I’d say relax- you’re very young, there’s years before marriage can even begin to be expected of you. I don’t know your family well, so I’m not sure whether to suggest trying to ease yourself into it by bringing up homosexual issues and such off and on (such as gay marriage becoming legal in more states and how they feel about it) but you don’t even have to worry about whether or not your family will be accepting of this until much later on–at least until you’re seriously dating someone and it becomes important to you for your family to know, let alone when you’re the age to be married.

If your family is supportive of gay marriage, Ohio is only a few states away from states where it’s legal. So nothing would really be there to stop your dad from walking you down the aisle.

As it is….breathe. You have several years yet to figure it all out

However if you are positively sure, which is completely possible as a seventh grader and not telling them really bothers you: First, try to gage what their reaction will by subtly finding out their opinion on gay marriage (if there is a even a slight chance they will kind you out or ship you off to some reform school that is a no go!) and then try to figure out if they will take your seriously. As a young person who is sure of themselves not being taken seriously can be hurtful and alienating reaction and if this is what you’re worried about, maybe wait until 8th grade and in the mean time don’t fake any interest in boys that could play against you when you come out.
As for you general anxiety, writing out a speech and practicing it can be really relaxing and school counselors (ask their privacy rules first) can make a great practice audience and confidant. If you feel completely ready to sit them down, say it and deal with the outcome and it really is just the in-the-moment cold feet holding you back, writing down a list of what you’re scared of and realizing that it’s not that bad (if it is that bad, wait or don’t do it!!) and remember that it’s very normal to be nervous! Good luck! Let us know how it goes!

Wait for the right time, dont rush into telling them if you are not ready. Gay marriage may still be illegal in your state but more and more people are supporting it. Todays generation is an openminded generation so things will change and he may be walking you down the aisle after all.
Hope things work out.
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I pretty much agree with everything that’s been said above. You’re still very very young, and there’s really no rush. I also knew from a very young age that I was different and that I liked girls not guys, but I was too busy being a kid to worry or think too much about it. I guess it depends how much it bothers you that they don’t know. If it’s really stressing you out then perhaps use an indirect approach… instead of saying it out loud, just show no interest in guys and give little hints which over time might lead to them figuring it out on their own. Like whenever I’m with my mom and she says a cute guy is looking at me I show no interest and pretend I didn’t even notice.. and when she mentions my “future boyfriend/husband” I roll my eyes and sigh haha.. and then I always try change the topic. Little things like that! Bringing up gay marriage in discussion could work.. Bringing up Ellen DeGeneres is a good one I think – say you love her and her show and you think that she’s inspiring and see what they say and how they react.. Otherwise, like someone else has said, I really wouldn’t worry about this right now, at least not until you’re seriously dating someone. Feeling anxious about coming out is completely natural.. For now though, try not to worry about this. Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out for you!

@lostgirl hey long-time-no-see-your-comments. Glad to see you’re back in action. It’s ash by the way, I changed my username to bret. I’m not sure you remember me but we were exchanging thoughts in a thread of comments on a post about guys falling in love with lesbians a couple of months back. I hope you’re the same lostgirl. I do appreciate your comments and welcome back, I myself wasn’t very active on this site for a while.

Anyway, Ronnie, I agree with everyone and when I was your age I decided that it can wait. Don’t worry yourself too much about this right now, i didn’t because I thought to myself, I’d much rather be enjoying being young than worry myself over things that I can defer. Sounds like procrastination but when you think about it, is there really a deadline to coming out?

@bret hey ash, I’m not really one to forget that easily =)
Yeah it’s the same lostgirl. Although I have noticed another user on here calling herself lost girl. I think there might be more than one ash too – I was also exchanging thoughts with an ash on a post called ‘femmes anywhere?’, and have seen an ash here and there haha. Good to see you back in action as well. I observe more, but yeah haven’t commented in a while! Been keeping an eye on this forum though ever since discovering it a few months back.

@lostgirl good thing I changed to bret. Ash is a common name. I’m thinking about the guys-falling-in-love with lesbian women topic again as I find myself in danger of being in that situation again. I do worry that it’s my fault for being friendly and projecting myself ambiguously. Any thoughts? I’m logged in so you can probably leave a comment on my page (not sure how this works). I’d appreciate it.

My apologies to Ronnie for posting my own stuff on your post. It’s rather intrusive, so again, I apologize.

@ Bret, and here I was thinking it was the same ash the whole time haha. Just realised there’s probably a number of ashes on here. I’m also logged in but no clue how to message privately. I think you might have to add someone as a friend to do that not sure. I’ll ask someone at admin. Yeah sure we can exchange thoughts again, I’d be glad to help/offer my opinion.

@lostgirl I searched the post you were talking about as I do remember reading about it, I read over the thread and yeah, that ash was me. So you were right all along, I seem to have forgotten as I am a forgetful person. I can figure out how the account works either.

@Bret Seems I was right – you have to add someone as a friend before you can message them.

Hi… it’s Kelly the Admin… yes you do have to request to be friends on Mingle in order to email one another directly. It’s all new for me too so feel free to friend me and provide any input, bugs, or whatever you feel like sharing!!!