What’s My Problem?
I think I have a problem. I’m attracted to one woman one day then another the next. But the thing is that I don’t stop going from one to the other until I get them in bed, which lately it’s very often. I tell the girl the world just to get her to sleep with me, then she thinks we are dating then I leave her for the next “victim”. I lie to them all unconsciously at the time but later realize it. I will tell a girl anything and everything she wants to hear to get her to “fall” for me. I feel like one of those jerk guys who always does this to the girls like in the movies.
I haven’t always done this, but I think I do it because I’m afraid to fall for anyone. I fell in love once and got my heart broken and since then I have been like this. I have feelings for this one woman but it’s something impossible, but if I could have her she’s the only one I would want to be with and everyone else to me isn’t good enough, just good enough to sleep with. The reason I say she’s impossible is because she’s straight and married with kids. If someone could give me advice as to whether or not this is healthy not or what I should do.
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I won’t call your case typical, but it isn’t uncommon. The heart heals itself from being broken in a variety of ways and I think this just happens to be the way you’re coping. You still crave the same satisfaction you got from the one girl (not just in bed, but all those feel-good feelings you get from a relationship), but are now getting it from a variety of sources with much fewer strings. You thrive on the chase: meeting a cute girl, getting her number, making out, getting her in bed. It’s become clockwork, a science.
From my experience, your recent actions are a phase and you’ll eventually meet a girl who you consider “good enough.” How long does this phase last? It depends on the person. It could take months, could take over a year. I’d suggest you start looking in better places to meet girls. Are you finding all your prospects in bars/clubs? Make yourself slow it down. Go get coffee or lunch and avoid the bedroom.
As for the married woman, well, she’s straight. She has a family. Maybe you feel you could fall for her because your mind knows it’s irrational. I’d suggest you forget about a relationship with her and try and focus on finding someone you truly like who will like you just as much.
Good Luck
I completely agree with the person above…perfect advise…forget about the straight women and move on…you will find someone who is worthy al…just give it time and try not t sleep with to many women .::for your own health LOL
“I think I have a problem. I’m attracted to one woman one day then another the next. But the thing is that I don’t stop going from one to the other until I get them in bed, which lately it’s very often.” I…’m not seeing the problem
evolution is right lol. Don’t sleep with as many women for you own health. But you also don’t want to be seen as a jerk like you said. Because fooling around with a girl’s heart is not the best way to go… You’ll find the right girl, just tell her all those nice things to her and mean it. Then when you know she’s the one then you can have all the fun you want, LOL.