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What do I do?

victoriavond — Fri, 24 May 2013 05:56:07 +0000

Right, so I’m 19 and I’m in college. To start this off, I’ve completely fallen in love with one of my college tutors. She’s a lot older than me and she’s obviously a woman as I am. I’m a lesbian. I have been since high school school. I’m not even sure that she is, but she knows that I like her, a lot. In lessons she always sits by me and touches my leg or touches my hips. We make a lot of eye contact and when we do she turns away and smiles to herself. She tells me she’s always there for me if I want to talk because of my anxiety and I have a lot of panic attacks when I’m nervous or under pressure so I have hourly sessions with her in her office once a week, just so we can talk about how I’m feeling etc. We had a moment where it went silent and just stared at each other and could’ve almost kissed but she kinda snapped out of it. I was gutted, but relieved she did because I don’t want her to put her job in jeopardy. Anyway, in a few months I leave college for good and then start to apply for the job I’ve been studying for. I want to tell her how I feel about her before I leave because I feel if I don’t then I’ll regret it because we do have something. How can I do it? and would you think she has the same feelings for me?

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Am I Full Gay or just Bi-sexual?

Renee Cindy — Thu, 23 May 2013 05:45:43 +0000

I’ve always considered myself to be “bi-sexual” ever since I first heard of the term as a child because I had crushes on both sexes as far back as I can remember. My first kiss, first love, first everything was with boys but I think that was because it was much easier to obtain. Because of this I got into a very serious relationship with my first love very young. I loved him very much and we ended up having a relationship which spread across the best part of 7 years. So ofcourse regardless of the fact that I knew I was attracted to women and very open about it, I never really had the opportunity to explore the depth of that. There was one night where something had started between me and a friend of ours, because I just couldnt help myself. But that stopped when I realised that it was wrong because I was with my boyfriend and I loved him very much. Anyway After that relationship ended which had resulted in children also I didnt really give any thought to being in a relationship with a woman because I had become so used to covering it up. So I dated a few men until I met a man I fell inlove with, we got married and had a child together. Now we’re separated and Ive been looking within myself at who I am. Ofcourse being separated can lead to this kind of soul searching. And because Ive never really felt quite right? Im still only young, but Ive lead a very “grown up” and closed up life. Ive never really felt like I was living my life but more of what was expected of me. Especially since having children and having the idea put in my head that it wouldnt be fair for a child to have a gay parent. I dont believe that now but thats the kind of thing I was told and belived when I was younger. Now I just believe its not fair on anyone, parent or child if youre not happy. The reason I have the question as to wether or not I am gay or just bi-sexual is because Ive realised that whilst I was inlove with my first love and husband, I was never sexually attracted to them. I have never been sexually aroused by a man wether in person, pornographically or imagination. Every single time Ive been turned on and/or brought to climax has been because I have been imagining women. Or I have been watching lesbian porn or solo female porn. To me the male body has always been unattractive even discusting. Its like the thought or vision of a man in a sexual way does the complete oppositeof what a woman does for me. And I have always felt this way as far as I can remember, there has never been a single time where I can say different. So what does that mean? Am I completely gay or just bi-sexual? Has anyone ever heard of something like this?

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Help I Have No Gaydar!

keepshootingsidewaysglances — Wed, 22 May 2013 05:37:58 +0000

I’m young, almost 16 and I have come to a relatively large problem. I have fallen in love for my field hockey coach. It all started about a year ago and I have no idea what to do. She’s in her thirties and still lives at home, she’s single and I have no idea what she is. She always talks to me about what movies she likes, music and other things. she always stands really close to me and teases me. I really don’t know what to think. Sometimes I’ll catch her staring at me and there are times where we’ll be facing each other and we’ll lock eyes and stay that way for quite a while. She’ll drive me home sometimes, even though I live 20 minutes in the opposite direction to her house. But as soon as I start to talk about myself, she won’t be paying attention and it drives me nuts, so I’ll just shut up and walk away. But then one time, she put me in net and every time she took a high hit or a powerful one, she’d apologize like crazy. When she took her shots on me, she almost always messed up. She almost never messes up. Then once we had to collect balls, she would get all the ones from net, even though that’s my job and then she’d walk up to me a tap my goalie pads with her stick. She never did ant of this with any of the other girls. So I’m not sure. Is she just trying to cover this up because it’s illegal or is she just not interested and I’m assuming everything. Please help, I really need to know if she’s just another straight girl.

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HELP: Timebomb waiting to happen?

sqmeyeed — Tue, 21 May 2013 05:37:36 +0000

Ok lets start from the beginning……..

Around 5months ago on a drunken night out me and a totally straight team mate (like never even thought of being with a girl) made out. Even though she freaked out at the time she gained curiosity and feelings and over subsequent drunken nights out and things started to heat up. This moved on to more serious seeing each other without the influence of alcohol and away from the team setting. Both her and I developed serious feelings for each other and have now been in a relationship for just over a month.

Here’s the problem; she still freaks out from time to time about being with a girl but is usually comfortable with the whole situation so is still confused to a certain extent. Because we decided to be open with each other she has outwardly said or suggested that she misses men/penis which obviously doesn’t ease my insecurities even though we are incredibly close and she says that she loves being in a relationship with me. Most of the time everything is fine and I’m ridiculously happy but these insecurities remain at the back of my head.

This is the part that I need help with; obviously being a woman myself I can’t satisfy her needs for men/penis.
1) How do I approach the issue that obviously needs to be talked about at more length?
2) Do I attempt to ease these needs with the use of toys during sex?
3) Is it just a time bomb waiting to happen?
4) Should I have even got into a relationship that appears to be so confusing?

This isn’t made any easier by the fact that this is my only serious relationship.

Any help or advice would be extremely useful…….thank you in advance

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Best friend or more?

shauna134 — Mon, 20 May 2013 05:03:55 +0000

right so.. I’m 19 and iv fallen in love with my best friend, she is also 19 but she is straight. she knows I’m a lesbian and she’s cool with it. Iv told her I love her she freaked out at first but now she’s cool but lately I’m starting to doubt her being straight. We went to a gay bar a few weeks ago and every time I was talking to someone my friend would just flirt with me , hold my hand or even kiss me. Then last week I was upset so I ended up staying in her house, we had a few drinks and were lying in bed just talking. Then I told her I loved her but she said it back? Then asked if we were to have a relationship could I keep it a secret? we ended up kissing then hooking up. The next morning we were OK wasn’t weird or anything but now we talk way less than usual. I think she does love me but is afraid! I know I’m only 19 and I’m still young but iv never felt this way about anybody. I think about her constantly id do anything for her. Its just messing my head up and hurting me. I don’t know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

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