Help?!
Ok so I am an 18 year old college student that plays college basketball. I just realized recently that I am bi-curious. I am saying I am bi-curious because I haven’t done anything with a girl yet so don’t know if I am but I know that I am attracted to girls. Until I realized how attractive my teammate is. We play the same position in basketball so we are always going against eachother. We recently went to a party together and both got drunk. While we were at that party, we ended up getting kinda close. We didn’t end up doing anything but we held eachother, held hands a bit, and she kissed me on my neck. I wanted to kiss her back soooo bad but I didnt because I didnt want things to get weird since we were teammates and because I thought it was just because we were drunk. Now we are even closer then we were before party and we always seem to be touching. Whenever we touch though, to me it feels this way anyways, I feel a shock go all the way through that part of my body and cant help but think about it. She’s always there for me even when I go through hell. She stands by my side, waits for me to calm down, then waits for me to talk about it. We always have fun when were together! I can’t stop thinking about her though and I dont know if I should tell her and, if she rejects me, have it be weird for us on and off the court. She also lives across the hall from me. I am also kinda shy about telling ppl my feelings and its very hard for me to do! Should I tell her or should I just ignore it?
Ignore it? Sounds like you’re falling in love, possibly for the first time! Why would you want to ignore it? ENJOY IT!
My freshman year of college I was 18, and on the rugby team. I nearly had the same experience; I had never been with a girl, and the first one I fell for was also with a teammate. That aspect makes it tricky, but even though the relationship is over now, we dated for 7 wonderful months and are now friends. Go for it rather than regret not making a move…
Listen, friends kiss on the neck ALL THE TIME! lol Not. Umm that girl is so into you. She probably has the same fears/insecurities. It boils down to who’s brave enough to make the first move. You will both have to agree not to let it affect your performance on the court because it’s not fair to your teammates. Here’s one that worked great for me when I wanted to kiss a girl I liked. Tell her to close her eyes because you want to show her something. Then just do it! But don’t scare her. It’s cheesy, but it works lol Good luck!