In need of some advice
I am slowly realizing that I am a lesbian. I’ve always found girls more interesting then guys. My best friend knows how much I “love her” (which she has no problem with. But always refused to take the time of day to give me a chance because she always worried what everyone would think) but back to what I was saying, I can’t explain how much girls turn me on more then guys.
I am actually accepting the fact that I am a lesbian. I have been lying to myself (saying that I’m not for the past 8 years, and I am 22.) I was always afraid of what people would say, especially my family.
Anyways, my problem is that I am married to a straight guy, and have 3 wonderful children. (Now my friend is completely jealous and wants to give me a shot now…. ) I am afraid to tell him that I am a lesbian, I just don’t know what to do.
I do love him with all my heart, like a big brother – and that is my problem. I don’t want to have sex with him anymore, if anything I always hold having sex off. It’s pretty much non-existent now. (Lol) And when we do have sex, I am always thinking about girls.
He doesn’t know, and I am afraid to tell him.
Please can someone give me advice on what to do? I am on the edge about this..
I feel your pain! I’m in the same situation as you, but I’m not married. I’ve been in denial about my sexuality since I was 17, I’m 25 now. I know exactly how hard it’s been for you. It’s really damaging to pretend to be someone you’re not. I’m going to give you the same advice I’m trying to take…We only have one life and it’s very short, so it’s time for you and I to accept the fact we are gay/lesbian. The best thing I’ve ever done that directly contributes to my success of self acceptance was reaching out to other women, mostly like me. I anonymously reached out to this girl who was struggling with her sexuality, as well. To make a long story short, we helped each other by exchanging emails and guess what? It worked! Something finally clicked for me, she started embracing her sexuality by first, coming out. I’ve been out and kind of in the closet, but I’m sick of hiding. You’re not gonna be happy if you remain married, it’s tough, but you have to tell your husband how you feel. Now, about your friend…just give it time, you’re gonna need a friend to lean on through this…I hope this helps
oof sounds like you are in one heck of a situation >.< I'm going to say straight off the bat that you need to tell him. You especially need to tell him before you do anything with your friend. Like Arica said its going to be tough but you will regret it if you dont do it =/ I really hope things work out for you =) Good luck! =D