Life is too short so I’d say go for it after she graduates. Time passes by so fast which should make us appreciate it more and not waste any minute of it thinking what if. And surely this is what will happen if you do not make a move. Your situation is more complicated than others being that you are a professor and she is your student but I do not see any problem of you having a romantic relationship when she graduates. I know how hard it is to find that special someone, so if you feel that you have fight for it. Good luck to you my friend.

Unless you teach at a tiny private school chances are most of your colleagues won’t even know she was one of the hundreds of students you’ve taught over the course of your career. Everyone who goes to college has to be a student of someone. Ten years is not a large age difference for grown adults, especially if the maturity levels are similar. I think you should go for it. If you’re still that concerned with job security, try for a doctorate if you don’t already have one lol

Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it. It doesn’t hurt to see how it goes… And it isn’t anyone’s business who you’re dating. I mean, unless she’s going to be stopping by while you’re working and making it all obvious.

becareful i dated my college teacher and for a grace period after i graduated if we got caught she could lose her license and go to jail so becareful and i wish you the best of luck

this story kinda relates to me my ex and i had a ten year difference her being older as well

Please go for it and tell her immediately. Life is very short. Don’t let her get away. Tell her now. Date her once she graduates.

Ignore the going to jail comment, it could NEVER happen! You guys are both consenting adults, at the right mind and at the right age to make sound decisions on what is best. I personally think you are amazing for waiting til she graduates, and holding on to your morals and not dating her while she’s still a student. Let us know how it goes!

I am not going to say it works out for everybody but I can definitely say I have been in this situation and the result is life changing for me. My girlfriend is my former college professor but we did not dated right after I graduated, we met a gathering 4 years later where we just hit if off. I was 27 she was 40. I asked her out and we went out to dinner and hey 7 years later we’re still together. Just be very careful, sometimes heart over mind can have a very painful consequence.

WAIITT!!! HOLD ON!

Dear Professor,

Since you are a college professor and I am a 20 years old college student, I want to make a confession to you.

I am currently attending a Univeristy of in california, UCX, and I have to admit to you that I have also developed a crush on my recent professor who is also within your age range.

However, despite my love for her, as a student, I do not wish there to be anything between us. This is not because I don’t love her any less than your senior student is loving you. But it is the heavy pentalties that will be placed on the professor if she GOES after her student. It doesn’t matter if your senior graduate next year.

By the book of law, you two are able to be together legally, once she graduate. But both you and I know that, we do not live in a simple world. Your love for her may be great, but the penalties you will have to pay is even greater.

You might not get fired, but you will be looked down by your peers. You’ll be discriminated and bad mouth by many people on campus if they did find out. It will ruin your reputation as a professor. All the years of heard work and research that you have put through is going to be tarnish by this one relationship. It probably took you more than 10 years of hard work to be where you are right now, professor. Don’t let this relationship ruin it for you. You have so much ahead of you. Trust me on this. Your only 33. You can’t say she is the love of your life because you have not live that long yet to determined.

I don’t know much, professor. I’m only 20. But I know this isn’t right. I know you love her very much, and she is probably one of the greatest thing that ever happen to you. But you will have to let this go…

I know it hurts, and it probably hurts like hell. But professor, you have to do it not only for her, but for yourself. She is too young too for you despite her maturity. She may love you now, but 10 years from now, will she still feel the same for you? Or would she yearns for someone her own age?

And for you, despite that you have feelings for her, it is after all a simple feeling. Right now, it is intense and burning with desires and passion. But like all feelings and love, it will fade with time, and new love and feelings will developed.

I know my logic and reason suck. And I know there are a lot of other people here who would advice you to pursue the relationship. But as a college student who is in this situation, I would advice you not too. If you two were meant for each other, then give it time. Allow there to be a few years of separation between you two.

Give her time to date and explore her options. And give yourself time to explore options too. It is never too late to hook back up with her after a few years when you two both are able to clear your heads a little.

And by then, things won’t be so bad then if you two did date. The stigma of a student dating a professor will fade away she graduates from like.. 5 years+. Because by then, nobody would know that she was your student. They just know that she happen to graduate at a school where you teach.

The hearts does not think. It just know what it wants and when it wants it. That’s why we are given a brain, to guide the heart into making a correct decision in the “heat of passion”.

Sincerely,
A student.

Ps: It must be very hard on a professor. You hear student falling in love with a professor all the time. But, you never really get to see how tough it is to be a professor in love.. but not get to reciprocate her feelings. And what’s worse, your a female and she is a female. That just make the whole story even more difficult. And I can relate to your senior 100%. I too fell in love with a beautiful, smart, and funny british accented female professor at my school. She really puts “chemistry” in “biochemistry” Hahaha x)

Be strong. And I’m sure you are beautiful for a girl to fall that hard for you

If she’s going to graduate this spring, then there should be no problem. Don’t let the happiness pass you by. Both of u are adults, anyway. Sometimes a little sacrifice, is fine. Don’t let your fear of rumors or anything like that, prevent you from being happy. I hv different opinion from kristin*, i think age does not matter. Love is not predictable and u can’t control with whom u fell in love. I have gf who is almost 20 years older than i am, but I love her with all my heart.

Kristine, notice how the OP and the person she’s talking about have mutual feelings, you on the other hand, “crush”. OP if after she graduates, you still have the same feelings for her, I’d say go for it. You can’t always ignore the hearts desire and I agree with iluvfitgirls that you guys are consenting adults. It’s not going to be easy, but what relationship is? Also, Maturity matters more than age. Trust me, I am 34 and I have dated women my age who are oblivious of things happening around them and who act like teenagers. Love, love and then love som more.

The age difference warrants a bit of caution… you know, make sure not to take advantage of her inexperience (except in nice ways). But she’s 23, she’s an adult, and you soon won’t have any authority-like position over her, so there’s really no

As for getting frowned on… I don’t know a surefire antidote, but really, is it getting involved with a *former* student really tabboo? I know it happens a lot, though all the cases I know of involves straight people, so unless there’s a big bad double standard…