Does she even like girls?
Hello, my name is Emily, I am 13, and I am starting the 8th grade at the end of August. This year I have discovered that I have feelings for girls. I have really liked this girl for a few months, but I’ve only had one very short conversation with her. I only had her in one class, band, can’t talk there!
Anyway during our only conversation I kind of got nervous and kind of left… I don’t have her phone number and I don’t think she has any account to chat on the computer. I don’t even know if she likes girls! She is very shy, beautiful, and smart. Any advice on seeing if she’s interested? Any signs I should look for? Any signs I should send?
Thanks a billion!
Em,
P.S: I’m not out so it’s not like she knows that I would even be interested… My mom and my best friend are the only ones who know… My mom doesn’t want me telling anyone else until I’m sure that I like girls…
Please Sort These Signals For Me
I met Jane through a mutual friend. We’re both gay so at least that part’s easy. The meeting was brief and uneventful, but I told the friend I was interested so she set up a double date with me and Jane and her and her boyfriend. The date went alright. Jane and our friend are good friends who haven’t talked much lately so they had a lot of catching up to do which sort of left me out of the conversation. Plus I was really nervous and am pretty shy to begin with. Jane told our friend that she had a great time, but I was too quiet. I would agree, but Jane and the friend are big talkers so it was hard for me.
Anyway, that was three weeks ago and Jane and I have been playing phone tag since. I know that she’s really busy with school and work which is the reason she keeps giving for why we’ve been missing each other. The friend confirms this and even mentioned beforehand so I know it’s not just an excuse. But three weeks is a long time. She returns my calls or texts but doesn’t initiate any. I’ve tried to set up a date but no luck. She said she would love to but she couldn’t because she was busy (she was more specific than that). I told her that it’s okay, and I would keep trying. Her text response: ‘Yeah lol my life is going to be hell for the next two months.’ She graduates from school in two months.
So what does this mean? Is she interested but just genuinely busy? Or is she trying to blow me off in the least confrontational way possible? Should I keep trying to set up something every so often or should I just wait until she’s done with school? The mutual friend hasn’t talked to her and doesn’t want to get in the middle so she’s not much help.
I know it was just one date, but I usually don’t like people I don’t know. I have to be friends with someone first before there’s an attraction. But since I already feel it with her, I’m really interested in pursuing it so I don’t want to just let it go if I have a shot. What do you ladies think?
Hello, my name is Emily, I am 13, and I am starting the 8th grade at the end of August. This year I have discovered that I have feelings for girls. I have really liked this girl for a few months, but I’ve only had one very short conversation with her. I only had her in one class, band, can’t talk there!
Anyway during our only conversation I kind of got nervous and kind of left… I don’t have her phone number and I don’t think she has any account to chat on the computer. I don’t even know if she likes girls! She is very shy, beautiful, and smart. Any advice on seeing if she’s interested? Any signs I should look for? Any signs I should send?
Thanks a billion!
Em,
P.S: I’m not out so it’s not like she knows that I would even be interested… My mom and my best friend are the only ones who know… My mom doesn’t want me telling anyone else until I’m sure that I like girls…
I met Jane through a mutual friend. We’re both gay so at least that part’s easy. The meeting was brief and uneventful, but I told the friend I was interested so she set up a double date with me and Jane and her and her boyfriend. The date went alright. Jane and our friend are good friends who haven’t talked much lately so they had a lot of catching up to do which sort of left me out of the conversation. Plus I was really nervous and am pretty shy to begin with. Jane told our friend that she had a great time, but I was too quiet. I would agree, but Jane and the friend are big talkers so it was hard for me.
Anyway, that was three weeks ago and Jane and I have been playing phone tag since. I know that she’s really busy with school and work which is the reason she keeps giving for why we’ve been missing each other. The friend confirms this and even mentioned beforehand so I know it’s not just an excuse. But three weeks is a long time. She returns my calls or texts but doesn’t initiate any. I’ve tried to set up a date but no luck. She said she would love to but she couldn’t because she was busy (she was more specific than that). I told her that it’s okay, and I would keep trying. Her text response: ‘Yeah lol my life is going to be hell for the next two months.’ She graduates from school in two months.
So what does this mean? Is she interested but just genuinely busy? Or is she trying to blow me off in the least confrontational way possible? Should I keep trying to set up something every so often or should I just wait until she’s done with school? The mutual friend hasn’t talked to her and doesn’t want to get in the middle so she’s not much help.
I know it was just one date, but I usually don’t like people I don’t know. I have to be friends with someone first before there’s an attraction. But since I already feel it with her, I’m really interested in pursuing it so I don’t want to just let it go if I have a shot. What do you ladies think?
