I think it all comes down to what is best for the both of you. If you do feel like you are making her more upset than she already is, then maybe it’s not the right time to be in a relationship. Also, you might want to consider how your relationship will progress in the future. For example, if both of you have mental problems, will either of you be able to give yourselves completely to helping eachother. It can be very hard to support someone else in this kind of situation when you have your own problems to deal with. If you decide to ignore your personal issues and focus on hers, you might be doing more damage to the relationship. For example, if you stow those feelings awaboom fear of making her more depressed, you will constantly be questioning what you should do. Basically, it might become an internal struggle deciding whether you should express your mental issues to her, despite making her feel more upset, OR resisting the feelings/ thoughts/ actions even if you feel like you are about to explode from the stress of staying quiet. I am/ was a cutter as well. Although I haven’t for a while, I still get the urges to sometimes. I wanted to respond to your post because I feel like I have been in a similar ( though far from the same) situation. Three years ago I fell in love with a girl who lived in a halfway house. She had some mental issues and I did as well. Well, still do really. Anyways, it was extremely difficult to help her and support her when I didn’t know how to help myself. Sometimes our problems caused huge arguments and even physical fights. 6 months after the start of the relationship I felt like I had broken into a thousand fragments; I was miserable and began cutting more because I didn’t know how to fix us. It’s not the same as your problem, but being in an up and down relationship isn’t healthy. However, she eventually made the choice of going back to treatment and helping herself. I eventually picked up my pieces ( with her help) and supported her too. I stopped cutting because I wouldn’t want her to cut either, or even worse, relapse. We celebrated our 3 year anniversary last month, and I can honestly say that it’s the happiest that I have ever been. I think that you two could make it work if you both really wanted it. However, it might not be easy or worth it. I’m not sure if that helped at all, but I guess I just wanted to say that it’s not impossible either. Who knows, maybe she feels the same way as you do. Maybe she feels guilty or confused. Oh! You may also want to be cautious. People can change, and depending on her emotional stability, or even yours, you could end up in an undesirable relationship. One example would be if one of you said,” if I lose you then I will kill myself.” this situation is terrible, especially if down the road you don’t feel the same way about her. A lot of stress and forced responsibility comes with it. If you foresee something like this occurring the. Im not sure If you should continue. God I’ve written a novel. All in all, it’s up to you and you will do what you feel is right. If in doubt, you could try talking to her about this ( depending on the situation). People can spout advice left and right incessantly, but it’s your decision. I hope that I provided you with some things to consider or helped in some way. Relationships are tough. One last thing… Cutting can be hard to quit or even cut back ( no pun intended), but it helps if you have someone close to to talk to. It doesn’t have to be your girlfriend, though. I always found this to be the hardest part because I didn’t want to seem like I was doing it for attention. At the same time, however, I was becoming more depressed by holding the thoughts in. Or! You could try picking up a hobby. As cliche as that sounds, working out feels amazing. Well when you finish at least, in my opinion. If you don’t already work out. Anyways, I really do wish the best for you and I hope that whatever choice you make you feel good about. Good luck to both of you.