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So I’m a Junior in high school and within the past few months, I’ve started to have feelings for this Sophomore girl who’s bi. One day we were talking and I got her to tell me who she liked….and it was me. I was SOOO happy I literally couldn’t stop smiling. Within seconds of her telling me that she liked me…I immediately told her that I liked her. After I told her, she lit up like a Christmas tree and started to smile and blush…a lot. She told me, “This just doesn’t happen. When you tell someone you like them, they normally don’t like you back.” I told her, “Ya. I know, but not this time. ” We started to talk about where we wanted to go from there and I asked her out. On the date, I went to her house and we hung out for an hour or so, and I learned her favorite song on guitar. We then went to see Les Mis and as I’m driving us there we got into a really deep conversation about us. She told me that she was confused about her sexuality and that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone…not even a guy. I told her that I went through the same thing when I was a Freshman and that I totally get it. I also told her that I wasn’t going to push her into a relationship if she didn’t want one, but I also told her that I REALLY wanted to be with her. She told me that she really wanted to be with me too. We got to the theater, watched the movie, and when we starting driving back…that’s when it started to get REALLY DEEP. I don’t remember everything that we talked about, but the one thing she said that stuck was, “I just want everything to go back to normal.” Instantly, I was heart broken and I didn’t say anything. I pulled into her driveway and she asked if she could have a hug. We got out of my car and hugged for a good 5 minutes. Within that time she told me, “I really don’t want to hurt you this way.” I didn’t say anything, I just kissed her on the head. And then she kissed me on the cheek. We stopped hugging and as I was about to walk back to my car, she wouldn’t let go of my hand. She took my hand and held it and I walked her to her front door. She told me, “I had an amazing time,” and went inside. I get home to find that she texted me 10 minutes after I left. The jist of the text was that she felt bad for kissing me when she clearly wanted to just be friends. But what’s really the main reason why she won’t date me? Her religion. She thinks that if she’s in a relationship with another girl, it’s going to ruin her relationship with Christ. Now, I’m not one to follow religion. We’re both of the same religion (Christianity), she just follows it to a really deep extent. She thinks that God wants her to live the way He wants her to live, which implies not being in a relationship with another girl. I told her that she can’t let someone control her life…no matter who it is. That she needs to live the life she wants. She then told me that if she did that then she would miss out on all the great opportunities God has planned out for her. I told her, “Well maybe he has plans for you WITH ME.” She also said, “How can I witness to others when I’m willfully sinning again Him? He took my sins on His shoulders and died for me, and I thank him by not living the way He wants me to live?” (Just fyi, talking about religion and how it interferes with how someone lives or who they want to be with REALLY pisses me off, so at that moment I was steaming.) I just told her, “I’m use to heartbreak and I’ll see you tomorrow.” Right now, we’re just friends, but I still flirt with her. She also told me that, “I no longer harbor feelings for you,” but I kinda felt that she was just saying that so I would get over her. It didn’t work. I don’t care how religious she is, I really like her and I want to be with her. Maybe it’s in my head, but I feel like she still has feelings for me. There’s also something else. She’s at an extremely broken emotional state. I only know bits and pieces of why she’s so torn, but I worry about her. She told me she’s getting therapy and that she wants to continually get help. Whenever I ask her if she’s okay, she always says no but then when I ask her if she wants to talk about it…she says no. So I know somethings up, but she just doesn’t tell me. Look…I just REALLY like this girl and I want her to be happy, but I want her to be happy…with me. Does anyone have any advice on how to go about all this? How can I get her back? If we were to hang out, should I try pulling moves on her? Any advice would be amazing!!! Thank you for taking the time to read this!