every time she kicks me to the curb I come running back to her like a wounded dog or something. Shes amazing though she is beautiful and she has the bestest smile and god her voice it’s like I could just die listening to her talk and I would be happy and her eyes I get lost in them. I love her , I may just be 13 but i can still be in love with her can’t I?
You know you are the first people I’ve told I’m gay
Thanks I feel better reading these posts and knowing that I’m not alone
Cheers xx

i feel the same way with my best friend were close realy close 1 day i told her i love her she said i feel the same way just tell her and be strong if shes a nice person and u guys are close she cant take it in a bad way dont worry she wont brake ur heart trust me i know how u fell

i was in the same situation for the past two years or so.Me and my best friend are extremely close and we would spend the whole day together,text through the night till we fell asleep.i started realising that for me it was more than friendship early 2009 but she’s catholic so i wouldnt dare tell her.we just continued in a really flirtatious nature.I mean i always wanted to be around her,talking to her,touching her(not sexually) and i was really confused about these feelings since i thought i was straight(or am?).anywhere i moved to a different country mid 2009, but we still continued talking regularly.I went back home mid 2010 and we just continued where the friendship had left off.She then left for college in the fall,which made me sad cause i love being around her.Then late last year i told her i wanted to hook up with a girl coz i thought it would be fun just to see what she would say,and she was like good for you.She came home for holidays and we started flirting more and more,kept saying we would do each other.Problem is despite all this she had a boyfriend kept telling me how much she loved him,i also had one just for the sake of it.

Then she went back and the flirting continued on line but she always said she was joking which made me depressed cause i was madly in love with her yet she seemed to be toying with me.Then this summer over the holidays she finally came clean with me and told m that she wanted to be really with me cause she didnt and has never felt that way about anyone but me.This was probably one of the best days of my life.I then told her how i felt and now we are together.Iv never been happier in my life and she feels the same.I hope it works out for everybody else xx

It’s rather upsetting reading all of this, because Just like all of you, I’m in love with this girl who’s straight, highly religious, and she’s my good friend. She’s a senior, and has never dated anyone. I’ve been in love with her since the end of my tennis season. She’s our number one girl, and as I was watching her, I believe she was hitting one with her backhand, it was the most graceful thing I had ever witnessed. She’s amazing, you guys would be blown away with the sight of her. Every Monday, I happen to talk to her for about ten or fifteen minutes. Every time I start talking, I get these butterflies, and My fluffy cheeks turn bright red; how could she not tell that I liked her. I tease her, and she teases back. I make the most silly jokes and she laughs even when they’re so cheesy and ridiculous. When I start talking to her about something I’m passionate about, take surfing for example, she listened to me, with her Beautiful blue eyes. And when I went to look at her, she looked down quickly at her Econ homework, and blushed. This happen twice I was with her this Monday. I just want to write you guys a book about this and send it too you. But I know all of you are in the same book. I spend time and time again seeking ways I could tell her, or bring it up. But how could I, for I am not willing to risk what we have. I’m drawn between two paths; I’m going to tell her the first Sunday of December. We have a town gathering at which everyone goes to. We all sing, and drink hot cocoa while the snowflakes drift onto the top of our heads. I’m going to tell her on this day, and it will be beautiful. She’ll be even more beautiful, with her rosey cheeks, and her brown, curly locks down, tucked away under her Santa hat.
I wish you all good Luck, and just know that everything happens for a reason. We learn from mistakes. And even if we are afraid, sometimes we must take risks. What will happen if she did actually have these feelings you feel as well? Don’t let her pass you by, when you know sh’es everything you’ve ever wanted.
Bye ladies,

guys guys please help me…i knw dis girl since past 8 years nd we r just vry close to each other she is my bestfrnd nd m her too..i realy nw startd falling for her..but i dnt knw whether she feels d same or not ..bt she is vry possesive over me..nd she always use to say she cnt live widt me..m jst too confuse how do i knw if she is also feeling for me in the same way..i dnt want to lose my frndshp so i cnt confrnt my feelings to her..plz help me m kinda confuse..

I don’t even know how to describe how in love I am with my best friend.. Like many of you guys I’m 16 years old and have been in love with the same girl for over 2 years now. We are best friends, we text all day, everyday, talk on the phone at least twice a day, and we are always sending smiley faces and flirty messages back and forth as well. Not a day goes by when we don’t tell eachother how much we love eachother and how we couldn’t imagine life without the other one. Hell, we even exchanged sweatshirts like you would do in the typical boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Every weekend I go to her house and we spend the whole night laying on her couch and cuddling and watching movies. I knew I had fallen in love with her last year when I woke up one morning to a long text message from her that was just to tell me how much she cared about me. It sounds like we would be totally in love, but I don’t think that she feels the same way about me. She is really conservative, the type that doesn’t even kiss anyone if not in a committed relationship. It’s getting hard for me to hug her and cuddle with her, because while I know that she loves me unconditionally as a best friend, all I can think of the whole time is kissing her.. and I can’t help it. I actually have a boyfriend, but if I could be with her I would break up with him in a heartbeat. She’s beautiful, smart, funnny, sweet, and everything I look for, and I can’t imagine not ending up with her. Please, I need advice on what to do about this because I’m constantly depressed about this and am reaching the end of my rope:(

I have a big problem right now. So yeah I have this friend and I’ve know here since I was 5. But a few years back she came over to my house for a sleep-over and she stayed for two weeks. the second last day we played a game she told me that I had to play the game as a boy so I did. Then we kept on playing that game every time she came round to my house and when I turned 7 she came round and we watched a movie instead, and she lay her head on my shoulder. Then she stayed at mine for the night and she lay on top of me and smiled the next day was school and we didn’t really talk but she came and hugged me and held my hand. she is one year older than me and I didn’t see her for a year but now I’m in the Academy(High school) and I see her everyday and at the end of school we meet up at the end of a lane and chat for like an hour then her mum comes and picks her up and i walk home. But just last night i was talking to her on Facebook and we chatted for like 2 hours without noticing and I used to feel like this about her before but then I stopped and now just recently I have been falling for her again. There was a love test on google and the boys at school decided to put mine and her name in it and it said it was 97% and she looked at me and smiled as she does and I mean everything about her is perfect. what should i do I don’t want to tell her HELP!!!! I am literally going crazy :/

Okay, so I just turned 15, and I think I’m beginning to develop strong feelings for my bestfriend since 4th grade. Who am I kidding.. I’m falling in love with her! At first I used to think I was just bicurious, because there was only one girl I ever was physically attracted to, and I’ve only dated guys. Now that I feel as if I’m falling in love with my best friend, I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. I know I would never be accepted in my family, and my school.. Not even. The thing is, she totally flirts with me, and I’m not imagining it. We constantly hug, cuddle, etc., but the urge to kiss her is always there. We always make joking sexual comments, and we pretend were in some sort of humorous relationship. This weekend it got a little more physical, and she tackled me to the bed and I thought for sure she would legitimately kiss me, but she didn’t. We continued to cuddle and we sometimes jokingly smack eachothers butts.. And boobs. We never are being serious, she isn’t anyway. My physical attraction to her is ridiculous, and I have naughty dreams about making out with her. She brought up how she would try anything once, and lastnight we were cuddling with the lights off and I wasn’t tired so I said “Why are we sleeping?” She said “Well what do you want to do?” We didn’t do anything.. Today we were joking around, and I said that she payed more attention to facebook then me, and she said she didn’t. I told her she did, and she said what do you want me to do? And I said let’s have sex(this is the norm, because we joke like that all the time, she rolled onto me and licked..my..neck. I got so excited I almost flipped her over and made out with her, but I didn’t. Then she pretended to, well, ride me, jokingly, and that’s when her mom came to get her. One of these days I might just kiss her, but I don’t know how shell feel, she might think I’m kidding around! Ugh. Being bisexual = FREAKING HARD.

I’m going through exactly the same thing, but it’s harder because she has a boyfriend, I also accept the fact that I’m bisexual, but she’s straight but has had sex with girls before & I’m confused whether to tell her or just keep pretending that she’d be okay with it or whatever.

This story sounds exactly me and my friend. She liked me for a long time and I could tell. She would goofily smile at me when we made eye contact. We’re on the school basketball team. I honestly thought this was her writing until I got to the part about the being very religious. I’m religious but not to the homophobic point.
Are you sure your friends religious or is her family. There’s a difference. Trust me. And You should bring up the topic and see what he opinions are on lesbianism.
Anyways, just asking her seems like a good idea too. Thats what my friend did. Now we’re happily together and in love. She just came out and told me that she has a crush then asked me out. If she says no though don’t be disappointed. Tell her that you won’t pressure her and she can come when she’s ready. Good luck.:)

i am in the same boat. i am totally in love with three of my friends, whom are all girls like me, and i have already made out with all of them. we made out during truth or dare at a sleepover, as a dare of course. after the game was over, we kept on making out. i just cant get the feeling of making out with them all on their wonderful, soft, smooth, amazing, beautiful lips, and holding them in my arms. i would love to tell them, but i cant get the courage to tell them i love them with all my heart, even though I’m only 13. i need them all i. my life.
One of them i have known since kindergarden. she is the on that i love the most. i would love to just take her, lock her away from the world, and Nebr give her back. my feelings are strong, and i have. to keep them hidden. i need her in my life more than anything, and would never sk anything to hurt her. Camryn has a very special place in my heart. i kissed her more than any of the others, and would like to do it again. i have even thought about askingbher to have sex with me, but i cannot. i can barely even talk to her without thinking, boy i would like to kiss you and then get you naked and kiss you even more. my feelings for her are very strong.when we kiss, i feelvlike i sm in heaven, it id so amazing.

Same to all of the above. Shes the first girl I’ve ever liked. One night she was at my house and we made out more then eight times. I think she’s straight. She wont hug me much because I get so jumpy no matter who tries to hold me thanks to my past. I haven’t hung out with her since that day. We still talk all the time. I separated myself from her because I had difficulties with her other best friend. We havent hung out in months and I kept trying to have her over again. She will stay for hours on the phone with me and text me always. I need advice on what to do with her. Help! Oh and maybe your personal opinion. Does she like me as more then a good friend/best friend?

I’m only 13, but i know im in love. Ive only known her for 2 years but sence the day i met her i wasnt able to kep my eyes of her sexy body. She is the most amazing, wonderful, person in the world, and i could stare into her bid brown beatiful eyes forever. About a month ago, I told her how i felt. She was completly cool with, and told me she loves me as a friend. Of course I already knew that, but I cant stop wanting more from her. She told me that it was possilble forher to be bi, and that she wasnt completly sure. When she told me this my heart jumped! But i doupt she is.
She was an sddiction, of making out wih guys. Shes in the 7th grade,(with me), but she n=been makking out with guys in highschool! She even told me she was in love with a guy in college. (before i told her,) she has been really supportive, but wont talk to me as much becasue all she wants to talk about is guys, and doest want to hert me, so she talks with her best frind ad they re alwasy running off together. The thing is im not great friends with her friend, because to tell you the thruth, she an ugly bitch. Literaly she has only one friend, well and some 8th graders, but she so stupid, next year she ll be such a loner…
OK so anyway, the other day i told her she was perfect. She said thx but im not. So i say well to me yo r. Then she says no im really not. Ive been worried about her ever sence! Did she go to far?? idk bc she wont tell me and its scaring me, i dont want to push it bc she seems verys senseive about it. But just the idea of that kills me inside!! Today during math, i was starring at her. She turned around and gave to the u creeper face then waved awkwardly. I literly didnt know what to do so I just waved back. I feel like an idot whenever i talk to her, so just hug her insted. She doesnt care and will hugme back and sometimes randomly come over and hug me. I feel like she teasin me, making me want her, then is like well you cant have this. I LOVE HER SO FUCKING MUCH!!!! what should i do??? ive told my friends, and they tell me that she ll get boered with her game and that someday we will be together. I like to bielve it, but ik it will never happen. Whenever im alone with her i just wan to lean over and kiss her, but i cant, i wouldnt want to sacrifise our friendship that i worked so hard to build. She knows, but doesnt know what to do.Neither do I. Should I kiss her and see what happens? Or just wait it out? I dont think I can, all i can think about is her, my grades are droppong, and im starting to question if life is worth living. PLease help me, it has already heled to know im not alone. Thanks.

Hi guys.
I just wanted to share a different story with you, to let you know sometimes this can happen too, and maybe even give you hope. When I was 14 I fell in love with my best firend and she texted me that she liked me too, and we acknowledged it but we never spoke aloud about it, and then she suddenly just started acting like nothing had ever happened. It broke my heart, but I loved her, so I decided I’d never let my unrequited love for her ruin our friendship. Now after four years, we are better friends than ever, and suddenly she told me that she’s attracted to me. She said she’d do anything for me. And just really naturally we came closer to each other. Realising that it had always been her for me and me for her was the best thing that has happened to us, ever. We love each other and it’s all that matters.
I wanted to share my story not to give false hope to desperate girls, but to say that sometimes good things happen too. I am truly happy. And neither of us has labeled ourselves gay or bi or straight with an exception. Ultimately, it’s not who you’re attracted to, it’s who you fall in love with.
Courage!

Hey guys, im not in the Exact same position, but its close.

Last year i had to leave my old school, due to bullies and haters.
So i changed school, and all in all (looking outside in) it was for the best, closer to home, not as crowded, and there are actually some great people there.
My first day at school and i was hanging around with a few friends that i had known outside of school, there were people downstairs and we were joking about the noise, i shouted out (Jokingly) ‘God! i wish some people would just shut the hell up’ The people that were loud downstairs started to laugh. (keep in mind on my first day i had an assistant with me, because people thought i may need a backbone, i didnt and so she was dismissed from me, because for the first day i had this assistant people thought i was foreign and didnt understand english, so on my first day some girls started slagging me off – in FRONT of me, literally).

Anyway, some people were walking upstairs calling me out, to have a fight, without even asking me who i ws talking to, and surprise surprise it was the exact same group of girls.

Anyway, days later i met the most AMAZING and BEAUTIFUL girl in the world (Im 15 and female, and the same for her).

She has short red hair, shaved on one side, the shaved side is black coloured, the red side sometimes is hairsprayed into position and sometimes she just leaves it. She has tanned skin and a peircing right below her bottom lip, in the middle. She wears (the uniform durr) short skirts – but not too short, and the rest is always perfect.
We got to know eachover over the next few weeks and i started to settle in to new school life, i also noticed her behaviour was different to other peoples. She smiles at me, hugs me, blows kisses at me, leans into me, playfully pushes me, we tickle eachover, and she holds eye contact for a long time…one day whilst getting to know eachover she told me she was gay, i was surprised, but didnt judge her at all.
I started to

Notice that i had some feelings for her, thats when i was assured that i was gay, but could never come out, my family hates homosexuals and would never accept it.

She told me her relationship problems, and that her and a 17 year old had been geting close, but she just wanted sexual stuff, due to her previous problems. I was angry at this and told her she couldnt, it wasnt right, she needed someone who could love her, and treat her right, she smiled at me, and leant into me again.

because her group of friends are the ones from day one, we cant hang out outside of school, or in scool. We have one lesson together and only get to hang out 3 hours a week….so we get everything out during that time. Except each time i grow more and more close to her and fall more and more in love with her.

How do i tell her that;
Im gay,
i love her,
i want her,
i miss her…. and that i could love her and treat her better than anyone else. (im also romantic, E.g give her my coat, pull out her seat, offer her everything, and i also speak politely to her).
bottom line is, how do i tell her?

Hi, … I’m a straight person too, … but like You all I love Her ! I’ve always been straight, … the guy’s cheek, … everyone of them were competing to get my attention, … which made me feel like a queen ! But then I met her, she actually helped me getting out of my long-term troubles ! And here we go, … I can’t eat, … I can’t sleep, I’m thinking about her 24/7 and for me, … this is not normal! As I’ve been noticing with her is the same, … she can’t sleep, … she doesn’t eat, but she lives with a boyfriend. For me this is ok, … couse it’s granting me time to finally get her out of my life! But on the other hand, … I’m dreaming of her french kiss, …. her hug and even so much more ! All other guys interested in me, … well they don’t mean nothing to me !!!!!!! …. hopefully, my True Love will Blossom and is not in vain !

Hi I’m the same as all of u and I’m strat and was planing married to my partner but I fall in love with my best mate and Couldn’t stop thinking abont her and iv had that with me for over a year now until Sataday nite we went out in town drinking and clubbing and she even had her parter there but I thorw I had her on her own so I told her and well it was amazing her was kissing me I feel on top of the world but now she is left not noing what she wonts but she is thinking it over and in one way I don’t think it’s going to kick off and I no iv still got my friendship there and that we r to strong and nothing will came between use .

Hope I do get the gd news as this girl have stolen my hart xx

Mate I have the same thing, I’ve the girl now all you have to do is man up and tell her. Trust it works then you can do more than kiss her I’m 15 now and me and her have been together a year. Good luck!

guys, er, girls
we all have the same problem
but i am here to add to the stories
so there is this girl (obviously)
and i am so in love w/ her
we r like best friends (of course)
and she is straight
but we r so close
and omg, i cant bear it anymore
but reading these stories has been great
and now i dont feel as lonely
i wish i would stop falling for straight girls…
dont we all…

Im 13 and I livE in providence/pawtucket ri
I really need some help bc Ive fallen for my best friend
I told her and she is comepltly cool with it and has been really
Supportive. I love her so much and she knows it but idk what to do. She is strait and I want her to live me but I know she never will. So I’m looking for a girlfriend or just some1 to talk to, hopefully it will help.
Ilovesk44@gmail.com

OMG!!

I’m going through this like RIGHT NOW! I’m 16 too and we have pretty much the same story here

After reading these posts I feel much better and m ready to share my story. (Did I just sound lame there or what?) Ok, so I’ve known this girl for like…7 years. I always thought she was great and all, but only recently did I realize I’m falling for her. I know she’s bi, she’s told me and everything. And I used to think “um.. okay then.” But then she kissed me on a dare and i started really liking her. But I’m not pretty, or smart, or really talented, and I have a 0.001% chance of her liking me back. We hug, kiss each other on the cheek, things like that. But she’s one of my best friends, and I’m scared if I tell her my feelings she’ll start being awkward towards me. Any suggestions?

That’s ridicolouise!! Have any advise??? She is so fucking hot I can’t help but stare at her. I’m so lost, but I’m glad I told her bc ever sence then I think she except idk I love her. What do I do???? I really need help but idk why bc I couldn’t ask for a better friend, she has been the best she let’s me hug her and doesn’t act awk and will listen to me and it’s been a hard month and she has always been there. these are only some reasons I love her, I could go on forever but I still wish she loved me but she only loves me as a friend nothing more

I feel the same way about my friend,
I’ve knoe this girl for 4 years but I’ve been slowly getting getting close to her over the past few now were almost best friends. This month has been awesome we’ve hung out more and become so close we write cute messages to each other on facebook and things on bbm we say I love you to each other but only in a frienship way. Recerntly I’ve had this urge to kiss her and have sex with her but I’ve only felt this way about guys before. I think she’s really pretty and hot. I see her looking at me and she stares a little to long soemtimes I think she likes me she’s bi and I’m straight so that makes me like her more. She know I would never do anything lesbian or anything because I renind her often I like guys but I think she knows inside I like girls we have so much in common and we do the rare flirt only… In a friendship way I feel like imn holding back because I feel like this and its getting me down I’m not looking for anything long term but just to know she likes me in that way as weel would be nice

I’m in the same situation, I’m always flirting with her and she’s always flirting with me too, and when I hang out with my other friends and don’t hang out with her, she gets mad, I don’t think she has any idea that I like her, and that I’m gay? Idk, but I don’t see her everyday. But when I do, sometimes it’s kinda awkward, cuz I wanna tell her, but I don’t wanna ruin what we already have, she likes it when I touch her, lol but sometimes I feel like kissing her, but I get shy when it comes to that step, she has kissed another girl but she was drunk… and the problem is that she has a boyfriend, and her boyfriend sees me as his bestfriend, cuz I’m always being there for them when they break up or have any problems I’m always doing my best for them to get back together, but yeah I’m happy for her that she’s happy with her bf, and I rather have what I already have with her, than not having her in my life at all:)

@ Soccerbeast17 Back off this one she is already taken.

I know I try, and just try to be there when she needs me, but the thing is that I only flirt with her cuz she starts flirting with me first. But I’m cool just being her bestfriend:) I love seeing her with her bf, cuz she’s happy with him, and she’s happy with me too, but cuz we’re bestfriends & I know she’ll never see me that way, she just sees me as her bestfriend, I know when we girls have a good friendship like that we cudd misunderstand the signs they giving us, and we start creating our own fantasy, so like I said we’re just bestfriends:)

No….if you haven’t prepared for the worst case… I would say don’t believe me, okay I have a similar story with you, we’ve been best friend for 7 years, the funny things about her, each time she broke up with her boyfriend we got closer, even I used to have a nick name for her, mi Princessa, and she always smile when I call her with that name, after she broke up with her last boyfriend, she phone me like very often, and always said that She’s happier when being together with me, just two of us, and she even asked me to sing that Beautiful girl Jose mari chan for her… until one day, I feel like she’s acting strange and try to avoid me *that until now, I don’t know the reason*
that was also the time when I realized I love her, I feel strange and depressed when she avoided me, and one day, I professed my feeling to her… and I tell her that I want to be straight…. we just try to avoid each other, it’s hurt… and a year pass, it was just yesterday I hang out with her, and I read her bbm with her other friend and say that she is with me now, her friend asked whether she is ok or not? she simply said she will be ok. That time.. even I haven’t spoke to her for a year, I felt the same way like I used to be, being madly in love with her.. and now I can’t told my true feeling cause I’m afraid to lose her again… .. we’re Chatolic, It’s sinful to be gay but “If I was wrong, I don’t wanna be right”

you know just go tell her she might feel the same
if not she might fall in love with you some day but if you want friend ship thats fine

but eney way its really good you like your bestfriend

just be your self

I think that is cute but dude WAKE UP THERE IS A WHOLE VARIETY OF OTHER GIRLS JUST WAITIN TO MEET YOU AND HAVE XXX WITH YOU SOO STOP HITTIN ON YOUR FRIEND AND GO AND GET A REAL GIRL

i neeed help im in love with 12 girls all at the same time i have kissed 1 of them called jessica and had sex with her too she sed she likes me and wants me as a gf but when i asked her out she sed yes and now im 20 and we are engaged but i love another girl called lucy see is a pole dancer and whe i watch her she draws me into her big boobs and makes me want to have sex with her but one night i got so drunk for a month and ended up have sex with her 4times a day and i got her pregnate and im getting married next week so what shall i do i love her so badly and she loves me to but i need a gf so if u want to go out with me email me db.2001@live.co.uk xx single girls come get me xx

Belive me I know how you feel. ):Iv been in love with my best friend for two years. And it is both the best and worst hing that has happened to me. First off I am confused. I think I’m bi maybe alittle more lesbian but I don’t know, I’m only 16. My bestfriend is bi but seems more stright. She was talking to me today and she said this girl told her that she likes her. (and ofcorce my… I don’t even know what to call her) likes her back. Unfortunatly, in my case, I waited too long to tell her how I felt. I didn’t want to tell her because I thought she was still in love with her ex girlfriend. But after she told me about this girl liking her I said I need to tell you somehing. “now that another girl has you i finnaly have the courage to tell you. I have liked you for a very long time but I was afraid to tell you cuz I didn’t think you felt the same, and I didn’t want it to effect our friend ship.” and she said that she felt the same. (here I am getting all happy and getting that “In love” feeling in the pit of my stomich” so I thought okay his is great the most beautiful person inside and out feels the same way.) so I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said that she would say yes but what’s her face,(the girl who won her) and I have been talking and it’s kind of serrious. And then bang. Right in my heart. That’s the feeling, of being broken hearted. I can’t really sleep tonight so I though maybe his would make me feel better. But it really hurts how she’s choosing this girl she just met over me, her “bestie” I thought she would choose me, i thought we were closer. guess I was wrong…
  

I’m straight as far as I’ve ever known, only had boyfriends all of my life, lust after boys a lot, and love watching man on man porn (hahaha), but this girl has a hold on me. This normally doesn’t happen. I can’t seem to get her off my mind ever. I’m not sure if I’m just longing for her to be a best friend or if this crush is more than that. We play on the same sports team, she’s brought me home twice because I needed a ride, and she’s just so sweet and has similar interests in music and stuff. We only see each other in school and on the practice field, as of now.

I find it very unusual that this pretty, athletically skilled, smart girl is not conceited or a total whore with the boys. She is basically perfect as far as being equally beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside.
ps: I smile a lot when I see her and when she texts me which is pretty often.

Anyone feel like this or any opinions/advice? I feel so awkwardly alone in this situation and just had to vent this one out.

I saw her today and she was dressed very cute, she can pull of styles that most girls can’t. If I ever wore a “baseball” hat with cute top and short shorts like her I’d probably be laughed at or have creepers after me haha
but I guess I meant to add that I’ve very comfortable talking with her, after that initial shock of wow (how pretty she is), I remember where I am.

i hav problem nd i need solution.. plzz help..
i hav a bst friend he is ma bstfrnd since 2 years.. nd i liked him since d begining.. nd i dint realise dat he loved me too.. he was the best person eva to me dat tym… den later i thot he doesnt love me coz i wasnt aware it.. than his frnd started liking me nd i went dated with him.. without realising dat ma bst frnd loved me and was upset… atlast i broke up with da guy whom i was dating coz i realised dat i love ma best frnd… nw dat i hav realised i hav been waiting for ma bstie from 13 months.. nd i sumhow managed to tell him dat i love him .. but he is angry with me coz i went out with his friend.. nd wenever i ask abt love he tells me a lie saying dat he has a gulfriend. but actually he is single.. i trully love him… nd i need advice pllz do help… i litrally cry thinking abt ma best friend nd ma friendship.. which was just a special thing to me.. all d tym we spent with each other was special.. i really cant live adae without speaking txting nd calling him.. he loves me but he cant tell me… nd he is very angry with me but he doesnt show.i want ma best friend to love me nd propose me… wat shpuld i do ? plzzz help:(

Me and this girl have known each other since the beginning of school but became close at the beginning of 2011 (I’m 18 now). I started to regard her as one of my closest friends but it was never anything more than that. It started off as a crush, I thought I was just infatuated by her, but as time went on I found myself falling for her.

We are both very open people and because of this neither of us have a particular label on our sexuality. The feelings I was having were starting to become more of a problem, in my day to day life (because I saw her everyday) and in my relationship (with a boy), so I decided to tell her.

I got straight to the point and told her exactly how I felt. She said she was extremely flattered, but unfortunately didn’t feel the same way. I was absolutely gutted. However, I was lucky that we were so close and she was so cool with it as it meant I could talk to her about it and tell her exactly how I felt, it did not affect our friendship in the slightest. The only times it was awkward was when I made it awkward (when she tried to hug/kiss me in the first few weeks after telling her). At times I felt like she was toying with my emotions as we naturally already had a very flirtatious relationship, but after I told her it seemed to get more intense. Again, I told her exactly how I felt and she admitted she liked the attention I gave her but agreed to stop purposely going out of her way to flirt with me.

The bad news is my now ex-boyfriend left me and I still remain head over heels for one of my closest friends. I find the best way to deal with it is to be the best possible friend I can to her. She does get treated slightly better than my other friends because I always want to make her happy. I have come to terms with the fact that I cannot help the way I feel and currently the only way I can ensure I am happy is to keep her happy. I don’t know when I will get over her or how long it will take me, but I do not regret telling her at all because at least now I know exactly where I stand and I am free to move on with my life when I am ready.

Girls, if you’re afraid of your so-called best friend laughing at you or judging you because of feelings you can’t help, you must ask yourself how much of a good friend they really are. You should only have people in your life who accept you for who you are. I am not even a lesbian/bisexual (I don’t think) and I was judged by people I thought were my friends, but now they are out of my life I feel so much better because I can now be free to be who I really am, me.

same here guys,,loving someone with the same sex…whooooooa!!! hard isn”t??butterflies in d stomach!
me too kinda confussed right know bcoz of this woman,,whom i bet she is too to me but bcoz its complicated we dont know,,I dont know whats going to happened…she 16 yrs older than me…im only 35..i dont know what happened! I just found out that im happy when were 2geder and I know that she feels the same way too,,the problem is HOW?? im a married person , she’s seperated, she has things to do for her family.. dang,,wat to do???? i told her to get back to his husband and she doesnt liked.. things are finished with them.dont know Iam really confussed like crazy now!

I totally have this going on haha! So glad I am not alone on this one.
Well I’m kinda dealing with the fact I think im bisexual but I have only come out to 2 of my friends who were amazing about it So yeahhh this girrrrrrrl is on my course at college and she is pretty amazing! We first met back in september and I just couldn’t keep my eyes off her that first day (it was like oh my!!! where have you been?!!) sooo time went on during course and I was sitting on a different table with other friend and I looked up to near her table and I caught her staring at me….(more than 5 seconds telling u!) and so I immediately found her stare so intense I blushed and looked down. -She has the most amazing eyes they are like darrrrrrrk darkkk brown (very mysterious). So I looked back up just to see if she was looking…and my god she was still staring at me, but the stare was like not creepy it was like she was trying to find out who I was or interested in me. Soooo even more time went by and we have a group of friends and she is apart of our group tooo! ;D And now its unbelievable how close we have become so quick it’s like we were magnets and we just clicked and we cant get enough of eachother – we are alwayssssss touchy feely,cuddling,glancing at each other whilst in our group. She always seems to be the one too start it aswell..my god she is too beautiful I feel sooo out of her league (she has been in a previous photoshoots for ASOS) she is like wow! and we are both interested in fashion I like the fact that I think I’m flirting with this ‘straight’ girl she is such a hard to get girl but when she wants me… wow she just grabs me – like one time I was walking towards the lift and I was on my own to go get something from bottom floor and BANG out of nowhere she came from behind and as door lifts opened she put my against the side and just giggled inches away from my face saying helllo gorgeous holding my hips (hot right ). But seriously when we were out for her birthday she had her phone in my bag and she obv came close to get it out and I turned round to see who it was pulling on my bag and our noses ended up touching while I was helping her get it out anddd after she got it she looked up and giggled and gave me a kiss on my cheek (more towards the side of my lip) and one time we walked home from a party in the woods with 2 other guys (who are actually gay couple) and I was talking to one she was talking to other ( me and her were both holding hands so we were obv in good distance of eachother) and I overheard her say ”I like (me) because she is not bitchy at all” , ”If (her boyfriend) and (me) had their hand on my knee i would’nt know whos hand to put mine on” —- later that night we went back to some after party thing and 2 guys there were like ”I love your accent and it makes you even more pretty” soo she comes along and says ”Yeah you are gorgeous If I was gay I would SO date you” —- wow even more sooo yeah shes dating this guy atm but its soooo on and off and she always comes to me for advice and says I should jibb him… :/ everytime she says that its like (omg I want you to jibb him) And last thinggg we were in toilets and she said to me and my friend ”I asked (her boyfriend) if he wouldnt mind me having a bisexual relationship like with a girl and he said he wouldn’t mind” and her and my friend looked at me just to see what my comment would be… was soooo weird :’) well yeh soo im still going through this ‘adventure’ maybe when the boyfriend goes and I find right time I will tell her im Bi but not that I like her just to see her reaction first

Im 14 and i need help,my lab partner is a girl and she is 7 months older than me and always refers to me as her ‘little sister’ I realized recently that I have a huge crush on her, I can’t get her out of my head she’s so beautiful and goofy and adoreably sweet and blushes when I look at her and looks away. When we past eachother in the halls,she stops me and kisses my cheek and hugs me. Though we have seperate groups of friends, we will hang out a lot.Brittani(the girl I’m absolutely in love with) keeps sending me mixed signals,she kisses my cheek,holds my hand,wraps her arms around my waist and hugs me for long periods of time,once she even took it as far as to give me a slight peck on my lips then she ran away. I already know she’s straight but I have a feeling she’s bi and knows I like her.I get shy around her and she sees me blush when her name comes up.and she had to have noticed that I pay more attention to her than my other friends. She recently broke up with her boyfriend because they have too many problems(as she vented to me about often)and when I asked her who else she liked,she just smiled at me and I had to look away because her dimples make my heart stop. When I went to the movies with her and a friend that tagged along,we were in line and talking about Brittanis recent exe and the friend said’boys suck you and Ana(me) make a good couple. You two might as well go out. Already crazy about eachother’ Brittani nudged the friend playfully and I prentended I hadn’t heard. If Brittani does like me,which I hope she does,I’m not sure if I should make a move,I don’t. Want to mess up our friendship because she really is a good friend. Plus I’m very shy and its almost hard to get a word out of me,but with Brittani its just so easy to talk to her. I don’t. Know what to do. . . Please help :/

ok so im like really confused. i love my friend lies theres no tomorow. But i know she doesnt feel the same way. But maybe. I am the only one she doesnt hug i dont know why. maybe cause she get shy with me. i did the must stupid thing.i txt her about one of my dreams about her. in the dream i was huggin her from behind and kissing her neck.She was like ok i want to ask you something. i said ok shoot. she said dont take it the wrong way. i said ok. she said so u like girls. my heart like stopped. when i always txt her and talk to her i get nervous and my hands sweat. My other friend i tell her all about it. she says i have puppy love. Maybe i do. so i told my friend which im madly in lve with that i didnt like girls im striaght. she said if u were a guy would you date mme. i said yes of course i would. she asked me wat doo i wish from. i said to mean something to someone and not to everyone. she said no thats not a good answer lol.she said did i ever wish if i was a guy. said no maybe i lied a little. she said she was goin to talk to me about the situation face to fac. month later she hasnt and thats brakes my heart. she acts like nothin important happened and it heart breain. i started writin poetry about her. i show my friend but they dont know it about her. i just say i write cause i felt like it. now we barly talk but she stares at me for a long time sometimes.About my dreams they say you dream about someone a lot cause they thing about you. well i told her that and she said to be honest i dont think about you and i dont about anyone. im like so heart brokin and confused. Maybe it is puppy love and ill get over it one day maybe. i still love her with all my heart. its werid how someone can brake your heart and ull still ove them with all the little piece. the other day i tryed to talk with her at u know go with the flow. acted like i was alright with forgetin about it. she gives me one of those shy and blushy smiles. and i just smile. maybe she doeslike me back but she doesnt want to show it. but ill just wait and see how thing good. love it hard.

To Jennifer:

- please be careful with letting it pass on its own with the time, because I did that and 4 years later I’m still in the same situation..

I believe i’m one of the few that has not liked a girl that was straight! It’s called a ‘gay-dar’ people basically ingrained in your mind. What I’ve noticed is that girls are very, very flirtatious. For lesbians and bisexuals like us, that’s f*cking annoying! We see things that aren’t there, because we want to believe them. Like half the time you think that this special best friend only touches you in that way, but you may only think that because you don’t pay attention to her touching others like that. Girls are confusing gals. They’re mean and lead you on when they know how you feel. Or they’re just reaally flirty…

What I’m trying to say is, don’t read too much into things. You want concrete evidence that can’t be mistaken for anything else.

And to the people who think they are in love: love is often mistaken for infatuation, which is an obsession. A need to be around them and with them all the time. The feeling that you can’t live without them. Real love shouldn’t make you feel that way. It should make you feel heartbroken sure, but you need to know that you will move on.

I was completely in love with this girl for a year and a half. Hate to say ‘love at first sight’ but that’s what it was. A blond, blue eyed angel sent staight from heaven to me. She was everything, i told myself i could not live without her. our relationship was major dysfunctional and when we finally broke up for the last time i was devestated. I wanted to lay there and die, i thought i’d never be happy again. And of course friends tell you, you’ll be fine, and family and your parents say that time will heal your pain, but what the hell do they know! They don’t feel this gaping hole where your heart used to be. So i sat there day after day, looking at pictures, pathetically facebook creeping her, sending needy texts… It was rough..

It’s been 8 months. Took me 7 months to realize that time DOES heal wounds, but only if you let it! You can’t sit and wait for it to happen. 7 months go by sooo fast. The best thing about heartbreak (there’s an upside!) is that you learn so many valuable life lessons. And you know that you’ve completely healed, and that you’ve forgiven your ex for her mistakes when you don’t think about what she’s done TO you, but what she’s done FOR you. She taught you strength, love, protection, trust, respect, so really i ended up thanking my ex, for making me realize who i was; who i am. Without her.

You don’t need anyone but yourself. Others are there to enhance you, but only you can complete you.

I know this is long, and many will think I’m nuts, but once you go through all this crap and come out alive! You’ll know the truth

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Hey guys, so in pretty much the same situation as everyone.. With regards to that last comment saying that you look into things that aren’t really there and stuff like that can someone tell me if they see anything?? Ok so we’ve been best friends for over a year now and we’ve gotten really close, can’t go over like 6 hours without contacting eachother lol, we see eachother every day and if we don’t it’s becos one of us are out of town or something lol. Before we became friends I always kind of had the feel that this girl liked other girls but it didn’t really matter until we became friends and I started to like her. Every week we sleep over in eachothers house, we sleep so close and sometimes we wake up with our arms around eachother n stuff. We kiss playfully and hug and we really love eachother so much but I can’t tell if she feels the same way about me, she gives me so many signs that she does but then she kisses guys and would say how sexy they are,, but I suppose I do that too lol. One night that we were pretty smashed we came home to my bed and we ended up making out for a long time, I’m pretty sure that it was her that initiated it, and we have come close to doing it many other times. We’ve made out lots of other times when we were drunk and we always end up in the same bed after a night out and wake up so close, usually face to face lol, most nights we hold hands in bed too. I can see her get nervous when we come close, just like i do.When we are out with friends she would always have her hand on my leg or lean on me or touchh my hand.I really can’t tell if she likes me the way I like her, what do you guys think ??

Hi there,

I’m 18 years old and I have a perspective for you from the other side. When I was 15 I had a friend that I did everything with, we talked online all the time, went out and just spent the majority of our lives together. As the months passed I started to notice that the way she was looking at me…well it wasn’t like the way you would look at someone who was just a friend. She started dropping little comments here and there, saying all of the things she’d do to me sexually if we were together and I’m not going to lie it turned me on! The way I was feeling confused me at first but I just carried on as normal giving the odd flirtatious line of my own.
One night she came to my house for a sleep over and whilst watching a film she told me that she was in love with me and wanted to be with me. It took a moment for it to sink in but when it did I kissed her and later that night we got into some very intense heavy petting and kissing. However as the days passed after that night I started to think properly about what I wanted and told her I was sorry but I couldn’t be with her, but I still really wanted to be friends. She got a little crazy and spread some nasty rumors which led me to never trust her again and we haven’t spoken since.
My point in telling you this story is this, tell the person you want to be with that you like them. If they’re even a half decent person they wont be a dick about it and the likely hood of you falling out is minuscule. Just don’t be a jerk after if they do decide they can’t be with you.

Okay,
Rant over, peace out ya’ll.

You should try! If she doesnt like u I’ll totally date u I’m 16 2

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I’m in exactly the same situation. I’ve been in a relationship with a girl before and my best friend is fully aware that I go for girls and guys. I’ve been in love with her for as long as I’ve known her and it just keeps getting stronger. I follow her blog and whenever she posts about the men in her life I get so jealous. Back in December she came to stay for the weekend with my parents (we’re at University), and we ended up getting really drunk and sleeping with each other. She insists that she’s straight and she said the morning after that she didn’t regret it but it can never happen again. I agree with the latter, but I have to say that a huge part of me regrets it. I often think that my feelings wouldn’t have developed so much if it didn’t happen. At the same time I treasure that night so much though. It was just amazing. I don’t know if she knows how I feel. I’d be pretty angry if she did because she always, ALWAYS tells me about her love life. I doubt she’d do that if she knew. I’d never want a relationship with her; our friendship is too precious to me – it’s like she’s me in another form. It’s just frustrating that I feel that way I do and I really don’t know what to do sometimes…

These craziness, It all begins in middle school…. Well before we go into the details I want to share why or maybe girls are carrying some gaydar idea about me, I don’t know, lets get started I’m not a girly girl at all I do not wear make up, get complicated pedicures like long nails, colored nail polish (I use clear nail polish) I do my own nails I’m pretty good at it, I even do my moms she says I’m a professional. Khammmhmm, ANYWAYS, I do not carry myself conceited and girly, I’m just a simple girl, I’m not complicated, I don’t like complication. I just be me and carry myself the way I feel comfortable in. I’m kinda like a tomboy, I play sport, but I do not carry myself as a wanna be boy, I were normal girl clothes. Well when I was in middle school I used to wear a little of baggy clothes due to my parent curiosity of me wearing tights and revealing clothes to school, and when me and my parents go shopping they would usually pick my pants and shirts (my school requires uniforms) if I pick a clothes they would check if it’s to tight or short, both my mom and my step dad act like that with me everytime we shop, they still fo till this day (only all that change i’m able to buy my clothes now lol) then I would put it back and thought in my mind why can’t I choose what I want to wear: I felt like I was being smothered by parent’s paranoid attitude: they so worried of how I carried myself and my modesty. To be honest I’m a very modesty person I do not dress half naked, I can not and I won’t ever, not my thing at all plus I just can’t imagine someone staring at me with half my body showing especially sexually I will feel very uncomfortable and I will feel like an apple in someones eyes it’s just weird to me lol. But anyways my dressing code I think in middle school and high school send out a wrong idea about me, so people begin think that I was acting or wanted to be like a boy: to make it even worse my hair was always braided, my mom always braided my hair so that It will grow and gain strength I have like African American hair. I know the way I appear might send wrong idea about me, I did not care, as you can see I’m a carefree person I honestly do not care what anyone thinks of me I held my hand on high all through out school, I hardly get mock or bullied because I stayed my ground, I am very reserved person I keep to myself, I’m a little quiet, I hardly talk to anyone in school except my friends whom I talk to, but do not share my all my personal matters with, they weren’t my best friends but we were like buddies, (we all lost touch anyways and now I have no friends lol) I am not that quiet at all once you get to know me, I talk a lot I drive my mom crazy, I used to be so shy but now I have overcome that issue in my life I’m not shy anymore and I realized people are people just like me there’s no need to fear them lol. I talk to much right….. So my braids, clothe style bring this weird experience with girls around me ( by the way I love to braid my hair a lot, just Alicia keys lol).

OKAY let’s get to the point, girls started acting strange around me (this started in middle school) I get stared at a lot, get comments like you cute…. There was this girl name Anabelle, I remember when I first met her in my class, she always smiling at me which is normal in a friendly way nothing wrong with that, than she would stare at me, smiles, the weird thing is she always stare at me and smiles which I found a bit disturbing. Than one time the school invited our parents to the school I forget why maybe to check how we were doing in school, then she walks over stare at me smiles, sit right in front of me ( there were arrange sits for everyone since it was a meeting) then after a little while she turn her head around look at me and smiles, weird huh. ( In my thought I was like, uh! what the?) I just have a normal look and was really confuse and say it might be nothing, I’m just probably misunderstanding. One time I have my braid and it look awesome on me, even I thougt I was cute with it lol I went to school people seen my hair and did not make any comments of course not that I remember. But Anabelle gave me a compliment when we were in class she saw me but did not say anything, but after a while we sat in our sits, she was in front and I was behind her, she turn around and look at me and say you look cute, she did not say I like your hair compliment, but say I look cute, I say thank you she smiles and turn back her head. She always stare at me, one time I was sitting down, than I stretch out my leg in a funny way to look at my shoes
She started laughing I turn around she was laughing at me I wondered why. Then one time I was coming in class as I was about to take my sit, she came up to me and ask me if I could put on her earing for her, I say okay, but out of all the girls in the glass she chose me to help her put it on. Then another time in another class I was with my best friend on the computer playing games, a music came on I started dancing and she started laughing and than later we were leaving the class, we were ask to form a line so we could leave the class in order, she came standing right next to me than she begin making heart shapes with her fingers on the table, I just completely ignore her all the times she does the usual. Another time, her and her gang of friends decided to make some investigation on me and I knew but didn’t pay mind one boy came to me to flirting with to see if hesitate, to see if I like boys I guess, I did not pay attention so he left than they send another person this time it a girl she started flirting I did not pay mind than she goes away, than I get from where I sat and leave without looking at them ( I’m the type of person who do not like drama, quarrels, arguments) than one time they dared a boy to kiss me than he came and kiss me on the cheeks surpringly, I was like what the, what are you doing kind of look. Than he left! Than I was walking with a friend and some girl was walking and she say she likes you, than I was like OKAY! I kept walking with head held high, than another girl, I was getting out of my class you know I got baggy clothes on with braided hair which make look cute, lol and the girl was like he’s cute lol lol lol then she came to know that I was a girl lol I was like huh when she said that and I wasn’t sure if she was reffering to me at all untill I look around there was no boy standing at all and she was looking directly at me, I was kind of scared to those kind of senses from girls.
Now in high school Anabelle and I meet again, we went to the same high school, she always say hi to me and I say hi; this goes on for a while than I don’t really know what happen I think I stop saying hi first and she stop saying hi…. Than nothing more, I think I gave her the hint that I’m NOT interested. But she would always stare at me whenever she sees me, one time I have overheard her while walking she says to her friend that I’m gay, I wasn’t mad nor did I open my mouth to argue with her, i just let it go since I don’t care what people thinks of me maybe as long as i know that i’m not , only me and God knows me. she was curious herself that she might be gay and wanted to know if I’m gay. Than another whom I met in middle school was just a friend to me, her name is Yen she is vietnamese she did nothing weird around me at all, untill one time we were having lunch in the cafeteria we were having a conversation I don’t really remember what we were talking about, but I think say some boy was cute, and she say you too you kinda cute, than she puts one leg on my lap than I got shy in weird way and pushed her feet down and I look at her with a confuse face! Than another girl she just met me started talking to me say hi, and all. One day the school threw a party for the school than I went to it saw her there to, and she act nervous around me she would have this urge nervousness of wanting to stand next to me than she moved somewhere else than comes back than goes again I kept looking at her with eyes down just to see and test why is she acting like that, the way she acting make me more nervous than she was, she make me feel uncomfortable and I felt like I was the one doing something wrong. I hate when girls act like this around me make me feel like I did something wrong. Another girl this girl was abviously gay or bi she said so herself plus she kiss a girl in front of everyone in my class but I did not see because I laid my head on the table and the book was blocking my face so I did not see and someone say I can’t beleive you two girls just kiss and both the girl act around me of course her name was Jessica I forgot the other name they were friends Jessica I think she’s confuse she kissed a girl than said she’s not gay. Than the girl that was gay say that I’m I say I’m not, it did not bother me at all. She would always flirt and act up around me, but never paid mind. There were a lot of lesbians and bisexuals in my high school. THE WORSE AND SCARIEST ONE OF ALL WAS MY Cousin she would always kiss me on the cheek a little to much, she would grind her butt in my frontal area its really weird and scary im assuming she is just playing, until one time she was laying down face down on the floor along with my other cousin (boy) playing video games, than she would move her butt dancing and look at me to see if I’m looking then when I was not looking she looked at me to get my attention she start dancing looking at her butt then I look at her really confuse like what is going on with my cousin, then when one I came over her house to play and we were watching tv I laid on my back watching the tv she came on top of me grinding my frontal area with hers I told her to get of off me but she did not she had total control on top of me all her weight was on me so it was difficult for to push her and get up she would pressure on me to not get up then after a while she got up, I was a young and did not understand what she was doing although I knew but I did not let that pass my mind could my cousin be gay why she behaving with me like this, those kind of things happen all the time family members find sexually attracted to each other, she would hit me really hard of course I can take hit though lol like in a playful way like a girl would hit a boy in a foreplay kind of way, one day we went to a trip with our church members and I sat in back sit of the bus, she sat right next to me we talking and laughing we pretty close cousins to me in a cousin relative way, but to her I do not know what she was doing or doing to me, it all scares the living out me. Anyway she then ask me to move and sit somewhere else with her just the two of us she kept kissing my cheek put her arm in cross my arm and lay her head on my shoulder and she said I love you, then I pause for a little bit I say I… Love. You too because she was my cousin. She would always say I’m cute I look cute, cutie. She always want me to be next to her and everywhere she goes, but as time pass it all stops she is now 19 and I’m 20 now and she has boyfriend I think she is confuse and hiding the facts she might be gay brother (gay cousin). Not saying she is but the way she acted with me always left slightest clue that she might be gay. Yup this is how it is around girls and I’m sick and tired of it. Ugh for goodness sake I wish it would stop, I think girls might be attracted to me well not all of them only the confuse ones, I seem to give girls a nervous break down I’m not sure what it is, strange that’s why I don’t get close to girls and I do not have girl friends as of now. And than college I get the same weird signs from girls, girl keep looking at me, act nervous around me, look to see if I’m staring at them, play their hair, look at me, start to strike conversation with me, the next day ignore me, the next day be nice to me, make me feel like I’m the one coming to them, make feel like the one doing the wrong thing. Act mad at me, she look at me than I do not look at her pretend I don’t see her, ask me how did on the test, ignore me the next, and ask me what I have as a grade ignore me the next lol. Than to ask for what page we are in the book she would call out to her friend next to me for the page number and I sat next to her, she could have ask me lol she does this a lot, then the next she ask what page we are on, than I told her. Now this weird thing is she did not choose to sit next to me nor did I choose to sit next to her first our math teacher assign us sit and we end up sitting next to each other, the next class our English teacher assign us sit and we end up sitting right next to each other once more time, we sit next to each other in two classes, she has a boyfriend, anyways one time we were getting ready to be dismissed Fro class, she got up and told her friend to check her butt (pants) to see if anything dirty is there I’m guessing blood around me nothing was there obviously I get up and live. One time in our math class her chair was a little backward in the distance, she moved it up to line with mine, I was looking at the corner of my eyes. Lol she stare at me sometimes. One time I was walking to go to my class and everyone was standing outside waiting but the class was empty so I got in first than she came in after me started talking with me and smiling than she stop people started getting in class. She act nervous around me. Sometimes she act shy and seems like she’s mad at me, when I don’t pay mind and she is scared that I might think she likes me or something that’s why she act nice than the next mad, her name was Angelica (pretty name, our English loved her name)….. It goes on and on I recently vibe from this girl also we go to bible study, we sing in the choir, she is nice, and friendly. We first met in the choir, she talked to me we don’t really talk a lot but we do we just met, like I say I’m more like a reserve person I do not quickly open up to just anyone it take a little time for me to get used to you, she sits next to me a lot, she look at me smiles, then one time we were at a bible study I find a sit to sit, and I sit down I lay my bible on the other sit next to me. And she was looking for a good spot to sit so she sat down, than she got up and came right where I was sitting she move so nervously whether to sit next to me or not, because I lay my bible on the chair next to me she sat next to the bible lol so a boy that kinda started liking me came right up confidently to sit next to me so I remove my bible and let him sit. My brother has a girlfriend he knew she was gay he doesn’t care and he brought her here because she was pregnant and her parents kicked her out of the house so she came here, I thought she was gay in a way, then she told me she is Bi she likes both boys and girls, she like girls with big butt I told her it okay as long as she do not make any move with me, Before she told me that she was gay, one time my brother pick me up and I was about fall and she came to support me so I don’t fall she grab me right on my chess and hold me there to support me I was struggling for my brother to let go of me so that I will not fall and so she can remove her hand of my boobs lol in my thinking I was like out of all the places she could have support me, she find my chest the best lol then when she say she was Bi I was like oh that’s why she held my chess that day. She would flash her boobs at night, one time she told me to put nail polish on her to nails for her, she no panties on but a short, you can actually see her vegina through it, I was like ugh she is not even wearing panties and I try to keep my eyes from looking at her bottom area as much as I can and pretend nothing is wrong I did not look add the nail polish fast, one night I went to bed, she pretended she was sleeping and I got under my cover and wait for long time to wait till I fall asleep, she start rubbing her foot on my back, I felt this soft light stroke going back and forth on my skin it was foot that she was rubbing on me and I was like what the I wasn’t fully asleep yet, she kept lifting her head of the pillow checking if I’m still asleep and I saw her acting and pretending: she rubbed her foot on me, flash her boobs purposely while pretending to be asleep, flash her vegina to me, seriously I told my mom about it we had a good laugh about it, it was too funny and my mom was uncomfortable with the whole thing, she do not like those kind of behavior, she do not support homosexuality she despise it. Well me on the other hand I don’t like it either, I dislike it, but if the person choose to live their life that way is up to them, not me, its their life they can do whatever they please with it, it’s their right. Everyone has free will. I like homosexuals but do not like homosexuality and I do not support it but doesn’t mean I will not talk to you or be your friend.

By the way I finally step up to my parents and say I will buy my clothes the way I want them to be, and stop telling what I should wear and what not to wear. I buy clothes that fit me, not baggy and appear more like a girl now lol, I told them that the baggy make me look like a boy and I was getting signals from girls so I told let buy clothes I’m older now, lol they still checking and say to tight lol but they can’t stop from buying.

I’m Christian, I believe in God, And I know God says he hates homosexuality, and anyone who do such practice will go to Hell and never enter Heaven (or see life). For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life. I don’t like it, I think it’s wrong not just because the bible tell me it’s a sin, but because it’s unnatural it doens’t look right, normal, if it was okay and natural people would not get desease from it (HIV). Men and men cannot reproduce, women and women cannot reproduce that is why they adopt children and a marriage is between men and women (wife and husband) because that is the way God made it and plan it to be. Imagine the whole world turn GAY, the whole world turn homosexually and think about it how if everyone is gay man and man, woman and woman how would the human race remain lol since the whole world is gay and turn their backs on the natural way of living. I think being gay is a choice, no one born this way, God did not make man that way, people choose to be homosexuals by choosing to do so, to satisfy their LUST, homosexuality is LUST not Love. Even science has proven no one born gay.

10For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine; (1 Timothy 1:10 KJV)

Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination. Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion. (Leviticus 18:22, 23 KJV)

9Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate (homosexuals), nor abusers of themselves with mankind (homosexuals), (1 Corinthians 6:9 KJV)

13If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. (Leviticus 20:13 KJV)

WHAT DO YOU THINK PEOPLE????

your wierd and your post is like a book, and no one gives a shut about u

Oh my goodness I am on the same exact situation almost :/ I hate it. But I know she is bisexual and she has a girlfriend. And I kinda like her:( but I feel like I’m in such an awkwar position to say anything!!! Nobody knows that I might like girls or be bisexual cause I go to a private religious school so it’s definitely FROWNED upon.

So hi
It’s crazy. I have the same problem as you all…My best friend is bisexual though and I began to fall in love with her…I just don’t have the courage to tell her because I don’t want our friendship to be ruined…I’ve known her for 4 years now…God I’m going crazy…I just love her, I know now, even though I always tried to deny it. Infact I’ve been trying to deny it for 2 years now…God.
Oh and I’m changing schools in summer and I probably won’t be able to see her that often anymore because we live far apart…
Should I just risk it and tell her?

I am encouraged and also scared as I read all of these comments. I am in my 30′s and have had feeling towards different girls in my life since I was 12. I have had boyfriends and have been in love with both guys and girls. I am a christian and have been taught that homosexuality is wrong. I want to marry a guy and have kids oh but I keep falling in love with woman that I am very close to. I was sexually abused when I was a kid so I was thinking that somehow subconsciously that has changed me and made me fall in love with a woman. I am trying to rationalize my feelings and find an answer as to why I have these feelings?? I have never talked to anyone about this. My feelings toward the same sex are so strong. This girl way out of my league just started a job where I work. I am instantly attracted to her. WHY?

LOVE,
Dont make your posts so damn long. No one really wants to sit and read through all that, but some do, thinking maybe they can offer advice or find some of there own, then towards the end its like a big diss to bisexuals and lesbians. And thats just plain rude. Logically, theres an extremely small chance you found this site by coicidence, so you must have been looking for it, and if you have nothing better to do than come to a site like this, where its supposed to be a safe place, and insult people, then i truly pity you. How can you call yourself a christian, a believer of god, if all you spend your time telling people homosexuality is wrong, that love is wrong? And then you go and use the bible to, but the bibles just a book, written by ignorant people such as yourself, the bible is not god, god is in your heart

Vivi,
My advice: go ahead and tell her, just spit it out. If shes really your best friend, then she wont care, unless she feels the same way, and then maybe it could be the beginnings of something beautiful.

Sally,
You say you re trying to rationalize these feelings, personally, i have never found that to be useful, its best to simply accept them and stop fighting yourself. And you ask why you re attracted to this new woman at your work, honestly, i cant answer that. Same reason i cant explain why i fell in love with (and still am in love with) my best friend, the heart wants what the heart wants i guess. You also mentioned that you are christian, and if thats causing you a hard time, think of it this way: god is all about love isnt he? Im not religious myself but im sure its about love and forgiveness, and if you love women, then how can that be against god? If you still arent sold on that, then heres another idea, maybe god created homosexuals, who cant reproduce themselves, to adopt all the unwanted children in the world, all the orphans, the starving, sick, and alone, they often find homes in a homosexual family, were they are loved and taken care of. Now please try and explain to me how that can be against god?

Blackcat14

Thanks for the advice. I really wish that when I am in a friendship with a close friend and fall in love that they would make the first move. It would be sooo much easier. Are you with your bestfriend? Like dating? If so what’s your story?
I read some of the stories about the flirting that goes on and the flirting from the unsuspecting person. I just hope one day that it will go further than that. I think it’ll be a beautiful thing.

Sally,
Glad to help, i know that over time quite a few ppl probably read my posts and maybe a couple even find them helpful, but its always wonderful when you get a thank you, even if its unnecessary, i just like helping people, however i can. As for my falling in love with my best friend, the relationship didnt go anywhere, i told her and she didnt feel the same way, but i was still her best friend, nothing would change that. Just as nothing can change the fact that im still madly in love with her. Friends like that are rare in this world and i am extremely lucky to have one a best friend like that and i hope you find one to, everyone deserves at least one good friend they know they can count on no matter what.
As for your comment about the flirting,:) a lot of straight people just subconsiously flirt with us, some even do it intentionally. I know that, before i told her, my best friend unintentionally flirted with me a lot, now that she knows, she does it on purpose, just to drive me nuts;) but ya know, thats what best friends do, they drive you nuts, then they are there when you need a shoulder to cry on.:)

Blackcat14

Ya my bestfriend flirts with me all the time. I’m totally in love with her but she doesn’t know it or denies it who knows. I even wrote down some things I was thinking after flirting. Here’s some stuff I wrote down. We were at the movies. I smell the sweet smell of your breath when you talk so close to me. If only our head would rest on mine. If only I could place a kiss on your forehead or on your lips. I wonder if you think of me as much as I think of you. Can you see my heart quiver when you stand so close to me. I wish I could capture the feeling you give me every time you look into my eyes. I want to look away but you captivate me and I want more of you. This friend is married so I’ll never have a chance. And I don’t think I would ever tell her how I feel. Wish I could just move somewhere else and explore then. lol it would be so much easier.

Sally
Aww, thats so cute!:) haha, but i know EXACTLY what you mean. Falling in love with your bestfriend is most certainly tough and it feels pretty much the same as you for me to be around her. Especially when i can tell somethings bothering her, i just want to lean over and kiss her and hold on to her and tell her that everything will be okay, but i maintain some resemblance of self control and restrain myself from doing anything stupid. Unfortunately im beginning to have trouble distinguishing between what i do because shes my best friend and what i do because i love her ya know?

Blackcat14

I totally understand about distinguishing between what to do because she is my bestfriend and what to do because I love her. It drives me crazy sometimes. How old are you by the way? A lot of the post are from young teens. If so you seem wise beyond your years lol.

Sally,
Haha, ya, i get the whole “wise beyond your years” thing quite a bit, which is why it surprises many people that im only 14:). How old are you?

blackcat14

I’m in my early 30′s. Ya I know sad I thought I would have settled down by now.

I’ve previously posted on here haha … but I still haven’t told my friend I’m at least bisexual… and that I love her :’) Its killing me inside how even closer we have been lately.

So does anyone have a suggestion of how you could tell them your a bisexual or cut straight to the point and say ‘I fancy the socks off you’ ??
(like places to take her orr what I should do etc) would be such a big help!!!

Sally,
Age is really just a number. Maybe you re one of those free spirits that simply refuses to settle down until they have really lived their life…:)

Nina00677,
Personally ive found that the best way to tell someone that you re a bisexual or gay is to take it slow, start out simply by asking them about how they feel towards gay/lesbians or about how they feel towards gay rights. If shes chill with it then you start asking questions like, “how would you feel if you found out one of your friends was bi?” Or something like, “have you ever been interested in another girl?” Just make sure you dont rush anything, just drop little hints over the course of a couple of weeks. Let her become suspicious, then when you feel comfortable with it, go ahead and tell her. Ive found this to be the best way… one thing i really would not do is tell her that you like her right away, give her time to adjust to the thought of you being bi, once things normalize a bit, then start dropping more little hints about you liking her. Believe me, its easiest if they already suspect. Good luck!

Im not sure if I’m bi or just bi-curious… I like boys,
Yet I like girls. Every girl I become friends with most likely I fall for her,
I flirt with girls & boys a lot. I’m currently in a relationship with a boy,
& I’m very happy. But I find myself thinking about girls wayyy
More than guys. I’m only 13& a half. So I’m not sure if my hormones are just messing w/ my mind. But every since I was in 1st grade I liked girls. I don’t know how to control it.. I mainly think it’s just Bcuz I flirt w/ a lot of people…… I’m a basketball player too, and the girl I’m in love with is also a basketball player. It’s known that most girls who play basketball are usually Bi.. Well, we text like were dating, we put <3's a lot.. And she always seems so happy whenever I flirt with her. I told her I liked her today, she seemed very happy and said "I knowwwwww:)" she totally cool & chill. I think we'd be a great couple. I just don't want society to make us feel like crap.. Then, there's also this other girl I like, she was a new student, we've gotten very close, & constantly flirt, she says if she were a guy we'd totally go out cuz were both cool, & laid back. I don't know what to do, I'm dating a guy, while liking two girls. But I think I'm in love with one of em…… Please help. ):

Thanks BlackCat14!

Yeahh that seems pretty smooth and with just the hinting after I’ve told her

Strangely today one of my other friends were teasing me and the girl I like she completely defended me (it shocked me because me and her always play fight and she is ALWAYS the one teasing me) and I said ‘wow…that means I really do have to be nice to you all day??’ then she said ‘Well in our relationship we have to support eachother’ and her facial expression was quite sincere with the way she was smiling and looking at me…

When im out clubbing and turn out drunk I always end up texting her and she always does the same and its ridiculous the things we say to eachother. Im certain that she has caught on too because she kept mentioning to our group of friends that I would text her when im drunk saying how I love her and etc etc etc …. (im a truth teller when im pissed). But she always keeps moaning how we need to go out and get wasted together (along with our other friends in our friendship group) and we are going out this friday…. and I have a strange premonition that something is bound to happen either that I will pull her or she will to me.. she basically said today when we were walking home that I would be her girlfriend if she didnt have a boyfriend..??? shes soo weird but thats why shes soo amazing and still looks attractive sorry I went on and onn there

I know your in love with your best friend in all,but what you should really do is have SEX with her/him. That would be awesome, even send in a video of you guys doing it. Because I do with my boyfriend all the time. We even do ot in the middle of class.

Type back of what I wrote

I feel the exact same way as the person who originally wrote this post and I have no idea what to do. Has anyone ever had experience of telling their best friend they are in love with them?? Because a month ago, I was completely of the mindset that I would never, ever tell her, but now it’s getting increasingly harder to be around her, and to talk to her, and I feel like I need to tell her.
I just don’t know if I should. I have this gut instinct that she feels the same way but then she’ll mention this guy or she’ll do something and I’ll think, no she doesn’t. I don’t want to ruin our friendship and yet I don’t feel I can take this any longer. Should I tell her?????

Wow, thank you for making me feel like I’m not the only one!!
I’ve met my best friend last year but we hardly talked. During this school year we’ve become closer than ever. She knows practically everything about me, and I know a lot about her too. We share the same sense of humor, the same taste of music, the same political views, we hang out often and we always message each other. We’re so alike, it’s scary. In personalities though, she’s more reserved. But when she says something, she’s very frank, honest and goes straight to the point. That’s why, after four months of hiding my feelings… I told her yesterday. Now she knows. I never felt so naked, so clear, so predictable. She said she felt it too but that needed to take time to reflect on it. I’m scared. I’m scared of making our friendship awkward or different. I even got to the point of hugging her and holding her hand, I don’t wanna screw anything up. I’m scared!

ive got a pretty similar story to everyone here but you all give such good advice ive decided to tell mine so that hopefull i can get some help in my situation so yea please any advice dont hold back im 17 and im pretty certain im in love with my best friend . ive only known her for about 6months but ive never been this close with anyone in my life and she is always on my mind no matter what im doing , when i kiss guys i jst picture her and a few months ago when we were both drunk we kissed , it was the best kiss ive ever had in my life and ive never been so attracted to someone in my life either and i just replay it in my head constantly dying for the day when it happens again. but not only am i physically attracted to her i just care about her so much i get so upset if she doesnt txt back and the worst thing is she has a boyfriend but the thing is i know for a fact that she doesnt love him and shes cheated on him a few times with no remorse which is awful i know but to me she is the most beautiful perfect being . other friends have asked me if we are lesbians before and commented that we act like a couple . i was just building up the courage to ask her but decided to test the water so i told her i was attracted to her on april fools day she said that it didnt bother her but she cudnt see anything happening at which point i pretend it was an april fools joke . but now i feel like shes pushing me away we used to txt constantly from one end of the day until one of us fell asleep , we’ve been through so much difficult things together and its killing me thats shes pushing me away now . so i was thinking i mite as well just tell her how i feel now because shes alredi pushing me away anyways so i havnt really got much to lose anymore ? i know it will kill me if our friendship ends but ill be away for the whole summer which will give me 2months to get over her . theres a little bit more to it but thats the basics of the story .. any advice will be much appreciated thanks a mil

Hey Blackcat or anybody else

This is what I posted before “I really wish that when I am in a friendship with a close friend and fall in love that they would make the first move. It would be sooo much easier.” WELL folks ya it happened. She told me that we would make the perfect couple etc etc etc. I still think it is all crazy. I want to just be friends and then we can see what will happen. so glad though so glad!!

Still can’t believe the events of this week. I have always been with guys. I have fallen in love before with a girl but never told them. Now that I have a girl pursuing me it’s so crazy to me. I pray this relationship works out. Gosh I love her already. I can see myself being with her for the rest of my life!!!!! “I kissed a girl and I liked it.”

Jeez, i feel like i havent posted here in forever. Im glad everythings working out for you sally! Its great that you ve got a girl pursuing you, maybe this could turn into a beautiful and long lasting relationship:) i wish you the best of luck.

Okay. I live for my girl. She means everything to me and I don’t mean that as some stupid metaphor or loaded language. I mean it with every part of me, that my soul is no longer mine – because I have given it, I have given every part of me – to her. She’s the closest piece of heaven I have and when I look in the mirror – I no longer see a girl who doesn’t know who she is. I see someone who has finally realised the meaning of life. That what gives this whole monotonous process – any kind of meaning; is to love and be loved. That’s the greatest gift that any human being can possess. And sure, I may live for her – but I am PROUD of that. I am proud to give myself to her, to make myself hers – because to me there is no higher form of beauty and no higher calling. She’s perfect, as close as you can get to it and if I spent the rest of my life making her happy – then I would find in myself an eternity of worth. She’s not just my love: she’s my reason to love and that – that reason gives me a reason to live also. I’m not religious, nor do I think I will suddenly convert – but beauty is freedom of expression. Freedom to choose and I choose not to devote myself to a cause that I (personally but cause no offence or disrespect to others) do not wish to. But I choose instead to devote myself to her; to something more than flesh and blood, heart and mind. I devote my soul to hers – so we may live as one, united – protected. Always.

blackcat14

so after going away with this girl that persuaded me and me falling hopelessly in love with her she decides that I’m not what she wants. This is the first relationship I’ve had with a girl and my heart is broken. Wish I knew what I did but she won’t even talk to me. I wish she would just give me some closer ya know as to why she’s not into me anymore then I could move on. This is killing me!!

Sally, if it wasn’t meant to be – it wasn’t meant to be. Just be strong and remember that you didn’t do anything wrong. You will find your soulmate, and your reason to live for. She’s definitely out there and as you know you have her as long as you can be in the middle of the crappiest heated argument and still want to hold her in your arms and make all the hurt go away. Take her to a place where pain can’t touch her. That’s love, it’s not easy – but it’s worth it. Life’s a bitch, if life were easy – it would be a slut. Just stay strong and prove more to yourself that there is someone, somewhere out there who will complete you and make you forget everything you ever knew. Make your pulse race at the smallest touch and make even the rainiest day – seem so utterly beautiful. She’s probably not in the right place at the moment mentally – it isn’t easy being THIS. It isn’t easy at all. But it’s whether you decide if she’s worth it; if she makes your life mean something. And if she does – fight for her. If she doesn’t – then go out there and find your reason. Cos when you do, you won’t care about anything, anyone else in the past. Trust me. It changes you – and makes you someone you can be proud of.

Haha – you can tell that I’m a passionate fool Aye, but I’m HER fool. And that’s fine by me

I am married and just had a new neighbour that came in married, i fell in love with her and started having feelings for her immediately, i tried to restrain myself from been awkward as i did not want to lose her friendship, she loves me somuch, text me even after seeing me, she is so generous to me and pets me when i tell her i want to quit our friendship and pleads with me to stay. I tried teeling her about lesbians and her reply was that she hates lesbians. I am bisex and from her reply i think she is straight, she holds and hugs me tight and gives me somany signal, but i dont want to make a fool of myself and my marriage by kissing or letting her know i want to have sex with her, plz advice.

Normally, I’d just tell you to have it straight with her. But what do you want from this? Do you want a relationship? Or do you just desire her? If she’s straight then well, honestly there’s no hope because you can’t make someone feel something if they don’t or can’t. But I would just be really honest with her, tell her that she means the world to you etc. and really let her know that you really trust her and respect her. If she has any inclination of feeling towards you, the least she will do is reciprocate that trust. At best, she might even admit that she would want something more. But don’t get your hopes up. Just remember that we only have one life and it’s down to us – what or who we decide to live for. If she’s as great and supportive as you think she is – then your friendship won’t be endangered because she would never judge you. Hope this kinda helps

PS. Also ask, are you truly happy and fulfilled with your marriage? As the famous quote goes “if you fall in love twice, always go for the second as if you truly loved the first – you wouldn’t have fallen for the second”. This is true, so just ask yourself whether you are content with your marriage and not that you wouldn’t be attracted to your neighbour anyway – but if you truly loved your husband beyond anything else, would you still have fallen for her? I’m not being funny, you just have to think about all the variables in the situation (i.e. your husband and your already established relationship)

im in a simialr situation, my best friend is pansexual/bi curious and im bi sexual and she knows i love her, but she doesnt know how much i love her ive told her a million times and the other day i asked her if there would be any chance of us ever being together she said that if she started think of me that way she might and i asked her if kissing her would help to get her to think of me that way and she said probably, we both laughed about it but inside i was screaming and wanting to cry so tomorrow or monday i will kiss her, but to be honest i think you should tell her how you feel and no matter what the situation if you are that good of mates youll be friends in a relationship with her or not, good look and tell me how it goes over facebook.

I’m in the same spot. I have this best friend we met this year and actually have come extremely close…so close that every-time we see each other we say we love each other, or give each other a hug. I’m straight! but when rumors went passing about me and her being lez…i started to think a little about if i really liked her. At the beginning of the school year some boys where messing with her and i joked and said we were going out…in return she kissed me on the cheek and said yeah…we are! At the time i didn’t really know her so i stopped the ” dating relationship” QUICK! But as soon as i did she hit me with her famous sad look. Shes very pretty indeed, and i care about her so much that shes on my mind 24/7. she never really talks about other guys but when were on the phone texting shes always telling me that i mean the world to her.
She’s a really good friend and i cant wait to see where this relationship well go to in the future. But do i really think in a lez…not really…because i’m still crushing on my on boy love….more than her at least. i hope your problem gets fixed in the best way possible and thanks for listening to my little story and trust me…there’s lots more of me and my friend to come.

im only 10 years old i have a crush on a girl i talk to her alot i dont know what to do but i think u should tell her how u feel if she likes u back u have a BRIGHT future ahead of you if she dosn’t like you u can just go as friends but when shes not happy u can remind her that u like her with a 5 sec stare and then lightly kiss her on the mouth if she kisses you back then ya MIGHT live a happy life together o….. i should do that damn unfair i just thought of that o well good luck peace :p -Clarissa Maria Morales

I can relate to this so much. Theres this girl who is the most important person to me. I’ve fallen in love with her but I have a feeling that she doesn’t feel the same. I’ve asked a couple of people if she(the girl I’m madly in love with) would ever actually feel that way but they say that she’s straight. She and I are really close and because she is my bestfriend, she knows almost everything about me, making me more vulnerable than ever. Like alot of people, me and her have had those *moments* I don’t know if she caught on to what I’ve been feeling for her but to me it seems like the more I spend time with her, the more I fall in love. It hurts because she would always talk about the guys that she likes. I want to tell her how I feel but I just can’t risk our friendship. I really don’t label myself as a les/bi because I do like guys and I’m more attracted to them but she is the only girl I’ve ever felt like this for :/
there was this time when she came over and we sat down in my backyard and she sat next to me and I noticed she was cold so I gave her my jacket and I just took her hand and held it and asked her if she was feeling better and I let go but but she said “no..” and her grip tightened and I felt myself blushing because of her innocent beautiful eyes. She leaned her head against my shoulder and I rested my head against hers and it got dark so she had to go but all I wanted to do was kiss her but I couldn’t because I just can’t risk losing her :/
she had said “if you were a guy, I’d sooo date you” and I just don’t know what to do. I’ve tried avoiding her to stop myself from falling even more in love but it only made the feeling even stronger. She’d always hug me so tight and she’d always scream my name and tackle me with a hug saying “wiffeyy!” and we’d always say “I love you” to each other almost everyday and I really do think I love her. I’ve never felt anything like it before
Plz someone help me, what should I do?
Ps; sorry for writing too much, lol that’s not even half of it but ahh thanks for reading
and oh.. Ive never really told anyone what I feel for her well other than you but yeahh

Im in the same situation as you im in college ( first year ) and i met this girl at first we were just friends but we grew closer together and became bestfriends we kept on talking and when we are with friends they dont have a clue what were talking about then one day she told me she was in a relationship with a girl at first i was shocked and couldnt belive it but as time came i also knew more about her and one time we went swimming overnight with friends we rented this mini hotel and me and her were together on the bed it was hard to move since the bed was small so what i did was like hug her and she went holding my hand while i was hugging her . One time we had a sleepover we went to dinner and talked then the next day we went to her gf place then i think they got into a fight and i dont know the reason but i was the one who cheered her up they she and her gf talk and the problems fix . i dont know if she has the same feeling for me but i want to tell her but im afraid of losing her and she already has
a relationship and i dont know if she will choose me or her gf they have been together for like 3 years now but i think i could love her more than anyone . I need some advice im leaving the country and i dont know when im coming back so should i ask her while i have the chance ?

How can you say that you’re best friend is flirting with you. Maybe you’ve just misinterpreted it because you like her. Jumping to wrong conclusion is the most dangerous of all. For you it may have a certain meaning but for her maybe its just a friendly touch something whatsoever. I had been in love with my best friend too but time does heal and now i have completely shut her out of my life. She’s straight i know no fuss about it. I’m moving on without even telling her. its easier for me this way i guess. She doesn’t know I’m a lesbian by the way. Life sucks

lucky – jason mraz

Right I feel like shit reading what I had commented before to give everyone hope and courage and all that because she ended up breaking up with me because apparently she couldn’t handle me being so in love with her. I really feel like I’ll never recover. I know I will but I just feel crushed now after loving someone for so long and she just ended it like we were never anything special. Fucking life.

So my best friend and I have this really close relationship. I’m bi curious, I’m confused. And she said she was in the beginning of the school year but now she says shes not. We always joke around and act like we’re lesbian and stuff. She always hugs me tightly for a really long time. She calls me sexy, beautiful and pretty. She pokes me a lot. She lays her head on my shoulder when she’s upset or tired. She tried to hold my hand a couple of times before but I didn’t want to. She puts her arm around me a lot. And there was this one time when her, my other friend and I were talking about something because I brought up when my other friend kissed me on the cheek and I felt really uncomfortable but then I said that I don’t care If certain friends do it, I just wasn’t that close to my other friend who did it. But then she said “But if I tried to do that..you’d slap me..” and she sounded kinda sad. And I told her I wouldn’t. She calls me her wife. Sometimes she’ll just look at me randomly and smile. And other times she’ll just come up and hug me randomly. I told her recently that I liked her for a day a long time ago, and I was texting her and I said “What if I like you again?” and she said “idk but our friendship wouldn’t be broken..and If you ever think that I like you, I wouldn’t be a creeper about it and stalk you and stuff” so then I asked her if she liked me cuz she brought it up and she said “no! I’m just saying that if you ever thought I did. But I don’t though.” so then I got really confused and asked her “well why would you be a creeper if you don’t..?..” and she just said nevermind. So then I was left confused. But ever since that day that I told her I liked her for a day, she kinda started ignoring me a little for about 2 days. And now were back at being how we used to be. And one day in P.E, I told her that another one of my friends told me that she liked me so I told her about it. And she said “Woow really? I don’t even like you. But if I did, i don’t see whats wrong with it.” and it kinda made me think that she might like me. And thats when it all started. And I kinda like her…again…and every time I ask her somehow, she says no. But then it seems like she flirts with me. Like earlier today a sex song came on and she jumped right up and started playing around and acting like she wanted to have sex with me, and I know she was joking but it still kinda gives me ideas that maybe she might like me. And recently she just started ignoring me out of no where, and I still don’t know why. But she was ignoring me and I didn’t know what I did and I was crying literally every single night and I just thought I was gonna die because I felt like I was loosing her and she’s my best friend. But then recently she just started to kinda talk to me, like yesterday she was talking to me a little bit and today earlier in the morning at school I kinda stayed away from her because I thought she still didn’t wanna talk to me. But she constantly kept looking at me..like the type of look that you look at someone when you love them. And it’s like every time I would talk to someone I would spot her staring at me at the corner of my eye. And one time when I spotted her staring at me when I was doing something, I looked up at her and then she just started talking to me and then later on everything started to go straight back to normal again and I was happy. She was dancing with me, singing with me. And one thing that really got me thinking was that she kept constantly trying to touch me. It’s like she kept trying to get closer and closer to me and she kept touching me. And then we just ended up hugging for a really really long time. And I think we did that because we both were ignoring each other and I think we really missed each other and didn’t wanna let go. And we hugged a lot after that too. During that period of time, I stopped liking her but my feelings came back and I think I’m falling for her…do you think she likes me too?.. 

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hi frns… wel i’ve no idea that m straight o bi but i’am sure that i’am not lesbian.i’am totally fallen in love with my best frn who was my roomate two years back. i don’t know where i’ve fallen in love with her i stil can’t believ something like this would happen with me.3 years back i was lik i don’t believ these love stories and all i feel funny when people say me about their love stories. I don’t care when i lose any friend. i get pissed initially but later on i move on like nothing happend with me.i met this special girl in college hostel, i stil remember the first day when i saw her.we wher good friends initially i used to hate her because she used to irritate me alot. days moved onn there whr many special moments b/w us.like daily evening we used go out to play, she used to tickle me, tease me, irritate me alot, we used talk til 3 night whil chating she used tel me lik “why did’nt become a guy? i u would b a guy then surely i would propose u” ths line seems that she is surely straight o bi. she used to flirt with me while chating and all.problem starts here i was weak in studies as the reason i used to bunk clases. problems created. i had to lie with my friends that y i’am bunking classes so on. i said some personal health problem. once i bunked class n leactur complained princple n that created a big issue lik principle cl’d my dad and told that i ran away with some guy that was insane. later on principle called my al friends and asked about me al replied she is a good girl and she does’nt have any boyfriend so onn and lately when dad came to college my principle apologised with my dad. things settled down and i went home. i don’t y i wanted cl her(my love) i cl’d hostel and talked to her i felt so relaxed talking to her. i gues from there i was slowly falling for her. then 1 week i dnt go to college.again whn i came to colleg, after finishing clases i went to hostel there she was waiting for me. i never expected that she would wait for me half a way she saw me and came running and hugged me ” o shit” i donno what happend. i was shocked cus i never hugged a girl as a friendly too even she.i was loving her evn more. things started messing up cus of my one lie. i failed in exam. i left college, hostel, friends everything. and went back to my home.i was so shamed to face anything. once i cl’d her n talked to her. she asked me who is this? i was shocked, y she is askin me lik this? she know my voic clearly so. i said my name stil she asked who is ths? i felt bad but dnt giv up i told my name stil she said i don;t know. i was lik about to cry it hurted me very very badly. she gave a reason like i slipped and fel down in bathroom n she gota hit in her head and she forgot all. that was a freak reason. that was the last. then i did’nt cl her for few months. i ws missing her terribly i came to know that i was in love with her. each and evry day i was helples, i wanted to see her.i was trying to hate her, forget her her but it was not possible. lately whn it was final examination study holidays for her, i knew she will leav this plac and go to some other place after examination for her further studies. i wanted to let her know that i stil remember her and she was my best friend. i wrote a letter for her and buyed a gift for her. i wrapped it nicely and gave it to my another friend and asked her to give to her(my love). i thought after seeing the gift and letter she would cl me. i waited for 1 month but she did’nt again was waiting for months.i used ask about her with other friends.i continued my further studies, i cld’nt forget her but i was normal, enjoying the life so onn. one fine day i logged on to facebook. there i saw her friend request i was like out of the world. i danced crazily. i texted her lik how u and all. she replied thanks for the gift and al, she missed me so onn i was again falling for her.always i was on fb online waiting for her. once she asked my cel number, again we started chating. she was talking with me as a friendly, lately she started flirting wit me while texting me.i used get stressd when she won’nt reply my messages. but i cld’nt hate her also. onc i texted her and i told her everythng as a friend, how special she was to me. she replied “i don’t know how it feels when some1 proposes but ri8 now i feel the same” she was always friendly with me but i love her and i can’t say this to her cus i have fear of losing her. we bcame very closer than b4. she was very far from me lik in other city which was abt 500km far. she asked me to come to her place and meet her but i could’nt as i have clases. recently while chating i asked her “whom do u love? have any bf?” she told me “i’ve fallen in love with u and u know i’am always flirting with u” i was floating in air i was lik i wanted kiss her ri8 now. but i’am still not sure that she was kidding or serious because she has habit of making funn, kidding.after few days again while chating she said “i love u darling” so i replied “i too love u sweetheart” she replied “whn u’ve fallen for me?” i replied kidding “i don’t kmow whn it happend” cus i knew she was simply flirting with me. she replied me “don’t fall for me more cus i’am not any lesbian. v both need to find a guy o els later it’l b a problem for us” this reply gave me more confident lik evn she loves me.i’am still madly in love with her. she recently texted me that she is goin to meet me next month. o my god m nervoused. don’t know y? should i say that i love her o keep it as a secret? does she love me? what to do? give me some tips. i don’t want to lose her.

one last thing, she is the most beutiful, sexy, gorgeous, preety, angel, charming, loving, amazing, intresting girl i’ve ever seen in this world, in my life. . . i love u sooooooo much darling. madly in love with u. i’ll be always waiting for u. love happens once and it happend with u.i hope i could say with this to u but i can’t i simply don’t wanna lose u sweetheart.muah :*

I’m in love with this girl that I’ve known since I was 10 and I have loved her from the very start. Don’t say that I’m too young to know what love feels like because I do, and this is it. Last year we became really really close and did everything together. Now this year she is hanging out with other people. My other friend (who knows I love her) recently told me that the girl I’m in love with figured out that I liked her. I dont know how, but she did. Then there was no choice but for me to tell her that I liked her. This was about a week or so ago an I haven’t seen her since because we’re on holidays right now. I’m really nervous for when I get back to school because I’m scared that she isn’t going to talk to me again. We have already kind of lost touch since the start of this year but I still love talking to her whenever i can. I have no idea what to do. Btw I’m 13.

At the beginning, I thought these kind of situations are just mere phase of growing not until I met this woman who is extremely nice. We have known eachother for more than a year. I worked with her, hang out with her and shared problems with her. I have noticed her giving out “signals” like “how I wish you were a guy” and ” if you were a guy will you date me”. So, i would jokingly say ” I won’t date you but I will marry you”. It was a joke. So we got on with our lives still hangin out as friends, been there to eachother when one is in trouble. Then she started dating a guy who I believe loves her back. I distance from her (btw, i dont really like her bf) to give them sometime together.Until, I started dating myself and she turned sour. Everytime we meet I get sarcastic comments from her and I just didn’t give so much attention to it coz I value our friendship. I turned serious in every conversation we had. But few nights back, she told me that her bf wants to marry her and she is considering it. That hit me rocked bottom. I started to ache and couldn’t breath. I can’t stop thinking about her and even though how much I swampes myself with work, she keeps popping out my mind. I thought, am I getting crazy? Does it mean, I’m bi or a Les? What if she is just trying me to get my reactions? I don’t want to lose the friendship and first type in my “organized” life I got derailed. Help!

Definitely understand 99% of these. This girl I work with is crazy crazy gorgeous, so damn sarcastic and I guess what you’d call witty. Everyone at our work always jokes with us saying we’re together and she never denies it, and I dont either. We just laugh it up. More times than not ill bring her her favorite candy or a drink. Ive even taken her car and filled it up with gas. And about 4 days of the week I take her out to eat and always pay. Point of that was to show how much I care for her, and do things to make her happy. She just broke up with her bf around the time she started what I take as flirting . We’re literally dating without the label. My family likes her and she stays over all the time. Only problem? Shes never came out and said shes gay, or if she has feelings for me. Its obvious she does because we have stayed out by her pool all night just cuddling then I just went home. Honestly all I want to know is if I should try to put a label on it? Shes wonderful and brings a smile to my face everytime I see her

ok im in that situation to n i dont know what to do either…..were both 15 were fixing to turn 16 in about 2.5 months and im in love with this girl…..we tell eachother that we love eachother and we hug n kiss eachother on the cheek n hold hands but i dont know if she actually loves me….we also say we are together but we have never really kissed so i dont know….also she says ”im just goin to be gay cuz im tired of guys” and she knowss im gay but i dont know if we are actually together…..i really do wanna be with her and get married but im not sure…..she makes my whole day better and i make her day better but i wish i just knew already i wanna know for sure so imma ask her tonight when she comes over to spend the night but im also scared to ask her cuz i dont wanna ruin our friendship…..we have only known eachother sence this year and were closer than ever and we tell eachother everything but this so i need to tell her before i lose her and live a long and lonely life like my mom and dad but im so scared to tell her

I’m in the exact same Place, my best friend and I are both bi and we both have boyfriends, I’m not happy in mine and she’s soo in loge with her guy, recently we’ve been spending more and more time with about 5 sleepiness so far this week. Everytime we sleep together, we always end up cuddling really close and all I want to do is kiss her and make love to her! It’s so awkward in the morning after cause were all jokey about the night which has made both of us really horny…

I know how it feels to not be able to tell your close friend how you feel about them , im currently in the same situation , im in love with my friend , to me she is the most beautiful ,kindhearted person in the world ,and there is nothing more that i would like but to be with her , but i value having her in my life too much and at the risk of losing her i cant find the courage to tell her ,i guess what im trying to say is i hope the best for you and i hope that you two work out and that you two can be happy , I know how painful it can be and i hope no one has to feel that way , i wish you the best may it all work out for the best as well.

ps that whole thing about not wanting to be labeled ,i have to say i totally respect your view on that , dont let any one say or lable you as any thing , be what you want to be. =)

I guess the ‘being in love with ur bestfriend’ issue is quite common..My story didn’t have a happy ending, for 2 reasons..1)my religion 2)I guess we wer young and want different thingz nw than we wanted that time.. She was the most amazing friend I’ve ever had, we met wen we started high school,we wer 13 years old, our friendship grew over the years n we fell inlove, she knew she wz bi and I knew I wz strait, bt she wz so awesome that she made a strait girl (me) fall crazy inlove with her..it wz her n only her I wanted after that,we hugged often n made out n loved evry moment, we knew we wanted to be 2gethr forever, we promised we’d be BFFE evn before we fell inlove, we were close most of the tym, bt once she pushed me away n once I pushed her away so we wer apart sumtymz, I guess that happenz wen ure trying to figure out what u rerly want, lastyer we realised hw strong our love is n after 9years of knowing each other we made love, it made our bond stronger! Bt we cudnt b 2gether..she wantz a relationship that she can tell evryone about and I can’t give her that even tho I want to be with her so bad! We’re both almost 23 years old, shez with sum1 else now n my heart still yearns for her evryday! The pain n tears jus won’t go away! N nw evryday she getz closer to her gf, I get closer to losing my bestfriend,I thaut that wen she told me she can’t live without me she meant it, bt thingz change I guess, most of wat she sed over the years changed, she realised that she wantz sumthn more,sumthn different, she doesn’t want wat she wanted wen she was 16 or 17 or 18 years old, datz lyf but, so don’t rush into thingz, take it slow! If itz meant to be it will be! We never spent much time together out of school and I wish I cud go bak and change that, I alwyz knew that we’d have our whole life ahead of us to go out often, to the movies, to the beach, visit each other..and now its too late..so if youre still young njoy the friendship url share..have fun and make awesome memories, if that person is worth it, think about it really hard and think of the possible outcomes and be prepared and remember..our hearts are so fragile..once broken they can take a rerly long time to heal!

well earlier i said that i was gonna tell her how much i loved her…..and i did tell her…..its just now she wont talk to me or anything…..i think that i just lost the best ting that has ever happened to me…..now i stay up all night wishing i can take back what i said but i cant……i ache and cry and i feel like i cant breathe…..i think about her 24/7 and it hurts me to even think about losing her…..if i only knew if she really liked me or not i would feel a whole lot better but i think i lost her for good this time…..i need help….i dont know what to do……i feel like ending my life…..somebody please help me……

Hey Jesse..it might feel like u hav nothing left to live for but u can’t give up!
How did she react when u told her? Did she say anything at all? Did u try talking to her after that? Or did u jus stay away after she stopped talking to u?

tash,i tried to talk to her after that n she wont say anything back at all…so now i dont know what to do n i just decided to let it go already n give her some space to think about it…..i just hope that i didnt ruin our friendship n lose her forever…..i really want her to still be my friend at least if i could have her as my gf then that would be great…..but it doesnt look like its gonna be that way

@jesse..yeah thatz a gud idea, maybe she just needs time to process evrything, so give her that time and space, and if she doesn’t feel the same way about u then url can still be friends, itz not too late, u havnt lost her forever, your friendship must mean a lot to her if url were rerly close and I doubt she’ll want to end it. U knw the saying “if u love someone let them go, if they come back to u, they’re yours so hold on to them, if they don’t come back then they were never yours to begin with”. Tell her that u knw itz a lot for her to deal with and ure gona giv her time and you’ll accept wateva she decides but u rerly don’t wana lose her as a friend coz her friendship means more to u

tash thanks for the help…..and just wish me luck and hope the best comes out of it all

I am a 17-year-old girl and I thought I was straight until I fell in love with this girl. She is 24, so a good deal older than me, but she is the most amazing person I have ever met. We have known each other for a few years and I have been in love with her the whole time, although I do a good job of hiding it. We work together and we are friends outside of work. She is the most perfect, beautiful girl in the world and I love spending time with her. I want more than anything to tell her my true feelings because they are eating away at me and it is so painful to keep them inside. But I fear more than anything that I will lose her friendship if I tell her, so I haven’t. That would be the worst thing in the world. Every day is so wonderful because I have her in my life, but so painful because I am not in a romantic relationship with her and I have all these feelings that I have not shared with her. Please help me! What should I do?

Ok so this is going to sound really weird… Um ok I’m 15 and I’m pretty sure I’m straight because I’ve had a lot of crushes on guys in the past but I’ve never dated or kissed anyone. I’m just not one to put myself in a vulnerable position. Anyways, I’ve been friends with one of my best friends for a good year, and I know that doesn’t seem like a very long time but were were basically introduced by another friend of mine who was also friends with her and figured that if we were all friends we’d have more fun. Our friendship was like really intense we were both going through some family issues and we confided in each other and we continue to help each other out which is really nice. It’s weird because when ever were in a group of friends we usually gravitate to each other because we like being around one another, but the thing is we have these ‘moments’ like we’ll make eye contact and she’ll smile and I’ll just grin and then she giggles. And i dont know she is so beautiful and i’ve never felt attracted towards a girl before and I realize that It isn’t likely she feels the same way. We’ll talk about guys and I talk too because firstly I find them attractive but secondly… I just don’t want her to know that I love her in a more then friendly way. She drives me crazy because she’s suggestive but it’s usually just around me and she says all theses things that are so nice and she tell me that I’m beautiful and that I should believe it more… But i just don’t know what to do. I love her and she loves me but I don’t think it’s the same type of love…. Can girls mistake their feelings for one another that easily? Should I just make myself move on? (I’ve tried but t didn’t really work) or i don’t know… She says I can tel her anything and she won’t judge and we’ve talked about lesbian relationships before and she said that she thinks it’d be weird because she just prefers guys, an I do too but shes the exception….. I’m not an immature kid by any means and I’m not just in love with the idea of love… I’ve never told anyone this and since this is anonymous I feel safer then confiding in someone else. I’m not even sure what to do and most people I know aren’t really open minded…. So if anyone could provide advise it’d be appreciated! Thanks

Why do some straight females use the word “lesbian” when they like a female friend? The reason you are friends is because you are attracted to each other. There are different kinds of attraction. Just because you actually look at your female friend when talking to her doesn’t mean anything. You are a teen and feel closer to this particular female friend but that closeness doesn’t have anything to do with romance or sexual attraction. Teen girls sometimes use each other for affection because they are not ready to do that with males yet. At age 15, I doubt that boys pay the kind of attention to you that your female friend does. Does a boy randomly tell you that you are pretty without trying to make a move on you? Straight girls being affectionate with each other has nothing to do with “lesbian”.

Hi there! Jus thought I might bring a little change of perspective to the talk:

I am living though this situation right now, but at the receiving end: my very good friend confessed that she was gay, and that she liked me. I was surprised at first but then I realized that I liked her too, I couldn’t stop thinking about her!

Long story short we’ve been together for 2 months now, so don’t give up!
She might like you back, even if she doesn’t realize it yet.

Good luck!

My story is like all of these well maybe a tad different. When I was 10 I became friends with this girl. We grew quite close and when we moved to high school we were very very very close. Okay so last year about December I started to fancy her. I loved her hair, her eyes basically everything about her. I was very subtle with my feelings and she didn’t suspect anything. But at one of my friends party I nearly blew my cover – you see I was sitting on a chair and she was like ‘can I sit on your knee’ and I was like sure so she can over and I got like butterflies in my stomach, I really wanted to kiss her. She smelt so good as well. Anyway a few days before my friends party I was like okay I need to tell her I’ll tell her at the party. I had even planned everything – where I would tell her, what I should say, everything. But I couldn’t bring myself to do it. About 5 months later I told her that I thought I was lesbian and she was like oh ok. A few months later and first year was finished.
During the summer holidays I told her (through text) that I used to like her – I still did but I was scared of how she would react. A few weeks later I told her again through text I love you and she was like I really don’t know how to react. Then about 10 minutes later I got a text from her saying that she didn’t feel the same way – I was really depressed and told her I had to go. When school started again she didn’t even speak about it, she started to change – she became interested in boys and abs and etc.
I still love her today though but recently we’re just drifting apart. We’re still best friends but not as close as we used to be. She hardly lets me hug her and flinches when I touch her. She’s so pretty but doesn’t think so and urghhhh I just want to kiss her and hold her and I want her to love me.

My ex girlfriend’s best friend recently admitted that she is in love with her. She did it by text message. I am a man by the way. To make things more complicated, my ex’s best friend is in a relationship with my ex’s brother.
It went something like this: (I made it much shorter)

Best friend: I think I am in love with you
Ex: hahaha, very funny
Best friend: I am so confused. I love your brother, but I can’t stop thinking about you.
Ex: Is this really you, Britney ?
Best friend: please don’t tell anyone.
Ex: don’t worry
Best friend : I hope this doesn’t affect our friendship

I thought it was cute, but I feel kinda sorry for her. My ex still loves me and I am sure nothing is going to happen between the two. Not because of me though , my ex has alwas been a little homophobic. I tried to convinced her to kiss and perhaps make sex with her best friend. I told her life is short, better enjoy while you can. She was grossed out by that idea.

I wish you all good luck.

I just broke up with my girlfriend a couple of months back. I really love her and want to get her back. Its been about 4 months since we broke up. We had a fight and she said she loved me a lot before the fight and after the fight she said she did not have the same feelings for me anymore. I need really help to get her back so i contacted a spell caster on the internet called Dr.Zack Balo and i explain my problems to him and he cast a spell for me and guarantee me of three days that she will come back to me,to my surprise the third day she come back to me and now we are getting married soon.i just want to say thanks to Dr.Zack Balo for helping me to get my ex girlfriend back to me and i am totally grateful.just in case you also need help you can contact him on Email wiseindividualspell@gmail.com he can also render help to you if you need him for help.

If you’ve read my last comment thing then you’ll know what this is about but I need some advice urgently. But for the purpose of those of you haven’t read the last comment then I’ll sum it up.
I loved this girl, I told her, she was fine with it, she started to talk more about abs, boys, etc and she changed ALOT..
Okay so the girl I love, let’s call her Kate, is just getting a bit too different. We have another friend, who we’ll call Louise, and she has basically the relationship with Kate that I had – if that makes sense. Anyway, they are soooooo close just like me and Kate were. They are always together – talking, sleepovers, shopping.
I’m really jealous of the relationship that they have. I still love Kate but their relationship is killing me. All I want is to be with Kate but I know that she doesn’t want me so I thought that if I had the relationship with Kate that Kate and Louise have then that would be fine and I could live with that.
Okay so last week I completely lost it with them and I send them a text saying ‘ I just wanted to tell you that I think you are complete and utter bit*hes and I don’t know why I should go to Louise’s party if the only person I actually like there is Emily’ (Emily is another friend of mine by the way.)
They were soooooooooo annoyed with me and didn’t talk to me for ages. I broke my heart that Kate was annoyed with me and I kept on apologisong. She eventually forgave me.
As I mentioned in the text, Louise’s party is coming up. It’s actually on Saturday. I feel to awkward going especially as I recently told Louise that I loved Kate. I need an excuse to get out of going to her party which is a sleepover by the way, which makes it even more awkward.
Kate and I are a little bit close – we text each other all the time but when we are actually face to face it gets awkward and we don’t know what to say to each other.
Sorry for the long comment but I really need some help – what can I say to Louise to get out of going to her sleepover on Saturday???? And if you have any advice on Kate’s and Louise’s relationship please tell me xxxxx

ive been in love with my best friend for 3 years now, we go to school together and she used to live near me then moved away for a year and shes just moved back and it has made happy to have her back, she knows i like her and she has a gf which she never told me about until just last week, i lied and told her i have a gf, she asked me to describe my gf to her and i told her everything that i liked about her and she hasnt replied yet, is that bad? im really confused because i love her and i know she doesnt love me but she flirts a little bit and i like it, how do i know if someday she’ll love me too, im pretty sure im bi but penis revolts me, most guys dont, im 14 and the girl i like is 17 she doesnt mind my age, i want her soooooo bad, what do i do??? i really need help

hey guys! I have a similar story
So my best friend is bi. We have been best friends for over a year. We tell each other everything. She likes another girl from a different school. I am just realizing that I love her. The girl that she likes is really damaged and maniupates her. She is a horrible friend to her, yet she still loves this girl. It pains me so much to see this because I love her and I don’t like to see her get hurt and be treated this way. She told me she was bi a while ago, but I am just realizing that I am bi also. I told her that I am bi and she laughed and said that she knew all along. We contstantly text and call each other on the phone. We always know where the other person is. We do everything together. We have a joke that we are “wives” because we act like we are married. I want her to be my girlfriend, but I am scared to tell her. She is very open about sexuality and hooking up with people. We always cuddle and make sexual comments and stuff to each other. I am scared to tell her that I love her because I know she likes someone else. I know she would accept me and be fine with it but I am scared because this is the first time I have liked a girl and it is just all very new to me.

Firstly, i want to thank Dr khakani for what he has done for me, am so happy today and i have stopped thinking and all my depression and predicament is over. After my husband steve left me for another woman, he said i was not good enough and that he hates me. I cried because i really love steve with all my heart. Then i decided to come online to look for a spell caster to help me bring back steve, all they kept doing was to collect my money and nothing was being done. Until God directed dr khakani to me. At first when i met dr khakani i was thinking he also want to collect my money for nothing, but he told me to give him a chance that what will he gain if he add pain to my pain. That all he want is my happiness. So i decided to give him a chance, and he told me that steve will be back in my arms within 48hours, and i said okay. Truly when dr khakani casted this spell, my husband steve called me that he wanted to tell me something…i was shocked. He told me that i should forgive him, that he loves me with all his heart and he promise me never to leave me again and to love me forever. Dr khakani also told me that when steve comes back to me, he’s going to buy me a gift. Steve bought me a brand new car, and i also have access to his account to prove to me that he will never leave me. That was how dr khakani stopped me from crying and i got over my deppression and predicament. You can contact dr khakani for any kind of help and he will never disappiont you. His private email: khakanibestsolutioncentre12@gmail.com or cell phone number +2348062216903

don’t worry ! same here…she asked me out I said yes but we have been kinda distanced lately and fighting.. I’m worried… she said she still loves me but I love her very much more. very…

Hi, I’m 17 and i’m bisexual and i fell in love with my best friend of 6 years and few months before i revealed my feelings to my friend and she didn’t mind that i loved her from the start and we’re still best friends . in your situation, i would recommend that you start flirting with her for a little bit to see her reaction, That all i can say right now lol.

I am 45 married and have 3 children. I recently realized that I have fallen in love with my best friend. I have never been attracted to women before so this is all new to me. I am madly in love with her and she does not know it. I don’t want to tell her because I fear of loosing our friendship. We have known each other for about 3 years now and have developed a deep love for each other. I can’t imagine not bring able to be with her. She is incredible person! Smart, athletic, so kind to everyone, fun to be with… I can go on and on… She tells me she loves me all the time and just recently has been flirty which she had never done before neither have I until recently as well. Not sure what to do. We are planning a bike road trip together this summer. Any ideas. Thanks

I fell in love with my best friend. We both had boyfriends at the time. I was sick of my telling her y feelings so I did and it was the best choice I ever made. A year later we are now dating and happier than ever. If you have strong love for someone and know they are your soulmate dot hesitate

I fell in love with my best friend. We both had boyfriends at the time. I was sick of hiding my feelings so I did tell her and it was the best choice I ever made. A year later we are now dating and happier than ever. If you have strong love for someone and know they are your soulmate dont hesitate

I’ve been in love (or at least deeply infatuated) with one of my good friends for at least a year now, she’s the only girl i’ve fallen for but seriously, i’ve fallen for her. Like many others who have commented on this thread, she’s absolutely gorgeous, we hug incessantly, kiss (not on the lips), say ‘i love you’, fight like an old married couple, share ‘moments’, and often catch ourselves staring at one another in groups (which often ends in me glancing away in embarrassment as not to give myself away). The thing is though, I could never see ourselves in an actual relationship and I know it wouldn’t work because we are just different people in that sense, but I still want to remain good friends with her – the problem is, lately, I’ve found it difficult to be with her, talk to her and be myself around her because all I really want to do is stare at her (creepy? haha), be close to her, and essentially, kiss her. Help! How do I get over her but still be friends!?

ps I haven’t told her or anyone else my feelings and honestly don’t intend to :s

i love this girl and she loves me. we hug and snuggle at sleepovers and last weekend we kissed we want to kiss again and i love her so much. but how much farther do you think this should go we are both 14. i have known her for 2 years now and i just want to know how much farther we should take this

Okay, so this was posted 2 yrs ago so idk if youre still going through this but I just wanted to tell you my story. So i went through almost exactly the same thing as you. It was about three yrs ago and I was 16 years old, 10th grade. I know that sounds kind of young but I started liking my best friend in a way that I shouldn’t have (if you know what i mean). She was straight and so was I (at least i thought so). We were friends for about 2 years, since 8th grade and spent a decent amount of time together. I always looked at her as just a friend until the second half of my sophomore year. I dont know why I started to feel this way. Her personality just blew me over, why it took 2 yrs i couldnt tell u. Shes just that person thats so sweet to everybody and so charismatic. In our group of friends she was the one that you could really tell your feelings to and she didnt judge, she just always listened. I wanted to become closer than we were and started talking to her more. As we started talking more and more she told me her feelings and problems, about her abusive home life. Shes was always the one that people told their problems to but she never really told any of hers to anybody so i think it felt good that she let it out to me. Anyways we got closer and closer each day and eventually started texting all day everyday and even calling eachother every night. I will never forget that one summer night when we were texting and I told her i was attracted to her and she said that she felt the same way. We grew so close to eachother and eventually had our first kiss and started dating that fall. It was the most amazing feeling ever. We just got closer and closer and are still together. We both go to separate colleges now which is really hard. But we see eachother alot because we’re not that far away. I love her so much and shes my everything ( as cheesy as that sounds) I not only look at her as a girlfriend but also a best friend, i can tell her everything. So i just wanted to let everybody reading this and may be going through the same situation that sometimes it does work out. Im not saying all the time (as you can see in the previous comments) but sometime miracles do happen. We both saw eachtother as straight and now we’ve been together for 2 1/2 yrs. I honestly dont know where i’d be without her, she was there for me all throughout highschool and really made me the person i am today. Now im not saying throw yourself at this person you like and hope for the best. Because if i did that to my girlfriend a couple yrs ago i think she’d be creeped out lol, but just ease in. Talk and then slowly talk more and more each day. I know its impossible because you just want them now, but you have to be patient. I know its easier than it sounds but thats how it is. In the long run it’ll be well worth it if it works out, just trust me, you have to be patient. I hoped this helped anybody that is going through the same experience!

Hey guys, I’ve been caught up with reading all of these post – probably a little longer than I should because there’s so much I need to be doing right now, but I am compelled to add to this.

I am relating with so much of this. I am in my early thirties and have often found myself getting really close to my girlfriends over the years, but have never been able to figure out why. As I’ve gotten older, I have began to wonder about my sexuality, so far I have reached the conclusion that I am bi – I think…. I had a somewhat intimate experience with a very close friend, who I always believed was like a sister to me and she often said she felt the same.

We were having some wines and our usual girlly chats, I’d been straightening her hair – and let me tell you this itself was giving me an electric current-like feeling, but I’d pushed it all down. But then she asked me for a massage and I aggreed to do it. I strated with her back and shoulders. She, the whole time kept saying how blessed she felt and how amazing my hands felt and then she asked if I would do her chest. I felt a little awkward about this but at the same time was ok about it and even wanted to. But then as I was doing so, she put her hand on me and well… it progressed a little further than that, but I won’t elaborate accept to say that it ended with an amazing kiss that went on for ages, but when it ended felt like it was too soon.

For a long time after this night I was processing the whole thing, the situation played out in my head and I began to wonder if I was developing feelings for her. I was beginning to accept that possibility, despite the fact that she was married and I knew it would never work and she’d never feel the same, so I was happy to just stay friends with her rather than lose her because I wanted more.

Here’s the twist though. She went weird towards me after that night and it drove me crazy. We never spoke of what happened between us ever, and it felt like she was putting alot of distance between us – always “busy”, so I was patient, cos I knew she needed to work harder on her studies and was under alot of pressure.

It all came to a screaming halt when I causght her out on a lie and confronted her about it, but she brushed it off. So I texted her and told her why it upset me – but still didn’t tell her how deep my feelings were. Her response was that ours was a “professional” relationship only not a personal one. It shattered me and has taken me months to get over it, cos we don’t speak anymore and she has since taken time out from her studies.

I now have began spending time with another woman who I’ve known forever but have only recently began to feel close to. She has admitted to me that she is bi and has been in relationship with another woman before, she is now engaged to a guy and has been for a few years, but is always telling me how small he makes her feel and at times useless.

We have been going out to places together that we enjoy and we are at a point where we can talk to eachother about anything. I haven’t told her the extent of what has happened with my other friend, only that we’ve fallen out and that I’m incredibly hurt by the whole thing.

We hug alot, we are BOTH very affectionate in our nature, I often end up touching her hand when we talk, her knee or thigh and she has never pushed me away, I have always been the one realising what I am doing and I pull back. The last few times we’ve hugged she has even put her head on my shoulder and said she could fall asleep there. Yesterday I told her she could as long as she liked. Our hugs are getting longer, it’s like I never want to let her go, but we do let go, simultanaeously…. I know this time I have developed some feelings for her and I KNOW we have a connection – a love of somesort, but I’m not sure what way.

I have decided not to say anything to her about these feelings though, because right now especially, her friendship is so important to me and I don’t know how I got through my life before knowing her. If something happens though I know I am ope to the possibility.

I apologise that this is so long and detailed, but I hope that everyone here feels some sort of confort knowing they are not alone.

For the girl who posted the “novel” earlier. Hun, I know what it’s like when you want to get everyting out in the open and lift the weight off you a bit. It was incredibly brave that you beared your whole soul in here. To everyone who responded with “nobody cares about your story” have some heart. Obviously we are all here in this forum because we’ve been going through the same thing and age has not been a barrier to understanding each other’s experiences.

Anyway that is all from me. If anyone has any thoughts on the stuff I’ve written about please comment below. I would love to hear another perspective on what happened with the first girl and what I’m experiencing now.

@entertaining the thought
As was said earlier girls are extremely affectionate with each other for no sexual reason at all. She says her fiancée makes her feel small, so you probably make her feel good right try looking for clear signs that she’s interested in you. Hugging for long periods of time could just be pertaining to the type of friendship you girls have. But she’s engaged so the time is ticking… Get closer, flirt it up! You might be scared to tell her your feelings but if you say it in a way that doesn’t make her feel forced to make a decision about your current “relationship” you shouldn’t lose her. You’re both grown women after all.
Btw I can completely relate to that first experience. Only mine went a little farther and brought on depression I’m still not over. However, every heartbreak teaches you a whole lot, so I thank my ex for bringing out all those qualities in me I didn’t know I possessed.
You only live once right? So better give it all you’ve got
~ TheTruth

She did the shoulder thing again *sigh…. And earlier at karaoke when I sang F***ing Perfect (P!NK) she knew I was singing it to her and she said I made her blush… I don’t think I really want to say anything about how I really feel – I want to just let things flow for awhile. she’s going away for 3 weeks and I know I’m gonna miss her like crazy, but maybe the distance (literally) will make calm down and put things into perspective – or it’ll grow stronger. We are always joking around –
I would say What are we gonna do with you?! and she’d say “Just love me” and I would say,”Well, that’s not difficult to do.
The other day when we were talking she said she wasn’t used to being considered and I said to her to “Get used to it because I always would.” I made her blush and almost cry. I seem to be doing that alot lately….

Missing her heaps. I won’t see her for three weeks because she’ away on Prac – she’s one of our future teachers.

I know its really REALLY hard to be in that situation because i’ve been on that situation lately. She’s one of my friends for the past 5 years during our college years and until today, she’s always been my friend. When we were in our 4th year first semester, we used to hang out like almost everyday after class. She also calls me when she can’t find me and we both love watching movies in my laptop. Because of that, I think I started to like her again cause the first time that I liked her was when we were freshmen, but my feelings for her suddenly stopped and then we became good friends. But then again, as what I said that we used to hang out and became more close to each other when we were in our 4th year. I know there are times that I feel awkward when I am with her. and I also felt that she feels awkward too. one day, she saw a picture of me being with my 2 other friends. she added up a comment on it and said that: “Handsome”. then she added another comment saying: “I wished that you are a guy”. then it suddenly came to my mind that: “does she likes me back??” cause saying that means probably she was already fallen for me also that if i were a guy, she’ll love me. but reality hurts. i’m not a guy. and it sucks! then I decided to find other girls to flirt with coz i know she’ll never love me.
Then lately, I suddenly can’t stop thinking about her. (we’ve just recently graduated) hmm… I don’t really know why, may be because she always encourage me to study hard (before the graduation) and we always study together. After that, i realized that I’m falling for her again. cause I feel urges to be with her always. even at times, she just say to me that I’m handsome, but she said it like a joke. (jokes are half meant!:)) and now that we were reviewing for the board exam, we did study together again. Just a while ago, we studied at the library, just the two of us. we asked each others questions about the topics and laughs at each other if the other said a wrong answer. then, some of our classmates were going home then I noticed she suddenly stopped reviewing me as if like behaving, pretending to being studying well when some of our guy classmates passed by. and I also caught her looking at one of our classmate which is a guy. and then she decided to go home also even though she said to me that we’re going to study until evening. Then I suddenly felt jealous coz based on her actions, she just wanted to go home riding on a vehicle with our guy classmate coz they’re on the same route. In short, I felt like she had a crush on him! good thing it didn’t happen. haha! (evil laugh). then she just told me that she wanted to eat at mcdonalds. while we were eating, I suddenly asked her a question that we don’t usually talk about. I warned her that it may sound cheesy then she suddenly said:” Don’t tell me you’re a lesbian?!” She said it like a joke and we both laughed and I said yuck but I didn’t mean to say it, it just came out of my mouth. I realized that i got a hint that she feels like i’m gay. I’m supposed to ask her this question: “What will you choose, the person who loves you or the person that you love?” but i refused to ask her with this question cause she’s thinking that I have a lovelife right now and then she’ll ask me who was it, and i can’t tell it to her coz she’s the one that i’m crazy about.
Now, i just don’t know what to do. I think she’s already in love with that guy while i’m here, still in pain..not knowing that i’ve been in love with her for years… should I open up to her that I am a confused lesbian? coz if i do that, she’ll think being with me is awkward and we may not stay as close as we were.
ha! I feel a relief now coz I finally let out of what I feel today through this blog question. I’m still hoping that someday, someone will also love me back. BTW, i’m still in the “closet thing stage” and I dont know when will I come out. Im just too afraid that I will lose my friends.