I Have No Idea How To Sort This Out

Hey don’t listen to people who tell you are are not gay or bi because you look and act straight. A hell of a lot of gay & bi women look and act totaly the same as straght women (apart from the fact they like the ladies!).

Don’t listen to people who have little or no connections/experience of lesbians. They just assume we are all russian shotputters with short spikey hair, as that might be what they have seen on the TV or the steriotypical view. I can assure you that pleanty of us are just as fem with long hair etc. No one would know that I was gay unless I told them and I can say that is also true of my girlfriend. Sexuality has nothing to do with your behavior or general appearence. If you like girls that means you are not straight and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Go with what you feel in the heart.

A lot of people ask that same question around here: Am I a lesbian? I always tell them the same thing. It doesn’t really matter so don’t stress over figuring it out. Date whoever you want to whenever you want to. Try not to let other people’s expectations and ideas of you affect you too much. These things tend to sort themselves out if you just go with whatever feels natural. Labels can be so limiting sometimes.

If you decide right now that you’re a lesbian and come out to everyone, but then meet a boy you want to date, everyone will be demanding explanations from you. I don’t see the point of going through that trouble right now. On the other hand, if you want to be out and proud, that’s great too. You’ll find out who is a real friend that way.

The point is, try to do whatever makes you the most comfortable. Don’t dress or act a certain way because people expect it of you. Lesbians come in all styles. Don’t force yourself into a label if you’re still unsure.

Live your life, love who love (be it boys or be it girls) have many different experiences and don’t worry about labels.

Im 14 and am going to be a freshmen just like you. And im having the same problems…. If you ever figure it out please tell me. I’m confused and scared and well… its kind of nice to know im not a freak of nature and that their is another person like me out there. Sorry if that sounds mean. (fcarpenter123@msn.com)

Sincerely, some one scared

hey,
i went throught the same thing. starting high school is hard enough without the thought of being a lesbian and how you will make friends if everybody knows. i came out at 14 and it was one of the hardest things i have had to go through. my advice is to stick with the not labeling yourself just yet. meet new people and make friends, date or just look and keep you mind open. its not a bad thing to be gay.

as for the you not looking like a lesbian, there is no lesbian look. if you are a lesbian just be yourself, act and dress like you.

It’s ok girl, be who you are the way you want to be, don’t give a crap with what people say, they don’t know you and understand where you’re coming from and what your feelings are. don’t let people judge you hun, you need no time of that. I don’t care, I’ll tell people I’m Lesbian if they bring that kind of stuff up, Let them know (anyone, especailly guys) to back off, Hate men. I’m dating for one reaosn lol a women duh.
See, I tell myself a lot that I am a lesbian but I won’t just pour it out to a lot of people until I truly know who I am. Do that, figure yourself out til you know your ‘Label’ for sure, then tell the world. It’ll take time, but it’s worth it in the end (hopefully).
Stand high and accept yourself, you’ve got your whole life ahead of you! (just like me!) Cheers hun.

Loves, Ro (I love commenting and giving advice to people, ha. Top Girl Here.=]yay?)