How Can I Help My Girlfriend To Do PDA?
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost 7 months (and we plan on keep going), we’re both 14 and hold a long distance relationship, which is very difficult to maintain, let alone what her parents say and think of us being together, although they approve of us being together (or so they say). Okay, my girlfriend and I are still on the hiding side with our relationship which is okay for now, but I’m ready to show and tell the world about us, because I really don’t care who sees us together. I don’t care what anyone says about us or thinks of us. So I want to show the world that we’re lovers and are truly in love.
We’ve never been in any lesbian relationships until now, this is our first and we want it to be our last. She’s been in about 4 to 5 straight relationships before and was able to do things with men in public without being too scared or worried, I’ve only been in 2, which is sad, and they really weren’t real relationships. I’ve never done PDA with any of my boyfriends, because there was nothing to display (sorry, but true), it wasn’t real love. it confuses me because I’m ready to do PDA with her even though we’re both girls and she isn’t ready, even though she has before, with men, but she says that our relationship is “new” and “different” (hurt her to say that because it’s really not) and that she’s always been a little afraid to do PDA with all her past relationships. I totally understand where she’s at and I can wait for her to be ready and I tried to make her feel more comfortable to do PDA but I end up looking like an idiot while she does absolutely nothing, she doesn’t even engage into what I do, like holding her, hugging her and touching her a lot in public. I try, but I never seem to help her.
Now she’s upset and mad at herself because she doesn’t completely understand why she can’t do PDA and make me happy, I feel like I’m pushing her to do something she’s not ready for but she wants to be ready. She tells me that she wants to do PDA but humiliation and embarrassed and rumours of people are what are stopping her. I don’t know what I can do to help except wait and try to do the moves first, she says she’s going to start doing PDA first and want to reach her goal of kissing me, but she needs to get done with holding my hand at least.
How can I help her overcome her fear of people and do PDA without pushing her to do it?
I have more problems within our relationship (not about each other), but this is just one of them that bothers me and I want to help improve our relationship. Please help me.
Loves, Ro
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give her time!!! yeahh it sucks dat she doesnt want to do all da things dat u would want to do but she’s not ready my gurlfriend was sa exact same wayy..but i just gaved her time and finally she decided to all dat..so yeahh..just give her time little by little she’ll want to do all dat without being embarrassed. i knoww it suckks but its worth da wait
you know what i think is interesting? you are both 14 but have already been in several relationships. wow!! maybe i’m just old but it seems like a lot. Does your gfriend know that she is gay?? give her time. don’t push it the day will come when she will give you what you want.
true true. actually i saw her today (finally) and she did alot better cuz she’s pushing herself to do it for Us and me, plus it’ll makes us much more happier and able to do more. she’s in the ‘holding hands in public’ right now, stage one! yay! she’s doing awesome, she’s not gonna give up.
And with the gay thing, I think she does think she is gay but I can’t be sure of that because I don’t even know if I am (lol, sad). We consider ourselves gay because we hate men and we’re always pressured by them and dating them never ‘felt right’ i guess, she’s also had experiences with girls (been kissed by one) and had a crush on me when we we’re just friends but tried to deny her feelings the whole time (i just learned this recently cuz she just realized she did have feelings for me then). lol we discuss everything, I know alot=] thanks for the comments.
Loves, Ro