Lesbian tendencies but in long marriage with kids (one gay)

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My teen daughter recently came out and is in a loving relationship with some one older. We are fully supportive and love her girlfriend. However, seeing  their relationship has made me start to recognize (and admit to myself) that I have lesbian tendencies too. I have always loved checking other women out, but put it down “but women do that, don’t they?”. I really appreciate a nice body on another woman and have often wondered what it would be like to have a body like that. Now though, my daughter and her girlfriend (her girlfriend mostly) talk to me about lesbian sex and how good it is. I find myself getting excited and have started watching lesbian porn and wondering what it would be like to be with another woman. I also figured out – for the first time – how to please myself although I used to be “grossed out” by this and have been mastrubating during and after watching the lesbian porn.

I have been married for over 20 years, am overweight (but decent looking) and have 3 kids.  The sex is infrequent (my choice) and “boring”. I have not been happy for many years and we are coasting along for the kids.  How do I proceed? I would like to find out if  I really am attracted to other woman (other than just appreciating them). I know discovering who you are later in life is not easy, but better late than never. I too want a chance to be happy. HELP! How do I go about finding out who I really am, or if this is all there is for me (the life I am living now…..)

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