Does Age Really Matter?

Break it off. You’re a junior in high, and she’s an adult, nearly twice your age. She should know better. Not only that, and I don’t mean to offend you I’m sure you are very mature for your age, but what is a 30 year old doing with a teenager? It would indicate to me that she isn’t very mature. You will better understand what I’m saying here today when you get into our late 20’s. Aside from being far too young to be thinking about a lifetime committed relationship, you both should be dating people in your own age range. For you it should be people in high school, for her + or - 5 years from her age.

You should be focusing on school, meeting new people, exposing yourself to new ideas, and having lots of experiences. Date people, and learn from those relationships. One day you’ll find the one person who really does it for you.

defintely agree with Zoe. im sure youre a very mature girl for your age but the arguements you are having now, may be a cause of the difference of opinion because of your difference of age. and if its not… it could be a problem later on. wish you the best.

I’m about your age, and I understand how this would be an interesting thing to do, but the fact of the matter is, she lives 2 hours away, you are having problems and fights all the time, and she is 30!!! she COULD be your mother. honestly. break it off, not only because of the age difference, but because of the fighting, and that she lives 2 hours away. You described the relationship as “okay”, you deserve more than that, find someone you really click with!

ditto what everyone up there says. I am over 30 and I would advise any friend of mine dating someone as young as you to avoid it. It is highly unlikely your life goals are going to compatible, let alone possible worse issues. She may think of herself as young, but she’s not THAT young.

Well I do have to agree with the others. My main concern is that you are still in high school. To many of us, still a baby. There’s too much to do in life and MANY experiences you will have by the time you reach 30. As far as the age, if you were older and in a different place in life I may have to debate that part of the situation. I have been in a relationship with someone 20 years older but it has worked for us..and I was out of college when we got together. Live life and do all you can now. You’ll never get those years back!

I have a similar situation to yours..
I am 18, senior high, and my girlfriend is 28, and i’m proud to know that there’s no way she can be my mom hahahhaa.. We have been together 4 months now, we have met each other in Feb when she came from Taiwan(Yeah, she lives in Taiwan, I live in NY).
Many people have told me it’s crazy to do this because she leaves across the globe! But when we met, i finally felt i found something that all the girls i have dated never had and never gave me. But, other people’s comments i don’t listen, i know how my girlfriend is, my friends don’t, my parents don’t, and i know what’s best for me.
But you know… You need to do what makes you happy. You already said that is unlikely for you to have children, if that’s the way you feel then quit it.
Only you know what you need to do.
Whatever you feel is what is good now.

Whats the attraction to a older woman

Listen,I have been in you position.My girlfriend was 27 and i was 15.Trust e you need to focis on your school and life right now.You are just starting out and yes it is nice to have a relationship but you have to think she is risking herself and you.She could go to jail if your parents knew and is she does,do you want to be that girl on the news saying you had a relationship with someone twice your age.My mom found out about my girlfriend and she almost did go to jail.I dont think you would want to do that to her.i know you love her but you have to out your self first and spare her of the stuff she faces.Trying to help.

-ash