Im forsure into girls, but scared to come out.. multiple reasons… any advice?
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Im in highschool, and I have dated quite a few guys and I get hit on quite a lot (not being cocky, its just how it is) so i’ve always just kind of dated guys because they were always there and that’s how I was taught growing up, that you date and marry boys. But I never really feel anything for them. I know that they are attractive and nice and the qualities are fine, but its never there. I find that im really just dating because im bored i guess. I’ve always been attracted to girls but never really told anyone, mostly because im scared of their reaction. But I do know that I am for sure into girls. I’ve never dated a girl, and I don’t even know how to go about doing it. Also, apart of me feels like if I come out, guys won’t want to date me at all anymore. Which makes me kind of sad for some reason. Im so confused. Does that mean im bi? or have i just been raised to think that way? I just want to figure things out before i come out, because i feel like people will have questions and i want to be able to answer them myself before anyone asks me.
Thanks so much!
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There is never a rush to discover your sexuality. Many take decades to determine and understand their emotions when it comes to love. But in the end… that’s what it is about…. LOVE. (IMHO) Who makes your heart beat like crazy, who makes you nervous and who do you most want to be around. When you find that person and you discover love coming out will all be well worth it. Assuming that person is a woman of course.
Online is a great way to start meeting women. Another good way is to visit your local LGBT center if you have one close. But mostly don’t worry about defining your sexuality. Just let yourself fall in love and when that happens it will all make sense.
“part of me feels like if I come out, guys won’t want to date me at all anymore.”
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha! Ha!
Coming out isn’t a simple decision. But the notion that boys will be put off is one thing you definitely don’t have to worry about. I can tell you haven’t been paying much attention to boys if you haven’t noticed how interested they almost always are in lesbians and bi women. It might often be an obnoxious and unwanted form of interest, but it’s certainly not disinterest.
(Now, some guys might be more nervous about, say, marrying a bi woman, out of fear that she’ll eventually choose a woman over him. But I don’t think people in your high school are figuring out marriage plans.)