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Heres some backround info: i am a lipstick lesbian , 22. This is getting a bit frustrating lol, but it seems to me that girls who are either in denial or not comfortable with their sexuality and are attracted to me, find out that i am a “lesbian”, and then come onto me , they either open up to me and tell me they are a lesbian or bisexual ( when we are a bit tipsy), and some have made moves and kissed me. But then the next day act distant and give me the cold shoulder. One girl opens up every time she is a slight bit drunk ( after 2 beers) and tells me about how she has wanted me since the first time she met me, how i am so beautiful , but then freaks out because she has never been sexually with a girl and how i am so much hotter than her and she wants me to be impressed…. I try reassuring her that she looks great and we made plans to hangout the following night but then the next day gave me the cold shoulder and cancelled the plans and now i am feeling annoyed…another girl Who had a boyfriend, would always tell my gay guy friend to bring me along when we would go out at night and then last summer called me a few times late at night , I didnt pick up so I texted her back and she texted me back at 3 am that she wanted me to come chill at her place. (we all know what that means, like come on 3 am) Now I regret not going over there to chill because she acts kinda cold to me now. However, when drunk she still will act flirty and odd to me and say Lezzbehonest but other times a bit colder to me As well, she LIKED a few of my fb pics one night she came home from the bar at 2:45 AM and im sure she was a bit liquored up . ummm wtf?..It is a completely different INTENSE story with this other girl, who heard i was a lesbian and acted extremely shy and nervous around me, and later in the night opened up told me she is a lesbian and nervously made a kissing move on me and we cuddled and madeout all night.. she walked around all night with her arm around me and we acted like a couple. Holding hands, kissing and making out all night. well after that night she avoided me LIKE THE PLAGUE for a year an a half, she is back in my life now tho and things have been steadily improving so i am thankful for that because i do really care about THIS girl. ( the full story about this girl has been posted on this site before, lol)… But so yea, stil she is confusing, and she keeps her personal life very secretive from her friends and in general, and she will act very flirtily to me when nobody is around. One time she saw me walking on campus with my head down looking at my ipod and apparently decided to run up to me , grab me pick me up and hug me with the Biggest smile on her face….. i was speechless. and we follow eachother on secret websites, but she avoids me, acts defensive, and even has RUN AWAY (lol no joke) sometimes when she is around her friends. However even when ppl arent around she still acts odd around me. Like all nervous and avoidy. she has never had a boyfriend and makes excuses to her friends as to why she isnt interested in a certain guy… and Her friends all think she is a lesbian ( i know a few of them). though ….. and then I talked it over with one of my best gay guy friends and he just says that because i am this super pretty girl and very genuine-hearted, girls who arent comfortable feel they can relate to me and therefore open up but then get scared? Situations like this keep happening tho, a girl who finds out that i really am not straight, then comes onto me and makes all the moves, tells me how much she loves it , etc, and things are great. Or she talks and opens up to me, I let her make all the moves on me. and then it’s like they freakout and act cold to me. What is going on? Why do i keep attracting these girls who clearly have some issue with their sexuality?!?!? Like, is something just wrong with my brain ( or theirs)??? lol i cant understand how people can be so flip-floppy. It makes me worried that I may have to settle for a guy some day and never be truly happy. any help or advice on the 3 stories with these girls and this issue, thanks