Is she a lesbian? She came out while a bit tipsy, then avoided me?
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We are both 21/22 now, this happened a few years ago. What would be your opinion on if a girl ( or a guy) , got a little tipsy and “came out” to someone else, but then the next day avoided the person. What would be your opinion on if a girl got a lil tipsy or drunk and decided to open up to another girl who is a lipstick lesbian. The girl acted incredibly shy and nervous upon hearing that the other girl is a lesbian. The moment she layed eyes on the lesbian, she stared then looked away really fast and then acted incredibly uncomfortable . Then later in the night, the girl admits she is a lesbian and thinks the lipstick lesbian is Beautiful. Then takes her to the bathroom, talks a little , acts flirty and nervous and then makes a move on the lesbian. They makeout and hold hands and kiss and cuddle all night. etc with the girl making mostly all of the moves ( and the initial move) It was clear the girl was nervous, but was enjoying every second of it. After the initial makeout session, when we pulled back from the kiss the smile on her face was priceless, then we leaned in to kiss again….everything was magical. It literally was like love at first sight. She held the lipstick lesbian the entire night, arm around her, holding hands, everything. …. But then the next day acts cold, and avoids the lipstick lesbian and won’t talk about anything. The girl literally avoided the lipstick lesbian for over a year LIKE THE PLAGUE…. BLOCKING her on facebook, would never answer a text, etc.
The girl is back in my life now tho 
( and unblocked me on facebook) , which i am just happy about because i do care about this girl. Alot of Suggestible things have happened with how she acts towards me, her acting very flirty to me. She’s followed me FIRST on a few websites ( kinda funny since remember she blocked me on facebook after that night…lol). Anyways, for example, one time she saw me walking with my head down on campus looking at my ipod and ran up to me grabbed me with the biggest smile on her face, lifted me up and hugged me… I couldnt believe it!!! Other things have happened as well too much to write….. but, She still sometimes acts all avoidy and shy and awkward around me tho, which then makes me think she hates me!. Anyways, the girl has never had a boyfriend nor wants one. And the girl to her friends tries acting straight somewhat. As well, her friends have told me she usually makes excuses to them as to why she isnt interested in a guy. Do you think the girl is having an issue with accepting herself as lesbian? Alcohol can’t CHANGE a person to somebody they arent. And if the girl was straight or something, i just dont see the need as to why she would avoid me and act all weird around me. Would someone who is straight act this way? Thoughts? What do you think is going thru her mind? Do you think she is aware of her sexuality and just scared, or in Such denial? Why would someone act THIS way? I really need some advice. And she only acts this way towards me… thanks
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A few years ago she kissed you – so what? At 21 or 22 years of age now she is a young woman. If she is a lesbian and not ready to be adult about it – then why waste your energy wondering why she behaves the way she does when around you? Ask her for a date and if she says no then avoid her because she isn’t really interested in you. She doesn’t even behave as though she is a friend to you.
This particular young woman telling someone that she is a lesbian while tipsy does not mean much. I’ve had heterosexual women with boyfriends flirt with me. Some women have sex with women and say they are straight. Heck, some women even have sex with men or marry men and will say they are lesbians. We do not know what other people or thinking or feeling and what they say does not necessarily reveal much about who they really are.
In what way does she try “acting straight somewhat”? Does she flirt with males? If you currently do not have a ladyfriend then just ask the woman for a date to find out what her interest is in you.
Why do you keep posting the same thing over and over again when lots of people have already given you great advice?!
Yes, she’s definitely a lesbian, but in denial and in the closet. All these years, she’s been given you the run around. It’s time to let her go and move onto someone sure of their sexuality. The games she plays is too frustating and exhausting. Let her go. She is too scared to be her true self.